My Story, Part One: Healing from Sexual Abuse

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03/25/24 • 62 min

Love, Evolved with Leigh-Anne LoPinto: Conscious Relationships

This is the most public I have ever been about my story.
[Note: I don't get into details of the abuse, but rather focus on the negative affects I faced as a result, and the approach I took to heal. This is a fairly easy listen, so please dive in.]
I have learned that a dual approach to healing is required - working both psychologically and energetically - and share why.
Sexual abuse is a major challenge we are facing collectively, and in order to heal, we need to speak openly and honestly, remove the shame, and get to work.
The energy behind this is a predator that seeks to control and manipulate in order to gain power. Once you understand this, it gives you a much more complete picture of how to address it.
In this episode, I share:
- How the negative impacts of abuse showed up in my life, both psychologically and energetically
- Dealing with social anxiety, poor boundaries, low self worth, sexual shame, promiscuity, distrust of men, internalized misogyny, and major drug and alcohol abuse
- How a history of this kind of abuse can create love and sex addictions
- The story of my last major partnership and how the energy was working behind the scenes to destroy things
- How healing needs to include a psychological approach in addition to an energetic approach, and what that looks like
- Tons of resources below:

Sexual Sovereignty
The War on Love, Sex + Relationships

Breathwork:
- My intro video here.
- Here is the first energy clearing breathwork.
- This is the second audio that focuses on clearing the sexual abuse energy.

Eve Lorgen - The Dark Side of Cupid
Bernhard Guenther's articleHere for the TruthHealing - David Elliott (p 140-175)
Energetic Boundaries

Connect with Leigh-Anne below:

The Wayshowers: Mentorship
Leigh-Anne's Instagram
Leigh-Anne's Website
Leigh-Anne's Substack
The Trap of Codependency (free teaching video)
Private Telegram Group

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Thanks so much, I appreciate you all!
Intro + Outro music: "Medicine" by HOL + Layv
Holly's Instagram

Sexual Sovereignty
The War on Love, Sex + Relationships

Breathwork:
- My intro video here.
- Here is the first energy clearing breathwork.
- This is the second audio that focuses on clearing the sexual abuse energy.

Eve Lorgen - The Dark Side of Cupid
Bernhard Guenther's articleHere for the TruthHealing - David Elliott (p 140-175)
Energetic Boundaries

Connect with Leigh-Anne below:

The Wayshowers: Mentorship
Leigh-Anne's Instagram
Leigh-Anne's Website
Leigh-Anne's Substack
The Trap of Codependency (free teaching video)
Private Telegram Group

Previous Episode

Codependency in the Parent-Child Relationship

In this episode, I go deeper on the topic of codependency in parenting.
I talk about what codependency is and how it shows up in the parent/child relationship - through a lack of healthy boundaries, enmeshment, over-involvement, and more.
Codependency in parenting also correlates to permissive parenting.

Single parents need to be especially vigilant, as codependency can unconsciously cause them to treat the child as their spouse. They may fill an internal void with the child's life and not give them space to develop their own sense of self.

I speak about the negative impacts codependency in parenting has on children and teenagers, and also speak about energetic cords and energetic standpoint of problems it can cause.

Ultimately, every step forward in your own healing of codependence will benefit your child (or future children). I hope this episode is helpful for you; please reach out if you need support.
Connect with Leigh-Anne below:

I hope you enjoy this episode - please rate, review and subscribe to support the podcast.

Resources:
The Trap of Codependency + How to Break Free:

https://www.love-evolved.us/the-trap-of-codependecy.html

Here for the Truth Episode #167: The Art of Conscious Relationships

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/here-for-the-truth/id1570026970?i=1000645752674

Sexual Sovereignty:

https://leighannelopinto.substack.com/p/towards-sexual-sovereignty-the-alchemical

The War on Love, Sex + Relationships:

https://leighannelopinto.substack.com/p/the-war-on-love-sex-relationships

The Rise of Narcissism with Dr. George Simon:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/love-evolved-conscious-relationships/id1589898399?i=1000625190054

Alfa Vedic #219 - Neo-Shamanism with Joel Schafer:

Connect with Leigh-Anne below:

The Wayshowers: Mentorship
Leigh-Anne's Instagram
Leigh-Anne's Website
Leigh-Anne's Substack
The Trap of Codependency (free teaching video)
Private Telegram Group

Next Episode

My Story, Part Two: Recovering from Divorce

This week, I share the story of my almost 20 year relationship with my ex-husband and father of my child, the man I truly believed was my soulmate, and how I moved through total rock bottom when our marriage collapsed.
I share the hard lessons I had to learn about what I was bringing into the relationship that was not working (things like insecure attachment, low self worth, codependency, and victim mentality) and how I healed.
I also share how I learned to love and value myself, moved into secure attachment, learned about boundaries, and unhooked from codependency. And, how I stopped being a people pleaser and moved into true authenticity.
I also speak about how I learned to navigate conflict, speak truth, and become an empowered empath. There's so much more in this episode, too!
Healing from divorce and hard break-ups is 100% possible when we understand that there is wisdom in the wounds and have support people around us who can help alchemize and learn the lessons that we need to learn.
As always, I share tons of resources in the show notes, including my video lessons on How to Heal from a Breakup and The Trap of Codependency.
RESOURCES:
Video Lesson: How to Heal From a Breakup
Video Lesson: The Trap of Codependency + How to Break Free
Podcast: Conscious Relationships: The Foundations for Success
Free Guide: How to Choose a Partner Wisely
Lynne Forrest's article on the drama triangle
Book: Conscious Loving
Book: Transformation through Intimacy