Mindfulness Mode

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• My Mother.

• Mindfulness has made it possible for me to respond instead of react.
• Instead of carrying anger all the time so that when something is said that's harmful and hurtful, I am ready to retaliate with the same type of expression, I now realize that love is the answer.
• So for everything that happens, it's like, go inside and find what would love do.
• What would love say? What would love think? How would love behave? That's how mindfulness and slowing down is really blessed and helped me.

• Breathing, for me, represents the source of life.
• When breath ends, we've transitioned to a new place, and so I treasure breath like I treasure love. There is such gratitude and acceptance and, I can't say enough, for the breath.
• With each breath, I am given an opportunity, a possibility to be my best self, to think my best thoughts, to say the best words. That's the importance of breathing for me.
• Without breath, I am not. With breath, I am.

• Book: Unclutter Your Mind: 500 Ways to Focus on What's Important by Donna Smallin
• Book: Discover Your Inner Strength by Jim Bandrowski, Stephen Covey, Ken Blanchard, Brian Tracy, Rubye Braye, and others
• App: Sonic Aid CDs

• When I integrated Cloverdale, [a middle school in Montgomery, Alabama] I was bullied in ways that were just horrific.
• It is not enough to be told. I won't use the terms and the phrases. I don't want to put them in the universe again.
• Things that were believed about black people, things the children and their parents said to black people and things that were done to black people.
• My mother, embracing nonviolence, simply said, "If you get in a fight and come home and I am made aware, you will have another fight with me." She was so committed to nonviolence, but that didn't mean that I had to be passive, that I couldn't stand up and confront evil, but that I was not to retaliate with violence.
• And so I found myself whispering prayers, both for me and those that I interacted with, the other children and their parents, the teachers at the school, and the administrators at the school, "Help us all. Help us all."
• I can remember sitting in church listening to Dr King addressing the importance of nonviolence and not retaliating with violence. That would be like putting gasoline on a fire. You don't fight fire with fire.
• And it was just a gift. And even now as an adult, there are times when I just project love and light out into the universe, knowing that, like the symbol for the ying and the yang, there will always be light, there will always be darkness. The brightest light helps to balance the darkest darkness.
• It's like, let me carry this bright light. And in so doing, I don't do it just for me, but to help model the way for others.

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Ben Feder is CEO of a large gaming enterprise called Tencent Games and formerly was CEO of Take Two Interactive, the publisher of Grand Theft Auto and Red Dead Redemption. In an effort to revitalize his sense of purpose and rebuild family relationships, he dropped everything and left his fast-paced Manhatten life-style to an exotic island for a year of growth, including a new level of mindfulness, meditation, and artistic expression.

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• Eric Langshur, author of 'Start Here'

• They skew much more positively than they used to and are much more optimistic.

• Breathing is the center of my mindfulness practice. My mindfulness practice amounts to three things. It's yoga, meditation, and art. In terms of yoga and meditation, [breathing] is integral to the practice, and in terms of art, probably not so much, but I wonder what would happen to my art if I actually incorporated [breathing].

• Book: Take Off Your Shoes: One Man's Journey from the Boardroom to Bali and Back By Ben Feder
• Book: Mindfulness In Plain English by Bhante Henepola Gunaratana
• Book: Joyful Wisdom by Rinpoche Youngey Mingyur
• App: 10% Happier, Mindfulness Studio, Headspace

• My daughter was bullied in school and really suffered terribly. She would come home and either cry or fight with her brothers and we wouldn't know what it was about until towards the end of the evening, when you'd kind of find out what happened in school.
• It oftentimes wasn't anything specific. It was an eye roll from some girl and you know, all of a sudden she became devastated.
• By taking her out of that environment and putting her into an environment where she absolutely flourished, we noticed that she could have a positive experience, so that school was obviously the wrong place for her.
• A few years later, as she's a young adult now, or a teenager. She's just this utterly different human being. It just looks so amazing to watch. I'm sure some of that may have happened anyway, but taking her out of that toxic environment in and of itself was probably a mindful approach.
• So, I don't think you need to like, get up and go to Bali and have that experience, but taking her out of a toxic environment, provided you can put her in an environment that's not toxic, A, is beneficial, and B, it shows her that her parents are paying attention and are concerned and caring and doing the best thing for her.

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Andy Hobson combines mindfulness and music to make mindfulness accessible to all. He’s been meditating for over 17 years and has been teaching mindfulness to groups and individuals for 9 years. Before becoming a mindfulness teacher, Andy worked as a professional drummer and has toured the world playing in a number of successful bands. It was during this time that he began to study Buddhism and explored a more spiritual path. Andy now brings his two main passions, mindfulness teaching and music, together with his guided meditations.

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• Jon Kabat Zinn www.mindfullivingprograms.com

• [Mindfulness has helped me be] less up and down. More level. More like this rather than like that. (Andy motions with his hands to show more even and consistent rather than more rolling and up and down).

• Breathing is a huge part of my mindfulness practice. It's everything. It's what I turn to during the day. It's something I use a lot during my meditation, but it is my kind of home place to go to if I'm having a difficult conversation with someone or anything. I get my breath while I'm still listening to them. I'm going to pause my breathing.

• Book: Mindfulness Meditations in Everyday Life and Exercises and Meditations by Jon Kabat-Zinn
• App: Insight Timer www.InsightTimer.com

• Yeah, I was bullied, definitely, a lot. I think a lot of kids are. It wasn't really for a long time or anything really bad, but it was enough. I still remember it, you know, I was in secondary school and I was a small kid and you know, I wasn't great at sports and things like that and it was just a little group of lads who used to pick on me.
• Nothing huge, but, when I think back at it, it had an impact. But there was nothing really around at that time. There was no one you could talk to, so you'd kind of swallow it and then deal with it later on.
• Later, I did a lot of temp jobs and when you're a temp, you're at the bottom of the ladder, and people can be bitter because they kind of know you're moving onto something else probably.
• I think at that time I was more of aware of it and I used to name stuff and it usually used to clear it up, and I'd say, oh, you're really annoyed today, or something like that. I'd just pick up on it and run with it. I'd let them know that this was not okay. Sometimes I'd say, hey, talk to me about that. That kind of worked and it definitely works with children as well actually.

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Kasey and Brad Wallis are authors, international speakers, and workshop leaders, with an expertise in releasing limitations, lack and need. They have been featured guests on over 400 media outlets such as CNN, Fox News, NBC, and ABC, as well as mainstream radio, podcasts and telesummits. Brad and Kasey’s passion is to help people transform themselves and their lives. Their expertise allows others to know the highest version of themselves. They offer workshops and training experiences on their beautiful property in Utah.

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• Workshops: R-Factoring - break through old patterns of thought and perceptions.

• Kasey: My father and my brother.
• Brad: Ghandi

• Brad: Mindfulness has certainly made me more aware of my emotions. I was very much afraid not to show emotion. In fact, I was raised to not be an emotional person. And since becoming who I am today, I have no problem whatsoever showing my emotion about anything.
• Kasey: [Mindfulness and emotion] go right in alignment. Once you become aware of one thing, you automatically become aware of everything else and the mind and the emotion click engage together to create everything for you. But learning that you can choose, that helped me honor my emotions, helped me want my emotions, helped me to love my emotions and to help me dig those emotions out of everybody that I come in contact with because that's where intimacy lies.

• Brad: I'll say I breathe more today than I ever have in my life. I do understand the power of closing my eyes and taking a few breaths. I get that now. Yeah, it's very powerful.
• Kasey: Breath is the physical action of alignment and quiet and calm and it was meant for physical embodiments to keep us in that state continually as an automated system just like blinking. And yet we've completely lost our acknowledgment and appreciation for it. So like anything else in life as we go back to everything that we appreciate and we love, we become masters of.

• Book: Far-Reaching Parameters: Why We Build Perimeters Inside by Brad Wallis
• App: On YouTube Look up "Expand With Julius"

• As you know, the bullier is also a victim. They are on the other side of the victimhood ball by being the implementer of victimhood upon someone who chooses to be a victim.
• They will eventually figure out that bullying is not bringing them joy either, but we understand what you're saying as far as, as the person being bullied. We actually have experience with this because of my son.
• We live in southern Utah. And so without having to say blatantly to everybody, I'm sure you can probably figure out what the dominant religion in Utah is. It's extraordinarily judgmental and extraordinarily controlling and their behaviors are very much dictated to them.
• I brought my children to southern Utah when they were very young and my son is gay and not Mormon. And he doesn't hunt or fish or kill things to be manly. And he was a bullying magnet as a child. [We tried] to keep him out of the way of some of these horrible, horrible kids.
• We also taught him empowerment of, not taking the role on in the sense that, your reaction to an action continues to conflict in the action. Okay. To stand up and say, no, I'm not gonna be in conflict with you.
• Now some people will say, yeah, that's all fine and dandy, but he's gonna get his ass kicked a few times. We say, yeah, a little bit, but he got better. He got better at not crawling around almost looking for the kid to kick him. Now, of course, working resourcefully with the kid that was bullying as well.
• We're not going to just stand back and allow that process to take place, of course. Because it is a two-way street. It's a massive street, a speedway of parents and kids and society and instructors, you know, those people that are in charge. They don't get it. So having conversations with principals and parents and the kids in the room and talking about love and compassion and tolerance and victim hood; that seemed to help.
• It really did seem to help to understand that the bully is a victim also, and part of that is him or her desperately seeking acknowledgment, desperately seeking some form of empowerment and to help teach them that there are other ways to get your empowerment than trying to take it from somebody else.
• So we worked that way with my son and all of his friends because he was in theater. So growing up then into high school at a performing arts high school, there...

Mellissa Seaman is a Stanford educated lawyer turned intuitive business Strategist. She's the creator of Soul Gift Quiz which has helped thousands of people worldwide discover their deepest gift; to align with life fulfillment and business success. Fortune 100 executives hire her to help them become channels of genius to create products in the world in collaboration with the highest power to make sure they create things that matter.

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• My daughter Clarice

• Mindfulness makes my emotions possible to live with. My emotions are big. I'm an emotional type. My emotions hold a lot of charge and a lot of intelligence.
• Without mindfulness, my emotions feel like a crazy dragon ready to consume me. And with mindfulness I can ride that dragon and I can be the steward of that dragon and allow that dragon to take me where I need to go.

• Breathing is just the first touchstone. It's everything, you know, the breath is everything.
• I've done a lot of breath work, especially when I was living at Harbin Hot Springs and helping to lead breath work events there. I became so much more aware of my breath and even now, as you mentioned my breath, I can feel like my breath is a little bit high because I'm eager, you know.
• So it reminds me to just sort of let my belly soften and let my whole body soften and arrive even more, even in the midst of my eagerness to be with you.

• Book: The Presence Process: A Healing Journey Into Present Moment Awareness by Michael Brown
• App: Insight Timer
• App: Relax Melodies

• What comes to mind for me is that I do work with a lot of parents of very intuitive kids and I call them dragon kids because sometimes these kids have so much energy in their bodies that they might get labeled as having some condition, whether it's ADHD or autism.
• I'm not a doctor so I can't say what those things are and who's what and blah, blah blah. But I do notice that there are a movement of kids now who have so much much energy in their little tiny bodies, you know, like there's so such big spirits.
• And when I work with the parents of those kids and occasionally with the kids directly, which is super fun too, a lot of what we do is to help those kids become more mindful. And we want them to have resources to become centered and to relax into their own invisible team.
• A lot of those kids are actually very aware that they have guardian angels or imaginary friends or some force that they can listen to you when they're quiet in here.
• Getting them back in touch with that, in my mind, is what can also help them in instances where they're being bullied for being big or for being out of control or whatever.
• That invisible team is right there for them and they have a different reference point than just these kids were holding themselves as the authorities on the playground, which of course they're not.
• They're just more kids looking for their own power, looking to hold power in a way that can feel safe to them. And so mindfulness, in addition to the intuitive gifts, acknowledging and welcoming intuitive gifts, I feel like be a huge benefit to especially the sensitive empathic supercharged dragon kids.