Marriage and Martinis

If you could go back in time and give your younger self advice, what would you say? Danielle and Adam explore this and how turning 40 and being married for 15 years has affected them.

Movie clips: This Is 40

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Recently, Danielle heard something on Tik Tok that really struck her: "are we all just spending the second half of our lives recovering from the first half?" This got her thinking about all the things we're taught for so long while growing up, only to figure out that all of those messages and concepts are all just a bunch of BS. Are we all too "gaslit" to even know what we, as individuals, even want in life? How can we separate our own goals and desires with those we've been TOLD we should want? In this interestingly nostalgic-yet-eye-opening episode, Adam and Danielle discuss:

• why weren't they taught more preparedness strategies for life in school, rather than subject matter that has proven to be almost totally obsolete
• why Danielle is no longer looking back on elementary school through rose-colored glasses, and how she thinks the whole experience affected her self-esteem
• who the "cool kids" were in school, as opposed to who should have been deemed "cool"
• what messages were Adam fed about what being a boy means?
• what messages was Danielle fed about what being a girl means?
• what did they both get wrong about body image, and what do they now realize?
• in what ways have movies and TV shows helped in disseminating so many false messages
• is chivalry still allowed?

and so much more!

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Danielle and Adam have been very honest about the ups and downs of finances in their marriage. But from where does it all originate? The two go deep into their childhoods, uncovering imbalances between perception and reality concerning the money situation while they were each growing up. How has it impacted them as individuals and as a couple? When did it all go wrong? How has society set them up to fail? Any couple who has ever encountered hardships about money will not want to miss this episode.

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Episode 25: Keeping Up With The Joneses

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Now, more than ever, our communication skills are critical to helping the people around us who need to be heard and understood. We may not be able to be there physically for one another, but we can still be a huge source of comfort, support, and consistency for those in our life who rely on us. Our kids are used to having several adult influences throughout the day, and now they are basically reliant on us for all their learning and communication needs. Our partners usually leave and have other connections and shoulders on which to lean. We are taking on a new huge role with them, as well (and they are with us). In this episode, "deep listening" expert Oscar Trimboli discusses several useful, simple strategies we can all use on a daily basis to become more effective listeners, and show up for our people in ways we may not have been before. Only about 2% of the population is skilled in listening, and the rest of us think we know what it means to be active listeners, but really, we have very little understanding about its true meaning. Oscar's goal is to turn 100 million people into better listeners. Danielle and Adam were so excited that he agreed to help them and their audience become some of those people. Some topics in this episode include:

How Oscar became so obsessed with listening, and why he thinks it's the key to success in business, at home, and in society.

What are some ways we can better listen to young children?

What are some ways we can work on keeping calm and not jumping in when having a discussion with our spouse?

What is the 125/400 rule and why is it so crucial?

What are the different levels of deep listening?

How do we show up for the people in our lives who are struggling and truly need someone to be there for them as a listening ear?

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