Minimalist Homeschooling

What's the most effective way to teach my child to adjust their tones?

Recognizing patterns is what our brains do best. Finding and practicing Patterns-of-Tonalities is the best way to teach by experience. Use the Mirroring game to achieve this. Before you play the game, tell your child one reason why it's worthwhile to learn Patterns-of-Tonalities. Studies showing the benefits, building a rapport through commonalities or emotional contagion are factors that can trigger your child, depending on the trigger.

The ability to notice patterns of tonalities must be of value to us, so why should we care? In part, this is because mirroring tonalities creates rapport:

By adapting your tone, volume, pace, and rhythm for each context and person, you subconsciously build trust. According to theory, people prefer to be with people who are like them or whom they ́d like to be like. And dislike those who are different.

If you mention that this is not good for an argument, you prove your point: You prefer people who prefer an argument over people with different beliefs.

Observing others in a public space is an excellent way to see this phenomenon in action. As they become more in tune with their talking partner, they will become more alike. Their movements will mimic one another. They hold their arms the same way, or when one leans forward, the other mirrors it. We use the language they use. Perhaps you adjust your voice tone.

Imagine a fast talker meeting a slow talker. Both would be frustrated, one because the pace is too slow, the other because it is too fast.

Then, how does mirroring work with patterns of tonality?

Let's challenge our kids to recognize patterns in volume, tempo, and tone. Up until the point where the other person does not know it, they will just feel more connected to them.

Read, discuss and offer suggestions in each of these three areas (volume, tone or tempo). Make a drawing of the pattern.

For instance. Speed. I will speak really fast (draw dots on the paper) and then really slowly. I will exaggerate at first, then move to small patterns.

Volume: Normal, then whisper, then normal, then loud.

Talk angry, happy, grateful, ask a question, give a command. Determine the tone for each. We'll cover several patterns next week. Today, start observing and drawing out the patterns.

The Influential Parentpreneur Podcast is to those among us who can't turn off, and don ́t know why anybody would want to.

To those who are wondering, not just how to Impact oneself to feel alive, moving forward, but wonder how to Impact our children, family, and team to thrive, move forward and get results.

To those who don ́t just scale their business but have an extraordinary family.

For years I had the feeling I was not contributing in the extent I could. I was misunderstood, fought, lost relationships to it, and paid money for misunderstandings. Boil it down: my biggest hindrance: The skill of Influence. I learned the hard way: going through over a decade of building multiple businesses:

From building up a sought after one-woman company, giving it up, to taking a broken-down Horse facility and revamping it 525% year growth with a team of 5 and then changing Industries.

To assist in scaling a software company from 4 to 35 employees in one year.

I spent years with the question: How can I grow into my best potential?

But when I saw old patterns of my behavior in my child, that hurt me in my life, that I knew she looked off of me. I realized just how much we impact the people around us. Consciously or unconsciously.

Yes, I had to know the structures and habits that I could feel alive, perform at my highest.

But looking into my daughter’s eye, I knew it is not just about me. Seeing how miscommunication hurt people we love, our relationships, it hurt family., how miscommunication costs so much time and money in the business o and especially how it derives you from so much energy.

I had to become obsessed on HOW I influence not just myself but others, to thrive not just for my own sake, but people that are close to me. So let ́s continuously learn from brilliant entrepreneurs how to not only put processes, systems in place to communicate while growing, but learning distinctions on how to influence the thoughts, feelings, emotions, and behaviors of those around us. Because we want them to thrive, so we can thrive together - in live, and as a business. The biggest area where conflicts arise is human communication, lets change that.

And if you are thinking: “We are all unique.” We have gotten pretty good in sales, in how we build apps that get us addicted, in science, in leadership training, just how well we can Influence other people around us. So why don't we learn how to use these principles to assist people to thrive around us? Remembering, we influence others anyhow. What you might find, is using these strategies will transform you into becoming a such an extraordinary leader, that they can't ignore you.

The question is Who are you willing to become and what price are you willing to pay to get there?!

Because at the end, it is who we become and how we contributed to other people that matters. See you in the next episodes, apply with me the insights from brilliant and highly successful parentpreneurs to grow your business because you and others are thriving. I’m looking forward to watching you grow your business and make the contribution to the world that you’ve always dreamed of.

Strategy: Being able to Chunk Goals and Targets to perfected sizes

• how do () size their goals so they feel in control?

Here are signs that your Strategy needs improvements:

• Unclear “10 new clients” -> You feel as if you don't have that control
• Goals require too big of a step “how do you make that happen?”
• No clear priorities → A lot of projects on the boil
• You can never tell someone what you are actually doing today
• You agonize over how to get started daily. → Are you optimistic for the week ahead, and flounder?

That leads to

• Stuck in overwhelm

Leading to

• bright shiny object syndrome. “everything is missing, search for a miracle - chasing distractions” instead of working on what your results for the week are.

Then what happens is

• You become unrealistic "This has to happen by x." Where you feel the pressure and emotions drowning you, instead of thinking logically.
• Then the stress becomes severe. We get impulsive, we are chasing too many things, emotionally not handling the pressure, so one mistake can crash us down.

Then we will feel one of two emotions:

• Overwhelm turns to anger / we are irritable/ taking it out on others, we have eruptions, we go berserk for small errands. Because it can feel as if we are drowning in conflicting priorities, so if people ask for one more thing we explode.
• Or the overwhelm turns into depression. We turn inward, feeling sadness and hopelessness, doubting our ability, or premise what we are doing, the niche, the whole idea, we have full-blown negative self-talk.

So for this week: Reflect on if you have the right strategy on measuring your outcome, results. If not, we will discuss several strategies on how to do that in the coming days. IMPORTANT: If you are not where you want to be: Change the strategy. That's it.

--> Once you make a specific plan your unconscious will be modified.

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