Loving Against My Instincts
Yuval Ackerman
Life is too short to have bad dates. And let's face it, dating in the modern world can be pretty terrible - but it doesn't have to be. Join me to learn more about how to date consciously, have fun, and develop better relationships.
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15. "I haven't dated since the pandemic" - with Jane Kisnica
Loving Against My Instincts
10/14/22 • 56 min
TW: abuse, depression, toxic relationships
“I don't need a relationship in order to feel loved” - I read this sentence, concluding Jane Kisnica’s Linkedin post a couple of weeks back, and by that point, I just knew that we had to record an episode together.
What Jane has been experiencing in the past couple of years has already become a phenomenon - people of all sexes and genders really used sitting at home to improve their lives - their relationships and dating in particular.
Some of them decided to write, podcast, and talk about it wherever they are. Others have decided to pull on the breaks, stop dating actively, and focus on self-growth.
In this episode, we’re discussing:
1. Being “the fixer” of a relationship, and the savior complex,
2. Resting bitch faces as a part of our identities,
3. And the up-and-coming (and unexpected) platform for dating (hint: it’s not meant for that!).
Connect with Jane Kisnica:
Website: https://www.contentbyjane.com
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jane-kisnica/
Interested in improving your email relationships and revenue? Send me a direct message:
Email: [email protected]
Linkedin: www.linkedin.com.in/yuvalackerman
Support this podcast so it can reach more of the right ears and hearts:
1. Subscribe/follow on your preferred listening platform,
2. Leave some feedback or ratings (I’m reading each and every one!),
3. And forward this episode to someone you love!
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“I don't need a relationship in order to feel loved” - I read this sentence, concluding Jane Kisnica’s Linkedin post a couple of weeks back, and by that point, I just knew that we had to record an episode together.
What Jane has been experiencing in the past couple of years has already become a phenomenon - people of all sexes and genders really used sitting at home to improve their lives - their relationships and dating in particular.
Some of them decided to write, podcast, and talk about it wherever they are. Others have decided to pull on the breaks, stop dating actively, and focus on self-growth.
In this episode, we’re discussing:
1. Being “the fixer” of a relationship, and the savior complex,
2. Resting bitch faces as a part of our identities,
3. And the up-and-coming (and unexpected) platform for dating (hint: it’s not meant for that!).
Connect with Jane Kisnica:
Website: https://www.contentbyjane.com
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jane-kisnica/
Interested in improving your email relationships and revenue? Send me a direct message:
Email: [email protected]
Linkedin: www.linkedin.com.in/yuvalackerman
Support this podcast so it can reach more of the right ears and hearts:
1. Subscribe/follow on your preferred listening platform,
2. Leave some feedback or ratings (I’m reading each and every one!),
3. And forward this episode to someone you love!
Follow on Instagram: www.instagram.com/lovingagainst
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05. The benched dater who worked his way up to a healthy relationship - with Jonas
Loving Against My Instincts
06/10/22 • 55 min
Can you find love from the deep abyss of the so-called friend zone? If you ask my guest today, Jonas, he would totally claim that it’s possible. We had a fascinating conversation about his charming love story with his partner, Kim, and how they had to cross 4 continents, separately and together, to finally find each other.
In this episode, we’re discussing...
1. The notorious friend zone, and our thoughts about it,
2. The actions that are necessary for building a healthy, loving, long-lasting relationship,
3. And the importance of vulnerability and transparency with yourself and with your partner.
Connect with Jonas:
Email: [email protected]
Instagram: jonasalexsteiner
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jonas.steiner.95
Support this podcast so it can reach more of the right ears and hearts:
1. Subscribe/follow on your preferred listening platform,
2. Leave some feedback or ratings (I’m reading each and every one!),
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In this episode, we’re discussing...
1. The notorious friend zone, and our thoughts about it,
2. The actions that are necessary for building a healthy, loving, long-lasting relationship,
3. And the importance of vulnerability and transparency with yourself and with your partner.
Connect with Jonas:
Email: [email protected]
Instagram: jonasalexsteiner
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jonas.steiner.95
Support this podcast so it can reach more of the right ears and hearts:
1. Subscribe/follow on your preferred listening platform,
2. Leave some feedback or ratings (I’m reading each and every one!),
3. And forward this episode to someone you love!
Follow on Instagram: www.instagram.com/lovingagainst
19. How you can finish this year and start the new one with joy - with Christie Ellis
Loving Against My Instincts
12/09/22 • 59 min
If the holiday season brings up a stocking-full level of mixed feelings for you - you need to listen to this one.
Many people will feel an additional amount of pressure coming from all different directions - from family members and loved ones, social media, and advertising - all telling us that that we need to be happy now, that we need to reflect on the year that has been, to start planning for the next year...
But what if you don’t feel this way?
What if the thought of being with your family sounds exhausting?
Or the fact that you have to sit down and write a full-on plan for next year feels like a kick in the guts?
In this episode, Christie Ellis, the zombie apocalypse nanny, a positive psychology-based business and life coach, has agreed to hop on a call with me and shared so many wonderful strategies that can help you ease up those complex emotions (which are useful at any time of the year!).
Get your notepad ready, you’d want to take up some notes!
In this episode, we’re discussing:
1. How to deal with your loved ones’ comments about you when you are going to visit them
2. How to set clearer goals for your life or business for the year to come more easily
3. And simple hacks to unlocking new levels of joy in your life - all year around!
Connect with Christie Ellis:
https://www.phoenixstorycoaching.com/joyful-life-design
https://www.linkedin.com/in/christie-ellis-coach
https://www.tiktok.com/@phoenix_story
https://www.instagram.com/phoenixstorycoaching
https://www.facebook.com/christie.s.ellis
💜 Want to improve your email relationships and increase your business revenue?
Send me a direct message and let’s make it happen:
Email: [email protected]
Linkedin: www.linkedin.com.in/yuvalackerman
Support this podcast so it can reach more of the right ears and hearts:
1. Subscribe/follow on your preferred listening platform,
2. Leave some feedback or ratings,
3. And forward this episode to someone you love!
Follow on Instagram: www.instagram.com/lovingagainst
Many people will feel an additional amount of pressure coming from all different directions - from family members and loved ones, social media, and advertising - all telling us that that we need to be happy now, that we need to reflect on the year that has been, to start planning for the next year...
But what if you don’t feel this way?
What if the thought of being with your family sounds exhausting?
Or the fact that you have to sit down and write a full-on plan for next year feels like a kick in the guts?
In this episode, Christie Ellis, the zombie apocalypse nanny, a positive psychology-based business and life coach, has agreed to hop on a call with me and shared so many wonderful strategies that can help you ease up those complex emotions (which are useful at any time of the year!).
Get your notepad ready, you’d want to take up some notes!
In this episode, we’re discussing:
1. How to deal with your loved ones’ comments about you when you are going to visit them
2. How to set clearer goals for your life or business for the year to come more easily
3. And simple hacks to unlocking new levels of joy in your life - all year around!
Connect with Christie Ellis:
https://www.phoenixstorycoaching.com/joyful-life-design
https://www.linkedin.com/in/christie-ellis-coach
https://www.tiktok.com/@phoenix_story
https://www.instagram.com/phoenixstorycoaching
https://www.facebook.com/christie.s.ellis
💜 Want to improve your email relationships and increase your business revenue?
Send me a direct message and let’s make it happen:
Email: [email protected]
Linkedin: www.linkedin.com.in/yuvalackerman
Support this podcast so it can reach more of the right ears and hearts:
1. Subscribe/follow on your preferred listening platform,
2. Leave some feedback or ratings,
3. And forward this episode to someone you love!
Follow on Instagram: www.instagram.com/lovingagainst
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Loving Against My Instincts
03/25/22 • 2 min
Welcome to Loving Against My Instincts! Here's the trailer... Eeeek! In this podcast, I'm going to explore with my guests stories about love, relationships, communication, and the decisions we make to become better versions of ourselves in the relationships around us.
21. The woman who reverse-engineered commitment - with Chayelle Rose
Loving Against My Instincts
01/06/23 • 57 min
“Commitment is a dinosaur word that has no meaning to anything whatsoever as relates to men and their view of women. However, a man will commit to love, honoring his car, no problem.”
... This is, word for word, how the Urban Dictionary defines “commitment”. Even though this entry was last updated in 2005, relationships and commitment are as old as time, and not a lot seems to have changed ever since.
I don’t know a single person without some kind of opinion on commitment... Which is why I’m thrilled to have a conversation about it with someone who has very strong opinions about it.
Chayelle Rose is a coach and a mom of 5, and a motherhood demystifier, helping moms realize how to do the “mom thing” easily, simply, worry-free. Her aim is to simplify relationships, bring out your confidence, and most importantly - expand your bandwidth for a smooth-sailing life no matter what comes up.
She also grew up in a religious community where commitment is a major part (and expectation) of one’s life.
In this episode, we’re discussing:
1. How do you approach relationships when the commitment comes first, and the rest comes later,
2. The unexpected ways that the religious Jewish communities help soon-to-be married and newlyweds with commitment,
3. And how dating apps could address the topic of commitment better.
Connect with Chayelle Rose:
Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chayelle-rose-95072b84/
Website: http://chayellerose.com
💜 Want to improve your email relationships and increase your business revenue? Send me a direct message and let’s make it happen:
Email: [email protected]
Linkedin: www.linkedin.com.in/yuvalackerman
Support this podcast so it can reach more of the right ears and hearts:
Follow on Instagram: www.instagram.com/lovingagainst
... This is, word for word, how the Urban Dictionary defines “commitment”. Even though this entry was last updated in 2005, relationships and commitment are as old as time, and not a lot seems to have changed ever since.
I don’t know a single person without some kind of opinion on commitment... Which is why I’m thrilled to have a conversation about it with someone who has very strong opinions about it.
Chayelle Rose is a coach and a mom of 5, and a motherhood demystifier, helping moms realize how to do the “mom thing” easily, simply, worry-free. Her aim is to simplify relationships, bring out your confidence, and most importantly - expand your bandwidth for a smooth-sailing life no matter what comes up.
She also grew up in a religious community where commitment is a major part (and expectation) of one’s life.
In this episode, we’re discussing:
1. How do you approach relationships when the commitment comes first, and the rest comes later,
2. The unexpected ways that the religious Jewish communities help soon-to-be married and newlyweds with commitment,
3. And how dating apps could address the topic of commitment better.
Connect with Chayelle Rose:
Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chayelle-rose-95072b84/
Website: http://chayellerose.com
💜 Want to improve your email relationships and increase your business revenue? Send me a direct message and let’s make it happen:
Email: [email protected]
Linkedin: www.linkedin.com.in/yuvalackerman
Support this podcast so it can reach more of the right ears and hearts:
- Subscribe/follow on your preferred listening platform,
- Leave some feedback or ratings,
- And forward this episode to someone you love!
Follow on Instagram: www.instagram.com/lovingagainst
06. My two cents on the notorious friend zone
Loving Against My Instincts
06/10/22 • 11 min
When has the term “friends” become a synonym for “undesired”? And what the hell is the deal with the “let’s stay friends” talk? This solo episode is dedicated to my somewhat controversial thoughts about the term that each and every one of us had encountered at some point or another in our dating journey.
In this episode, I’m talking about:
- Why would you want to stay friends with your “unsuccessful” dates,
- How to go our separate ways respectfully without using this excuse,
- And when is it worth giving someone another chance.
I’m your host, Yuval Ackerman, a copywriter and strategist, songwriter, realist, and self-accredited relationship researcher.
Support this podcast so it can reach the right ears and hearts:
1. Subscribe/follow on your preferred listening platform,
2. Leave some feedback or ratings (I’m reading each and every one!),
3. And forward this episode to someone you love!
Follow on Instagram: www.instagram.com/lovingagainst
In this episode, I’m talking about:
- Why would you want to stay friends with your “unsuccessful” dates,
- How to go our separate ways respectfully without using this excuse,
- And when is it worth giving someone another chance.
I’m your host, Yuval Ackerman, a copywriter and strategist, songwriter, realist, and self-accredited relationship researcher.
Support this podcast so it can reach the right ears and hearts:
1. Subscribe/follow on your preferred listening platform,
2. Leave some feedback or ratings (I’m reading each and every one!),
3. And forward this episode to someone you love!
Follow on Instagram: www.instagram.com/lovingagainst
03. Can you love your partner... and really love yourself too? - with Alex
Loving Against My Instincts
05/13/22 • 38 min
One major mistake that I made in my past relationships was filling my life with that other person, their wants, desires, hobbies and needs - and forgetting about myself almost entirely.
My flatmate Alex had similar tendencies, and now that we know better, we set down to talk about our past mistakes.
In this episode, we're discussing:
- The stories we told ourselves while in our past relationships,
- What we learned from those experiences,
- And the importance of finding your center, in or out of a relationship.
I’m your host, Yuval Ackerman, a copywriter and strategist, songwriter, realist, and self-accredited relationship researcher.
To support this podcast:
1. Subscribe/follow on your preferred platform,
2. Leave some feedback or ratings,
3. Share this episode with a loved one!
Follow on Instagram: www.instagram.com/lovingagainst
My flatmate Alex had similar tendencies, and now that we know better, we set down to talk about our past mistakes.
In this episode, we're discussing:
- The stories we told ourselves while in our past relationships,
- What we learned from those experiences,
- And the importance of finding your center, in or out of a relationship.
I’m your host, Yuval Ackerman, a copywriter and strategist, songwriter, realist, and self-accredited relationship researcher.
To support this podcast:
1. Subscribe/follow on your preferred platform,
2. Leave some feedback or ratings,
3. Share this episode with a loved one!
Follow on Instagram: www.instagram.com/lovingagainst
20. A year in review and a special surprise
Loving Against My Instincts
12/23/22 • 39 min
What a year it's been!
To celebrate the year's end and the incredible achievement of publishing 20 episodes consistently this year, I'm sharing a quick update on my own dating life and a special interview.
Wishing you a wonderful holiday season - and see you again in 2023!
In this episode, you'll discover:
- How can you become friends with awkward silences
- How to set your expectations and handle disappointments
- And my current favorite pickup line on dating apps
💜 Want to improve your email relationships and increase your business revenue? Send me a direct message and let’s make it happen:
Email: [email protected] Linkedin: www.linkedin.com.in/yuvalackerman
Support this podcast so it can reach more of the right ears and hearts:
Follow on Instagram: www.instagram.com/lovingagainst
To celebrate the year's end and the incredible achievement of publishing 20 episodes consistently this year, I'm sharing a quick update on my own dating life and a special interview.
Wishing you a wonderful holiday season - and see you again in 2023!
In this episode, you'll discover:
- How can you become friends with awkward silences
- How to set your expectations and handle disappointments
- And my current favorite pickup line on dating apps
💜 Want to improve your email relationships and increase your business revenue? Send me a direct message and let’s make it happen:
Email: [email protected] Linkedin: www.linkedin.com.in/yuvalackerman
Support this podcast so it can reach more of the right ears and hearts:
- Subscribe/follow on your preferred listening platform,
- Leave some feedback or ratings,
- And forward this episode to someone you love!
Follow on Instagram: www.instagram.com/lovingagainst
16. Is your Imposter Syndrome killing your relationships? - with Self-Worth Sam
Loving Against My Instincts
10/28/22 • 61 min
“Am I enough to be loved?”
This question is one that I asked myself again and again in the past.
Having had a really low self-worth and self-esteem and a really high Imposter Syndrome was taking a toll on my romantic partnership and every other relationship in my life.
The topic of self-worth has risen again and again in the past 15 episodes, which led me to ask Self-Worth Sam, a Demartini method facilitator, and an Imposter Syndrome expert, to come on and talk about it.
In this episode, we’re discussing:
1. The difference between Imposter Syndrome and self-worth,
2. How to get rid of imposter syndrome, and get in alignment with your partner,
3. And the surprising connection between Imposter syndrome and narcissism.
Connect with Self-Worth Sam:
❤️ FREE ONLINE MINI-COURSE
http://selfworthsam.com/courses/starterkit
🌎 SAM’S WEBSITE
http://selfworthsam.com
📗 NEW BOOK
How to Beat Imposter Syndrome and Be Confident: The Ultimate 30-Day Challenge.
https://www.amazon.com/How-Beat-Imposter-Syndrome-Confident/dp/B09L4NV136/ref=monarch_sidesheet
📞SCHEDULE AN APPOINTMENT
https://selfworthsam.com/appointments/
❖ FACEBOOK PAGE
https://www.facebook.com/selfworthsam
☆ LINKEDIN
http://www.linkedin.com/in/self-worth-sam
💜 Want to improve your email relationships and increase your business revenue?
Send me a direct message and let’s make it happen:
Email: [email protected]
Linkedin: www.linkedin.com.in/yuvalackerman
Support this podcast so it can reach more of the right ears and hearts:
1. Subscribe/follow on your preferred listening platform,
2. Leave some feedback or ratings (I’m reading each and every one!),
3. And forward this episode to someone you love!
Follow on Instagram: www.instagram.com/lovingagainst
This question is one that I asked myself again and again in the past.
Having had a really low self-worth and self-esteem and a really high Imposter Syndrome was taking a toll on my romantic partnership and every other relationship in my life.
The topic of self-worth has risen again and again in the past 15 episodes, which led me to ask Self-Worth Sam, a Demartini method facilitator, and an Imposter Syndrome expert, to come on and talk about it.
In this episode, we’re discussing:
1. The difference between Imposter Syndrome and self-worth,
2. How to get rid of imposter syndrome, and get in alignment with your partner,
3. And the surprising connection between Imposter syndrome and narcissism.
Connect with Self-Worth Sam:
❤️ FREE ONLINE MINI-COURSE
http://selfworthsam.com/courses/starterkit
🌎 SAM’S WEBSITE
http://selfworthsam.com
📗 NEW BOOK
How to Beat Imposter Syndrome and Be Confident: The Ultimate 30-Day Challenge.
https://www.amazon.com/How-Beat-Imposter-Syndrome-Confident/dp/B09L4NV136/ref=monarch_sidesheet
📞SCHEDULE AN APPOINTMENT
https://selfworthsam.com/appointments/
❖ FACEBOOK PAGE
https://www.facebook.com/selfworthsam
http://www.linkedin.com/in/self-worth-sam
💜 Want to improve your email relationships and increase your business revenue?
Send me a direct message and let’s make it happen:
Email: [email protected]
Linkedin: www.linkedin.com.in/yuvalackerman
Support this podcast so it can reach more of the right ears and hearts:
1. Subscribe/follow on your preferred listening platform,
2. Leave some feedback or ratings (I’m reading each and every one!),
3. And forward this episode to someone you love!
Follow on Instagram: www.instagram.com/lovingagainst
18. The practice of letting go to live a well-lived life - with Ben
Loving Against My Instincts
11/25/22 • 48 min
When people on their deathbeds are asked what their biggest regret in life is, they all answer “I wish I had invested more of my time and focus on my relationships”.
These days, with all the stress, technology and the ever-growing disconnection from nature, it’s easy to get trapped inside our own heads and compare ourselves to others, live with regrets, and have difficulty letting go and forgiving ourselves.
Which is exactly what my guest today, Ben, the co-founder of Samana, is helping his clients to release from their lives.
In this episode, we’re discussing:
1. Prioritizing our relationships,
2. Listening to our guts and trusting our instincts,
3. And how can one learn emotional healing and expand their capacity for love
Connect with Ben:
https://www.samana.quest
💜 Want to improve your email relationships and increase your business revenue?
Send me a direct message and let’s make it happen:
Email: [email protected]
Linkedin: www.linkedin.com.in/yuvalackerman
Support this podcast so it can reach more of the right ears and hearts:
1. Subscribe/follow on your preferred listening platform,
2. Leave some feedback or ratings,
3. And forward this episode to someone you love!
Follow on Instagram: www.instagram.com/lovingagainst
These days, with all the stress, technology and the ever-growing disconnection from nature, it’s easy to get trapped inside our own heads and compare ourselves to others, live with regrets, and have difficulty letting go and forgiving ourselves.
Which is exactly what my guest today, Ben, the co-founder of Samana, is helping his clients to release from their lives.
In this episode, we’re discussing:
1. Prioritizing our relationships,
2. Listening to our guts and trusting our instincts,
3. And how can one learn emotional healing and expand their capacity for love
Connect with Ben:
https://www.samana.quest
💜 Want to improve your email relationships and increase your business revenue?
Send me a direct message and let’s make it happen:
Email: [email protected]
Linkedin: www.linkedin.com.in/yuvalackerman
Support this podcast so it can reach more of the right ears and hearts:
1. Subscribe/follow on your preferred listening platform,
2. Leave some feedback or ratings,
3. And forward this episode to someone you love!
Follow on Instagram: www.instagram.com/lovingagainst
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How many episodes does Loving Against My Instincts have?
Loving Against My Instincts currently has 22 episodes available.
What topics does Loving Against My Instincts cover?
The podcast is about Society & Culture, Podcasts and Relationships.
What is the most popular episode on Loving Against My Instincts?
The episode title '15. "I haven't dated since the pandemic" - with Jane Kisnica' is the most popular.
What is the average episode length on Loving Against My Instincts?
The average episode length on Loving Against My Instincts is 45 minutes.
How often are episodes of Loving Against My Instincts released?
Episodes of Loving Against My Instincts are typically released every 14 days.
When was the first episode of Loving Against My Instincts?
The first episode of Loving Against My Instincts was released on Mar 25, 2022.
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