Hurt Meets Healer Podcast

When it comes to healing from betrayal trauma and addiction, are you trying to fix a problem or solve it? There's a profound difference, and it could determine whether your recovery lasts or fails.
Fixing applies a temporary patch to immediate symptoms. Like vacuuming only the visible parts of a room while ignoring what's under the furniture, it creates an illusion of completeness when crucial work remains undone. Solving, however, addresses root causes and creates sustainable change through an ongoing process of growth and healing.
This distinction shapes our recovery. True repentance isn't just saying "sorry" when caught, but repeatedly allowing your heart to be softened until change becomes natural. Healing requires individual work alongside couple's work—you can't "fix" another person, but you can partner to clean up the mess together, each taking responsibility for your own healing journey.
Trust issues exist on both sides. The betrayed partner wonders if they're getting the complete truth, watching for "uncleaned corners" that signal continued deception. Meanwhile, the betraying partner must overcome shame to share vulnerably, learning that missing something doesn't define their character but offers an opportunity to grow.
Like a caterpillar becoming a butterfly, transformation happens through a God-designed process that can't be rushed. We grow incrementally through repeated choices to respond differently, fight through shame, and practice vulnerability when hiding feels safer. These small changes compound to create lasting transformation.
What part of your recovery journey are you trying to fix when you should be solving? Share your experience or ask questions about process-oriented healing approaches. Your story matters, and we're here to listen.

Thank you for listening! For more information about us and the services we offer, visit www.hurtmeetshealer.com.

Intro & Outro music written, performed, and produced by Kim Capps.

This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal, medical, or professional advice. The views expressed by the Host or any Guest(s) are strictly their own and in no way constitute legal, medical, or professional advice.
Copyright ©️ 2025, Hurt Meets Healer, LLC. All rights reserved.

Welcome to the Hurt Meets Healer Podcast. In this introductory episode, I share the beginnings of my story. This is part 1 of a 3 part series.

Thank you for listening! For more information about us and the services we offer, visit www.hurtmeetshealer.com.

Intro & Outro music written, performed, and produced by Kim Capps.

This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal, medical, or professional advice. The views expressed by the Host or any Guest(s) are strictly their own and in no way constitute legal, medical, or professional advice.
Copyright ©️ 2025, Hurt Meets Healer, LLC. All rights reserved.

Kim continues sharing her story.

Thank you for listening! For more information about us and the services we offer, visit www.hurtmeetshealer.com.

Intro & Outro music written, performed, and produced by Kim Capps.

This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal, medical, or professional advice. The views expressed by the Host or any Guest(s) are strictly their own and in no way constitute legal, medical, or professional advice.
Copyright ©️ 2025, Hurt Meets Healer, LLC. All rights reserved.

When does a negative thought pattern cross the line from protection to poison? Kim and John Capps tackle the thorny subject of resentment after betrayal, exploring the subtle difference between setting boundaries and harboring bitterness.
Drawing from both research and raw personal experience, they break down the eight key factors that transform everyday hurts into hardened resentment: unresolved conflict, fixating on others' faults, communication breakdowns, feeling overlooked, repeated deception, unmet expectations, neglected needs, and harmful comparison. As Kim vulnerably shares, "I had pretty much silently divorced you in my heart," listeners gain a window into the devastating impact of years of addiction and deception on a relationship.
What makes this episode particularly valuable is the practical spiritual wisdom about distinguishing between having difficult thoughts (which is normal) and allowing those thoughts to become sin through rumination and indulgence. Their honest exchange about forgiveness presents it not as erasing consequences but as "canceling the debt" that releases the wounded person from carrying the burden.
Whether you're recovering from betrayal or simply struggling with everyday resentments, this conversation offers both validation and challenge – acknowledging the legitimacy of pain while pointing toward the freedom that comes through releasing resentment's grip. Ready to examine what's really behind your "bad days"? This episode provides the roadmap.

Quotes/Resources:
“What you pay attention to, is what you will remember, and what you remember is what you will anticipate in the future.” - Curt Thompson, Anatomy of the Soul

Article “Your Brain on Resentment” - link Psychology Today

Thank you for listening! For more information about us and the services we offer, visit www.hurtmeetshealer.com.

Intro & Outro music written, performed, and produced by Kim Capps.

This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal, medical, or professional advice. The views expressed by the Host or any Guest(s) are strictly their own and in no way constitute legal, medical, or professional advice.
Copyright ©️ 2025, Hurt Meets Healer, LLC. All rights reserved.

Kim unpacks a word that, when not used, causes distress and anger.

Thank you for listening! For more information about us and the services we offer, visit www.hurtmeetshealer.com.

Intro & Outro music written, performed, and produced by Kim Capps.

This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal, medical, or professional advice. The views expressed by the Host or any Guest(s) are strictly their own and in no way constitute legal, medical, or professional advice.
Copyright ©️ 2025, Hurt Meets Healer, LLC. All rights reserved.