WHY BEING “NICE” IS MAKING YOU MISERABLE: How to stop people pleasing and finally put yourself first

03/26/25 • 32 min

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Are you constantly saying yes when you mean no? Feeling anxious about being liked? Putting everyone else’s needs before your own... then burning out in silence? You might be stuck in a people pleasing loop... and it’s time to break free.
In this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rich and Rox dive deep into the roots of people pleasing, from childhood conditioning to ADHD-related rejection sensitivity. They share personal stories, relationship reflections, and how unlearning the “good girl/good boy” mindset changed everything.
Expect raw honesty, a few uncomfortable truths, and practical advice on how to:
– Stop caring what everyone thinks
– Set boundaries without guilt
– Start living for you
It’s not about being selfish, it's about being yourself!

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