Ep 19 "Ten Lies We Tell Ourselves" (Conclusion)

08/20/20 • 36 min

23 AUG 2021
Ep 19 "Ten Lies We Tell Ourselves" (Conclusion)
In today’s episode, I confess the biggest lie of them all. This is the lie that has plagued me since my early childhood. It wasn’t until just a few years ago that I finally recognized it for the lie it is.

But first, I wanted to address a couple of the lies that have been sent in by listeners.

Lie #1 -- My value lies in my productivity.

This lie has a close relative--a big brother, so to speak--and that’s the lie that we are saved by our works. These two lies are so closely related! One seeks to question our value as a child of God. The other seeks to question the value of Christ’s Atonement, suggesting that it isn’t enough.

Affirmation: “The Lord loves effort. But our VALUE in God’s eyes does not increase or decrease based on how productive we are. Our value lies in the pure and simple truth that we are beloved children of our Heavenly Father and Mother, and their love for us is endless and eternal.”

Lie #2: If I was a better mom, my kids wouldn’t have so many problems.

This lie is one that the adversary works overtime on, especially for moms with older children. I imagine Eve wondered where she had gone wrong. What could she have done to be a better mom to Cain? And Sariah. I wonder how many nights she spent tormenting herself for not being a better mom to Laman and Lemuel.

Our children are going to be tried and tested, not because of the mistakes we make as moms or dads, but because that is the way they will learn and grow.

Opposition activates our agency, and because of that, adversity becomes the catalyst for personal growth.

Affirmation: Making mistakes is part of being human. But my children are on their own spiritual journey. They will experience hardships and opposition because that is part of the Lord’s plan for sanctifying His children. Adversity has the power to sanctify my children if they will allow it to do so. The best thing I can do for my children is to encourage them to seek guidance from the Lord, and let them know my love for them is never based on their choices.

LIE #3, THE GRAND DADDY OF ALL LIES! “I KNOW GOD LOVES ME, BUT I’M NOT THE KIND OF PERSON THAT HE WANTS IN HIS KINGDOM. LOVING ME DOESN’T MEAN KEEPING ME WITH HIM.”

This lie led to all other lies I’ve ever told myself or believed. When you peel away all the layers and trace them back to their origins, this lie leads back to the heart of a little girl. A little girl who learned she was given up for adoption by her “real” mom. My parents told me that my birth mom loved me so much that she made the decision to give me up so I could have a family who would love me and care for me.

That's when the seed of this lie was planted. Once planted, it grew roots strong and deep.

Affirmation: “I am a daughter of God, and I am glorious! He created me to become like Him. God will never abandon or reject me because I am His. His love for me is both infinite and eternal, and intimate and personal.”

DO ONE THING

Email me, post a comment, or DM me letting me know which of the 12 affirmations resonates with you most. Share in your stories, feed, or DM someone you know who needs this affirmation.

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But first, I wanted to address a couple of the lies that have been sent in by listeners.

Lie #1 -- My value lies in my productivity.

Lie #2: If I was a better mom, my kids wouldn’t have so many problems.

Our children are going to be tried and tested, not because of the mistakes we make as moms or dads, but because that is the way they will learn and grow.

Opposition activates our agency, and because of that, adversity becomes the catalyst for personal growth.

LIE #3, THE GRAND DADDY OF ALL LIES! “I KNOW GOD LOVES ME, BUT I’M NOT THE KIND OF PERSON THAT HE WANTS IN HIS KINGDOM. LOVING ME DOESN’T MEAN KEEPING ME WITH HIM.”

That's when the seed of this lie was planted. Once planted, it grew roots strong and deep.

DO ONE THING

Email me, post a comment, or DM me letting me know which of the 12 affirmations resonates with you most. Share in your stories, feed, or DM someone you know who needs this affirmation.

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Ep 18: "3 Things Women Have Been Called to Do" with special guest, Becky Squire

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Episode 18, Edified Welcomes Special Guest, Becky Squire
Becky is the creator and editor of Latter-Day Woman magazine and has published in a variety of media including The Today Show, LDS Living, and Ensign Magazine. Her passion is mentoring women who feel called to influence the world online.
In this episode, Becky shares the inspiration that led her to create Latter-Day Woman magazine, and she talks about three things Latter-Day Saint women have been called to do at this time.
Episode Chapters
4:00 Becky's blog
7:45 Three things women in the church have been called to do
10:00 Spiritual Gifts
15:50 Latter-Day Woman Magazine
21:50 Family Proclamation 25th anniversary group study
33:55 How does Becky "hear HIM"?
37:05 What edifies Becky?
41:05 DOT Invitation for the week
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Coming next week, the conclusion to "Ten Lies We Tell Ourselves." This one gets personal, you for sure don't want to miss it!
Until next time . . .
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Ep 20: "On Any Given Sunday" Finding Joy in the Sabbath

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Ep 20. "On Any Given Sunday," Reflecting on our commitment and dedication to keeping the Sabbath Day holy
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Chapters:
3:00 Polly Knight
5:50 Excerpt from journal (25 years ago)
17:56 Looking back
20:00 Obedience brings blessings
21:40 Young mom shares her struggle
23:00 My daughter's story
25:47 Ask this question
27:00 Keeping the Sabbath during the pandemic
33:50 Advice to young moms
36:32 DOT Invitation
Some Key Points:
The ability for us to have church at home during the last five months has been a blessing for many of us, but it has also presented some unique challenges. Like how to maintain a feeling of holiness in our homes when we are surrounded by chaos. Now that we are meeting again in our chapels, some of us are experiencing mixed emotions. We've grown comfortable holding church on our own and on our own schedule. Now is a great time to look forward to how we can rededicate ourselves to Sunday worship and recommit to honoring and keeping the Sabbath Day holy.

My daughter-in-law relates, “Honestly, the Sabbath is not a delight (not in the least) unless I intentionally make it a delight. Instead of being frustrated that all four children are running in opposite directions and screaming by the end of the first hour, I have to choose to be grateful that they have healthy legs to run, strong lungs to scream, and generous and loving ward members who think they’re cute anyway.”

What an amazing perspective! And it fits perfectly with President Henry B. Eyring’s advice that we can make the Sabbath a delight by expressing our gratitude to the Lord for all of our blessings.
President Nelson has taught us that we don’t need a list of “do’s” and “don'ts” for keeping the Sabbath Day holy. All we need to do is ask ourselves, “What sign am I giving the Lord if I do this particular activity?”

During this COVID pandemic, we have had an opportunity to give a sign to the Lord by demonstrating our desires to keep the Sabbath Day holy. No one else was looking. Just our family. No one else knows if we chose to dress in our Sunday best. No one else knows what activities we deemed appropriate on Sunday afternoons. This is a great time to reflect on how faithful we were in observing the Sabbath Day during the past 5 months.

Now that we’ve become used to staying home and doing church on our own time, it might be difficult for some of us to recommit to regular church attendance. But we have a great opportunity here to begin again. To rededicate ourselves to honoring and keeping the Sabbath Day holy.

The advice I always give to young mothers is to just keep swimming. Maybe you spend 3⁄4 of your time in the foyer at church. Maybe your Sundays are hectic madness, the way mine often were. Maybe you can’t keep your child’s attention for more than five minutes when you try to have family prayer, CFM lessons, or FHE. But just keep swimming! They are picking up more than you realize! I promise you it will all be worth it.

DO ONE THING

Reflect on your Sabbath Day observance. What is one thing you can do better? Or one thing you aren’t doing right now, but know that you should? If you’re not sure where to start, ask the Lord to help you. He will answer.
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