99. But My Inner Rebel Sabotages Me

06/07/23 • 42 min

No conversation about dieting and restricting is complete without talking about the inner rebel! Is binge eating rebellious? Is restriction rebellious? How is our inner rebel at work when it comes to our relationship with food?

Stef grew up as a people pleaser, but deconstructed that when her binge eating became out of control.
Sarah's most important factor in keeping peace with food: feeling like she has choice.
We think of the "rebel" as a bad, naughty thing; but the rebel acts in the name our our very human need for autonomy.
Our baseline understanding of our own autonomy may develop in early childhood. Stef shares how she sees this manifesting with her children.
What about the conflict between safety and freedom? Is is possible to have both? How do we maintain a balance when we need to feel safe and grounded, but also need to feel free and unrestricted? Is that the metaphor for "control" with food (restriction) and "freedom" with food (binge eating)?
Boundaries as an exploration of safety on both sides of the pendulum. We can't understand our own boundaries until we've understood what "too far" feels like.
The rebel as a representative for our unmet needs.
Rebellion in body image. Stef feeling lack of autonomy in body size (rebelling against biology) and in fashion (rebelling against thin privilege).
Sarah LIED (gasp!) as a teenager
How we talk to and about our inner rebel matters. The rebel may need validation.
Diet culture, capitalism, patriarchy, etc is an appropriate place to rebel.

The Body Image Workshop - Stef is hosting a live workshop to learn practical tools and techniques to develop body neutrality. Eight weekly workshops beginning July 5th; presentation of tools followed by group open-forum Q&A for support. Enroll now: https://www.iamstefaniemichele.com/bodyimageworkshop2023

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Website – www.thebingeeatingtherapist.com

YouTube – https://www.youtube.com/c/TheBingeEatingTherapist

Sarah’s book I Can’t Stop Eating is available on Amazon

Connect with Stefanie Michele

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Website – www.iamstefaniemichele.com

Binge Eating Recovery Course: www.iamstefaniemichele.com/iamstefaniemichelecourse

Stef grew up as a people pleaser, but deconstructed that when her binge eating became out of control.
Sarah's most important factor in keeping peace with food: feeling like she has choice.
We think of the "rebel" as a bad, naughty thing; but the rebel acts in the name our our very human need for autonomy.
Our baseline understanding of our own autonomy may develop in early childhood. Stef shares how she sees this manifesting with her children.
What about the conflict between safety and freedom? Is is possible to have both? How do we maintain a balance when we need to feel safe and grounded, but also need to feel free and unrestricted? Is that the metaphor for "control" with food (restriction) and "freedom" with food (binge eating)?
Boundaries as an exploration of safety on both sides of the pendulum. We can't understand our own boundaries until we've understood what "too far" feels like.
The rebel as a representative for our unmet needs.
Rebellion in body image. Stef feeling lack of autonomy in body size (rebelling against biology) and in fashion (rebelling against thin privilege).
Sarah LIED (gasp!) as a teenager
How we talk to and about our inner rebel matters. The rebel may need validation.
Diet culture, capitalism, patriarchy, etc is an appropriate place to rebel.

Join the LAD Membership

Connect with the show!

Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/lifeafterdietspodcast/

Email – [email protected]

Website – www.lifeafterdietspodcast.com

Connect with Sarah Dosanjh

Website – www.thebingeeatingtherapist.com

YouTube – https://www.youtube.com/c/TheBingeEatingTherapist

Sarah’s book I Can’t Stop Eating is available on Amazon

Connect with Stefanie Michele

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/iamstefaniemichele

Website – www.iamstefaniemichele.com

Binge Eating Recovery Course: www.iamstefaniemichele.com/iamstefaniemichelecourse

Previous Episode

98. But How Would I Cope Without my Disordered Eating?

Most of us develop disordered relationships with food because that food serves a purpose; it becomes a coping tool. So when we no longer have it as a way of comforting ourselves, what happens? How do we deal with that vulnerability and the huge gap it leaves in our emotional support system?

What does the disordered eating help solve?
Stef finds restriction the bigger gap; for Sarah, it’s the binges.
How do we make our own cocoons if it’s not with food?
Stef’s somatic practice for overwhelm
Depression energy coming up without the ED
How yoga helped Sarah go “micro” and anchor into something smaller than existential loneliness and lows
The role of safety in being able to let go of ED behaviors (because we know they work)
The Burnout Cycle (per authors Nagoski)
How does Sarah not panic?
Fear of death (how did we get to that part of this conversation??)

Join the LAD Membership

Connect with the show!

Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/lifeafterdietspodcast/

Email – [email protected]

Website – www.lifeafterdietspodcast.com

Connect with Sarah Dosanjh

Website – www.thebingeeatingtherapist.com

YouTube – https://www.youtube.com/c/TheBingeEatingTherapist

Sarah’s book I Can’t Stop Eating is available on Amazon

Connect with Stefanie Michele

Website – www.iamstefaniemichele.com

Binge Eating Recovery Course: www.iamstefaniemichele.com/iamstefaniemichelecourse

Body Image Webinar + Workbook: https://www.iamstefaniemichele.com/get-started/p/bodyimage

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100. Our 100th Episode! What We've Learned...

It's our 100th episode! We sat down at a recording studio in NYC to celebrate 100 episodes and counting. This episode recaps the lessons we've learned doing this podcast, especially from one another, and how that has shaped our professional and personal perspectives over the past couple of years.

The value of a regulated voice
"Regul-eating"
Control as a mechanism of safety
The dynamic of differing opinions
The concept of Self-abandonment (as opposed to numbing)
Sarah’s concept of “states” as opposed to “being recovered.”
Revisiting boundaries and rules
Vulnerability and self disclosure on the podcast
Stef’s episode with her Mom; Sarah’s episode talking about her mom
The pee analogy
Visit us in Dublin on 16 September: https://www.lifeafterdietspodcast.com/workshops-and-meetups/