Unlearning Masculinity: What it Truly Means to Be a Man with Stefanos Sifandos | Relationships

Today we’re taking a deep dive into a topic we haven’t explored in a little while on the IGNTD Podcast, and that is masculinity. Many men struggle with this concept of masculinity and what it means to “be a man.” These struggles often stem from early childhood experiences and are further perpetuated by society. But, the conversation is beginning to shift. Many men are beginning to embody a new version of masculinity and relearn what it really means to truly “be a man.”

 

Joining me to take this deep dive into masculinity today is my special guest, Stefanos Sifandos. For the last 15 years, Stef has been doing a ton of work in his field, exploring concepts around masculinity and transformation. He is a Relationship Specialist, a Masculine/Feminine Educator, coach, and speaker. As a sought-after innovator in the personal transformation, relationship, and leader space, Stef has served as a mentor and trainer to some of Australia’s top professional sporting teams, professional individual athletes, gold medalists, and more.

 

Together, we discuss the ways in which men can embody this new version of masculinity, what “being a man” really means, what real growth looks like, and how the healthy vs. the unhealthy aspects of masculinity show up in our lives. Stef also shares about his personal experiences with toxic masculinity, his journey in transformation, and all about the work that he does now to help others in their own journeys.

 

This was a really fun conversation that is sure to challenge all of us in creating better relationships, becoming more accountable, and taking massive strides into becoming the best version of ourselves that we can be.

 

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Topics Discussed:

[:33] About our sponsor, Niki’s Natural Wipes!

[2:04] About today’s episode with special guest, Stefanos Sifandos.

[3:44] About Philosophie Superfoods.

[5:30] Welcoming Stefanos on to the podcast and discussing why it is on men to change this idea of what masculinity is in this new age.

[7:43] Stef introduces himself, shares his personal journey, and why he is so passionate about this topic.

[13:09] Stef breaks down the healthy vs. unhealthy aspects of masculinity.

[14:17] Distinguishing between the masculinity vs. femininity that resides in every human being.

[15:22] What was the origin of Stef’s pain around his masculinity? What did those feelings feel like?

[18:37] My experiences in childhood and my sources of pain around masculinity.

[20:22] How Stef dealt with his early childhood trauma that manifested in toxic masculinity and troubled relationships.

[22:20] What was the catalyst in Stef’s life for change?

[26:11] Reflecting on my relationship with Sophie and how toxic masculinity played a role.

[28:46] Was there a moment where Stef realized he had to make these changes for himself and not anyone else?

[31:15] Techniques, tactics, tips, and advice that helped transform Stef’s life.

[37:19] Stef shares some moments from the last 5–6 years where he was able to see the progress he has made in terms of his personal growth. He also speaks about the other important aspects that are key to your growth.

[42:58] Sharing a moment of when I was able to see my personal growth, as well as a moment when I was challenged in Sophie’s and my relationship.

[48:40] Has Stef’s new way of being ever been challenged or put to the test? If so, how did he deal with it or overcome the challenge?

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