Lit AF Relationships

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect.

On today’s episode I talk about romancing the inner critic. We all have an inner critic and some of us give that voice center stage. In this episode I break down commons things the inner critic says for the different attachment types. I then share the surprising truth about how to quiet your inner critic. No the answer is not to shut it out or tell it to stop talking, that just makes the inner critic way louder. Instead I offer one question to start romancing your inner critic.

Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043

If you’re interested in one on one coching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you’re growing on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy realtionships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

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Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and support.

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Resources Discussed:

Definition of perfectionism according to Brenee Brown -

Perfectionism for dismissive avoidants and fearful avoidants.

Examples: I have been holding on to a bunch of stickers to put them on the perfect place

Not wanting to get a nice new journal messed up

Thinking there is only one right way

Usually there’s a need that’s not getting met.

I’d love to help you understand and work through perfectionism so you can create healthy loving relationships where you feel like you’re on the same team.

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Please enjoy this fascinating interview with Tony Coyote Perez. He is the Superintendent of Black Rock City and a recently published author of Built to Man, Tales of the Desert Carnies of Burning Man. We discussed the story behind the book, how he finally got published, and his tips for the whole process. He used to be a builder, a professional musician, and a bar manager. He has used every career to complete this book. I hope you enjoy!

Show notes:

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Book to be published mid-July - Built to Burn Tales of the Desert Carnies of Burning Man

Tonycoyoteperez.com

Twitter: @tonycoyoteperez

Burning Man Philosophical Center, https://burningman.org/culture/philosophical-center/

Coyote’s Facebook Page, https://www.facebook.com/tony.perez.9484

Coyote Nose Podcast - Readings by Coyote of the first chapters of the book, https://journal.burningman.org/coyotenose/

Sign up for Sarah’s Virtual Storytelling Workshop, 7/8/20 5-7:30pm learn how to sign up on my instagram page, https://www.instagram.com/sarah_shines_on/

Quotes by Coyote: I'm the superintendent of the city. I do the layout and the survey of the city. I set up the infrastructure. Essentially we build a trellis for which the bows of the branches of the community grow through. The book is from the builder's perspective of Black Rock City, the blue collar, essentially the working man behind the scenes and the strife that we went through while the city was trying to survive back in the late nineties. The book started from telling stories, as a matter of fact, in the book, some of the stories that I tell and have been telling for 20 or 25 years. Hero's journey starts out with the unrest. The person doesn't like the situation they're in. They're trying to find something better. They venture into the world. They go through cataclysmic events and existential crises because of bad choices they make. And then in the end, they have awakenings and redemption and it furthers their life and they go on like the Phoenix rising from the ashes. I've found that a great percentage of writing is just sitting and listening to your thoughts. It's a time machine of sorts where you have to just peel away the layers and go back into your memories and really relive what it was like, what it smelled like, what it felt like, and what were the emotions you were feeling. I just kept to my memories because that's where that's where the heart lives and that's how it became real for me. You never let the facts get in the way of a good story. Editing a book takes five times as long as writing the book and you realize that you really have to write four books in order to get one books worth. The more you help yourself, people will want to help you. You have to be involved in your own rescue. You can't just throw your hands up and say, somebody come help me. I want to build a fire and you start fire with kindling. I'd said that in the book it caps the explosion and that turns it into an engine and the engine runs a community. So it's directing the chaos. It creates a dynamic tension. I'm a social Smith. I wanted to figure people out. I wanted to hang out with a wide variety of personalities and opinions and perspectives. I thought it was all fascinating and now I'm getting to write about it. You know, eventually the jewels will start to come out and then when the jewel has come out, it really doesn't seem like you wrote them. That's my favorite part.

We’re talking about animal healing energy with this week’s guest animal card reader Megan Sprague. She shares about her relationship with animals and the energy she feels when encountering animals in her day-to-day life. She talks about the reciprocal relationship that exists between humans and animals. Animals are abundant with healing messages and reminders for us humans. We finish the interview with a live card reading. Megan shares the healing energy from several different animals with us. I really enjoyed this multi-dimensional conversation.

Megan is giving away a free animal card reading. Follow both of us on IG and comment on this week’s post sharing your favorite part of this episode to be entered to win by 4/20.

Listen to Megan’s previous episode about manifestation here.

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