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Why Parents Need to Consider the Influence of Culture When Raising Daughters Today with Allison Wallace [Podcast]

04/30/18 • 28 min

Proverbs 18:17 says, “The one who states his case first seems right, until the other comes and examines him.” As parents are raising daughters and sons today, perhaps their kids should hear the “rest of the story,” lest our daughters acquire victim mentalities and our sons acquire unnecessary guilt complexes that follow them into adulthood. Perhaps it is time they hear from godly women with honest and objective perspectives on the issue. But from where will such women be procured? Today we discuss raising our daughters to be objective, God-honoring woman for today’s world. Allison Wallace is the Director of Program Development at Shepherds Hill Academy. Prior to holding this position, she was the Girls Wilderness Program Supervisor. She says working in residential care is not just a job, it is a passion for her. Allison studied Counseling Psychology and Developmental Psychology at Toccoa Falls College. She and her husband Joshua are both on staff here at Shepherds Hill Academy. In fact, they live on the SHA campus along with their beautiful little girl, Lilliana. How Raising Daughters Can Be Affected by Political Correctness Why is chivalry now considered sexist? I’ll bet if some of these liberated “gender-hustlers” were on the Titanic, they would have actually wanted the same unique privileges that women have always enjoyed and still often enjoy even to this day! “So, don’t protect the women and children first?” Really? Had Darwin’s “survival of the fittest” been taken to heart that fateful night in 1912, there would be a lot more women and children at the bottom of the Atlantic than there are right now! A lot more men would have sailed home on the Carpathia too. If you ask me, women have lost a whole lot more than they have gained in recent years because they have given up diamonds for dirt—and largely through self-inflicted wounds. I just think we need to raise our daughters to understand their unique gifts and value to the world as God has ordained—and without all the politically correct nonsense we see and hear about so often today. I know I’m a little biased, but I’m hoping today’s guest will help give us a perspective that will be refreshing and sensical to the mothers and daughters listening to this broadcast today. This is not a discussion you are going hear very often today, but I think it is a discussion that needs to be had. Today, Allison Wallace and I discuss raising daughters today as we cover the following topics: Why the feminist movement may be headed in the wrong direction. How you should train your daughters to view the role of a man and the role of a woman. The truth behind how teenage girls view today’s culture. Why we need to embrace chivalry. How should you help your child understand the #metoo movement. Why the culture seems to be missing the point in addressing modesty. Why it is important to teach your teens to critically think through what their peers say.

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Can Teens Transform Our Culture for Christ with Jordan Whitmer [Podcast]

While parents complain about these things, do they consider how they can help teens transform our culture? Let’s say a large number of public schools truly are as unhealthy as I’ve already mentioned. Let’s say that public schools truly are Junior’s only educational option. And let’s say that taking God and prayer out of schools really was the beginning of the end for America’s once stellar public education system. If this is the case, then let’s ask ourselves what, if anything, we can be doing—and equipping our kids to be doing—to transform it. Jordan Whitmer is the Founder and CEO of the #HowToLife movement. Jordan was raised in a passionate Christian family and chose to own his faith as a leader and to share Jesus with his generation. The movement Jordan started, #HowToLife, has now had 27 completely teen-led events in 10 states around the country, and the movement continues to expand rapidly. Jordan is a graduate of Liberty University and holds a bachelor’s degree in Biblical Studies. Why Christian Parents Must Be Active and Willing to Help Teens Transform Our Culture I have to be frank with you all. Even though I definitely think there is a point to be made, I get a little weary of hearing Christians moaning the blues about our government taking God and prayer out of the public school system and then doing little to nothing about it themselves. I’m not saying that nobody has attempted to do anything, because today’s guest is a great example of someone who actually is doing something. But with the infrastructure the church has had—and still has—here in America, I think, collectively, as the body of Christ, we could be doing a lot more. Beyond just being allowed to pray in school, I’m talking about bringing Christ more to the forefront of the hearts and minds of our citizenry as a whole. I think we got complacent, comfortable, and—as much as I hate to say it—lazy. We equated being an American with being a Christian. Today, we are seeing how that has been working out for us. But thank God for young people like today’s guest to help get things turned around. Today, Jordan Whitmer and I discuss young people, our culture, and the #HowtoLife movement as we cover the following topics: Who is Jordan Whitmer, and what is the #HowtoLife movement? Is Generation Z lost? 1 example of how a teen-led event sparked a movement. How is social media being used by teens for good? How can parents get involved? Examples of hope for this up and coming generation. Picture provided by: Tech. Sgt. Kelly Goonan

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Why Parents Should Teach Their Children the Importance of Modesty with Allison Wallace (Part 2) [Podcast]

Many of the issues that we talked about last time are rooted in a lack of modesty, humility, a biblical worldview, and traditional values. Today, we will be talking about the importance of modesty and what parents need to know about this topic. Allison Wallace is the Director of Program Development at Shepherds Hill Academy. Prior to holding this position, she was the Girls Wilderness Program Supervisor. She says working in residential care is not just a job, it is a passion for her. Allison studied Counseling Psychology and Developmental Psychology at Toccoa Falls College. She and her husband Joshua are both on staff here at Shepherds Hill Academy. In fact, they live on the SHA campus along with their beautiful little girl, Lilliana. How the Importance of Modesty Can Go Beyond How We Dress When people go to job interviews, they pay close attention to what they are wearing. Why? Because first impressions are really important. The clothes you wear to an interview will help with that first impression. If you wear sweatpants to an interview, chances are, you are going to make the impression that you did not take the interview very seriously. When you get dressed everyday, you are putting an impression of yourself out there. The question is, how do you want that to be interpreted by those around you? Let me be clear, this does not mean that if a woman wears something immodest, then it is OK for men to disrespect her. It certainly is not OK. But there is some level of self-responsibility that we need to take. As we get dressed, what do we want our clothes to say about us? How do we expect to be treated? And remember, just because we are talking about the importance of modesty for women does mean that men shouldn’t conduct themselves with modestly as well. Scripture certainly alludes to the importance of modesty for men and women. People can get off track with modest dressing, and many think modesty is only about how we dress. It so much more than that. Dress is a small part of it, but modesty is a heart issue and a character issue. It is how we handle ourselves, how we communicate, and how we hold ourselves. We really need to evaluate our hearts and ask why we are doing certain things. Bottom line: Where does your value come from? If you are looking for your value in other men or other women, then, chances are, this subject is really hard for you. If your value is coming from the Lord and you are confident in who you are, then, chances are, you are probably doing a little bit better in this area. Today we tackle the topic of modesty as we discuss the following subjects: Why is modesty important for women. How should mothers appropriately dress to be role models for their daughters? What role should husbands play in the conversation of modesty. How to avoid workplace sexual harassment? Unpacking the now trending war on men. Is makeup appropriate for teens? What does the term “submission” mean in today’s culture? Picture provided by: Donnie Ray Jones