The Secret To Attraction
08/06/18 • 6 min
Can’t wait to meet the love of your life? Hate your boss but cant find the perfect job? Let’s face it, it can be frustrating when we really want something and can’t quite seem to get hold of it, so what IS the secret to manifesting what you want in life? Creatures of desire
Fundamentally we are creatures of desire, constantly sifting through life deciding what we want and what we don’t want and in the process evolving and growing. But isn’t life so blissful when we experience a flash of abundance? When the Universe aligns and we get exactly what we wanted, or something pretty close...so how can we access that magic more often?
The Law of Attraction
The mechanics of the Law of Attraction are very simple: You attract more of what you are already feeling, for example if you feel poor you will attract more bills that reinforce that feeling of lack. So the key is to access the FEELING of abundance in order to attract situations that bring more abundance into your life. This can be really challenging when life is feeling difficult, so here are three steps I suggest you try to help you get into the right headspace:
1. Clarity
Firstly be very clear about exactly what it is you want and if you’re not sure, that’s ok, you can enjoy the process of figuring it out! Try making a vision board, this is a collection of images and words that reflect your future dreams and aspirations. You can make one at home with magazines or simply create a few Pinterest boards, maybe one for your personal life, one for work, and one for friends or hobbies? Start with small things and see where they lead you. Also don’t agonize over how you are going to get what you want. When you start focusing on the ‘how’ you create a lot of conditions under which something must come to you, this can energetically cause resistance, so just focus on what you want and enjoy yourself! Dream big.
2. Resistance
Spend time daydreaming about what it is you desire, if it’s a partner imagine yourself with them doing lots of fun things together. And as you do this sense how you feel about it, are there any fears or anxieties coming up? If so this might be why you’re struggling to manifest them, as this is your energetic resistance getting in the way. This is very normal as unfortunately we are not brought up to expect the best from life but rather feel we have to earn it or survive it. It is this kind of negative belief system that can jeopardise manifestation. So when you detect self doubt or fear - common forms of resistance, try to detach yourself from it, perhaps say to yourself “I recognise this old negative thought pattern, I am ready to let this go now, be gone.” Or perhaps say: “ I acknowledge you, I bless you and I release you, I am ready to move to a higher vibration of love”. Do whatever feels right for you, but try not to get sucked into thoughts that criticise or blame you, if you do you can forgive yourself and switch focus by taking your attention to what is around you in the present moment or take your thoughts to a person, place or memory that brings you ease and joy. Retraining negative thought patterns can take a while but it is possible, just be patient with yourself.
3. Manifesting
At this stage you want to kick things up a notch, bring the daydreams into your current experience. Start ‘talking’ to your partner to be, before you fall asleep or when you’re on your own at home, have ‘chats’ with them and imagine that they are beside you. If you want more money maybe create a false budget and put in numbers you would like to manifest and enjoy the sensation that seeing them in the spreadsheet gives you, you could even give yourself a weekly dream “allowance” and enjoy mentally spending it. If you want a new job, have pretend conversations with your new colleagues etc..of course it sounds crazy, but I ‘talked’ to my now husband for 6 months before I met him!
Discover where you feel abundant and roll around in it.
The key is creating good emotional experiences in order that the Law of Attraction brings you more of them. So when you’re not focusing on your specific goals take time to figure out where in your life you already feel abundant. Maybe you are really good at your job and feel very confident and assured in that area, or perhaps you keep yourself very fit and feel physically empowered, or maybe you have a pet or child who’s abundant love you simply adore and enjoy deeply. If so, really take time to relish and enjoy the sense of confidence, joy or ease these sensations bring to you and watch as new opportunities that feel the same way start to come into different areas of your life.
You have the power of choice.
And finally, always keep in mind that the only person in charge of your thoughts is you. You have complete sovereignty over your state of mind, you just have to choose it. So the good news is you can stop being a victim of fear and do...
Can’t wait to meet the love of your life? Hate your boss but cant find the perfect job? Let’s face it, it can be frustrating when we really want something and can’t quite seem to get hold of it, so what IS the secret to manifesting what you want in life? Creatures of desire
Fundamentally we are creatures of desire, constantly sifting through life deciding what we want and what we don’t want and in the process evolving and growing. But isn’t life so blissful when we experience a flash of abundance? When the Universe aligns and we get exactly what we wanted, or something pretty close...so how can we access that magic more often?
The Law of Attraction
The mechanics of the Law of Attraction are very simple: You attract more of what you are already feeling, for example if you feel poor you will attract more bills that reinforce that feeling of lack. So the key is to access the FEELING of abundance in order to attract situations that bring more abundance into your life. This can be really challenging when life is feeling difficult, so here are three steps I suggest you try to help you get into the right headspace:
1. Clarity
Firstly be very clear about exactly what it is you want and if you’re not sure, that’s ok, you can enjoy the process of figuring it out! Try making a vision board, this is a collection of images and words that reflect your future dreams and aspirations. You can make one at home with magazines or simply create a few Pinterest boards, maybe one for your personal life, one for work, and one for friends or hobbies? Start with small things and see where they lead you. Also don’t agonize over how you are going to get what you want. When you start focusing on the ‘how’ you create a lot of conditions under which something must come to you, this can energetically cause resistance, so just focus on what you want and enjoy yourself! Dream big.
2. Resistance
Spend time daydreaming about what it is you desire, if it’s a partner imagine yourself with them doing lots of fun things together. And as you do this sense how you feel about it, are there any fears or anxieties coming up? If so this might be why you’re struggling to manifest them, as this is your energetic resistance getting in the way. This is very normal as unfortunately we are not brought up to expect the best from life but rather feel we have to earn it or survive it. It is this kind of negative belief system that can jeopardise manifestation. So when you detect self doubt or fear - common forms of resistance, try to detach yourself from it, perhaps say to yourself “I recognise this old negative thought pattern, I am ready to let this go now, be gone.” Or perhaps say: “ I acknowledge you, I bless you and I release you, I am ready to move to a higher vibration of love”. Do whatever feels right for you, but try not to get sucked into thoughts that criticise or blame you, if you do you can forgive yourself and switch focus by taking your attention to what is around you in the present moment or take your thoughts to a person, place or memory that brings you ease and joy. Retraining negative thought patterns can take a while but it is possible, just be patient with yourself.
3. Manifesting
At this stage you want to kick things up a notch, bring the daydreams into your current experience. Start ‘talking’ to your partner to be, before you fall asleep or when you’re on your own at home, have ‘chats’ with them and imagine that they are beside you. If you want more money maybe create a false budget and put in numbers you would like to manifest and enjoy the sensation that seeing them in the spreadsheet gives you, you could even give yourself a weekly dream “allowance” and enjoy mentally spending it. If you want a new job, have pretend conversations with your new colleagues etc..of course it sounds crazy, but I ‘talked’ to my now husband for 6 months before I met him!
Discover where you feel abundant and roll around in it.
The key is creating good emotional experiences in order that the Law of Attraction brings you more of them. So when you’re not focusing on your specific goals take time to figure out where in your life you already feel abundant. Maybe you are really good at your job and feel very confident and assured in that area, or perhaps you keep yourself very fit and feel physically empowered, or maybe you have a pet or child who’s abundant love you simply adore and enjoy deeply. If so, really take time to relish and enjoy the sense of confidence, joy or ease these sensations bring to you and watch as new opportunities that feel the same way start to come into different areas of your life.
You have the power of choice.
And finally, always keep in mind that the only person in charge of your thoughts is you. You have complete sovereignty over your state of mind, you just have to choose it. So the good news is you can stop being a victim of fear and do...
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Why Fearlessness Is True Success.
What does success mean to you? A highly paid job with international travel? A beautiful home that overlooks the sea? A loving relationship with your soulmate? Or maybe it’s all of the above.. Why do you want all those things?
Have you ever asked yourself why you want these things? What the driving motivation is behind all of these desires? Most of the time it’s happiness, happiness is a natural built-in desire, and in the world we live in the concept of happiness is closely tied to ownership, money and power, hence our desire for wealth and material things.
So what is in the way of your success?
No matter what your dream of success looks like your ability to realize it is far more improved if you are able to approach life without being intimidated by fear. This is because fear creates doubt, and when you doubt yourself it’s like you trip yourself up on your own path to success. No one is better at preventing you from reaching your success than you.
Get in flow and become empowered.
Be like water - Water is nature’s example of how to overcome life’s obstacles. You can pour acid, or perfume into water and it will absorb both equally and keep flowing and expanding through them. What if you could treat your problems the same way? For example; if your boss criticizes your work, instead of getting upset and defensive, thank them and ask for their input into how you can improve and GROW. Or maybe your partner or flatmate is really untidy but instead of getting angry you see it as an opportunity to improve your patience or, stand your ground as you ask them to be more considerate. Essentially treat difficult situations with an expansive approach, so you ‘flow’ around them, they no longer stop you in your tracks but become a helpful platform from which you grow and adapt.
Stretch Your Comfort Zone
Fear is often caused by the unknown and the reason it’s scary is because it’s out of our control which means we can feel vulnerable or exposed. Our ability to work well with the unknown allows us to branch out and do things that will help us overcome our procrastinations in life and most importantly start to trust ourselves. So why not flex your comfort zone? Try something you haven’t done before, start a new practice perhaps? It can be big or small, from a new lunch place, to mountain climbing, give it a go and give your comfort zone a stretch!
Back yourself
Self-trust is a big factor when it comes to your fear. As children we all have big dreams about what we want in life but at some point our belief in our ability to become those things gets dampened or squashed all together. This is because we no longer believe in or trust ourselves to have what it takes. So how can you start to remember what it felt like to trust yourself? Challenge yourself to find one choice you made in the past that brought you joy. Do this once a day everyday for a week and see how you start to feel about yourself. The reality is we make thousands of excellent choices for ourselves all day every day but we choose to spend time thinking on those we regret. Flip it! Focus on all the choices YOU make that bring you happiness.
What effect it has when you’re free from fear.
When you come from a place of true self-belief and self-validation your source of approval comes from within, which means that it can’t be taken away from you. This is a very powerful place to operate from, without self-doubt you are free from fear. You are empowered; you are strong from the inside out. And the real irony is that when you are empowered your quest for success (happiness) is over as you already have it. This is because you no longer ‘need’ outside goods or people to ‘make’ you happy, you are happy already! And paradoxically far more likely to attract all those shiny material things you wanted, as the job offers, promotions, investors and soul mates will be drawn to your inner strength and authenticity.
Be fearless and become the best version of yourself.
Much love and abundance,
Kay x
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