Hope For Wives

Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com

Today, Lyschel and Kathy Reynolds are talking about the shame a wife experiences, whether she stays or goes.

Kathy is our special guest today! Her training under renowned professionals such as Dr. Barbara Steffens and Dr. Jake Porter has equipped her with expertise in the APSATS Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model and the Couple-Centered Recovery Model. She also holds certification as a Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional (PSAP) through the International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP).

Her work includes facilitating therapeutic disclosure intensives, grief work intensives for couples, individual coaching for betrayed partners, and couples coaching with her husband, Conrad. Kathy is also the lead facilitator of ‘Returning to You,’ an innovative and intensive week-long program for betrayed partners hosted at Daring Ventures’ beautiful retreat center, The Magnolia House.

Kathy is passionate about empowering and equipping betrayed partners with the tools to heal, grow, and reclaim their shattered lives with grit and grace.

1. What is “stay shame” and “go shame” and how will a woman know she’s experiencing one of these?
2. What was Kathy’s defining moment where she let go of that shame?

Join us next week for part 2!

• Recalibrate Coaching Services with Kathy and Conrad Reynolds

Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com

Today, we are continuing our discussion around cognitive distortions. How do we navigate or overcome them as we grow and heal?

There are over 13 common cognitive distortions that we navigate over and over in daily thoughts. CDs are important to understand because they can negatively affect our emotions and choices. They can keep us stuck and interfere with our ability to set boundaries, gain self awareness, and live in community. We are bringing this to our listeners today because we agree with M. Scott Peck when he said, “Mental health is dedication to reality at all costs.”

As a reminder, we are not mental health professionals. We are professionals and leaders navigating the waters of betrayal trauma with you. Our knowledge comes from the countless hours of training and personal experience each of us have accumulated over the years.

1. What are some ways you can navigate around CDs or eliminate them?
2. Can you ever change or heal CD?
3. What hope can we leave for a betrayed partner feeling crazy from the wide array of thoughts and emotions that she cycles through?

• “Who I Am In Christ,” scripture list compiled by Neil T. Anderson.

Bible Verses Referenced:Philippians 4:8, "Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—thin about such things." Ephesians 6:10-17, "Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God."

• Learn more about changing cognitive distortions in this short online course by Pam Blizzard of Recovered Peace, "Clearing Cognitive Distortions: A Practical Guide to Clarity of Reality"

Help Us Help Others

Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com

Welcome to another episode of Hope For Wives. Today, we are discussing Cognitive Distortions.

There are over 13 common cognitive distortions that we navigate over and over in daily thoughts. CDs are important to understand because they can negatively affect our emotions and choices. They can keep us stuck and interfere with our ability to set boundaries, gain self awareness, and live in community.

We are bringing this to our listeners today because we agree with M. Scott Peck when he said, “Mental health is dedication to reality at all costs.”

As a reminder, we are not mental health professionals. We are professionals and leaders navigating the waters of betrayal trauma with you. Our knowledge comes from the countless hours of training and personal experience each of us have accumulated over the years.

1. What are they? ANTs, Unwanted Neg Thoughts
2. Why would it be important for me to learn about CB as a person who is healing from betrayal trauma?
3. What have been some of your personal experiences with cognitive distortions?
4. What HOPE can we leave our listeners?

• Here is a short blog post on cognitive distortions from Psych Central.
• Take this short course, "Clearing Cognitive Distortions: A Practical Guide to Clarity of Reality" from Pam Blizzard at Recoverd Peace

Philippians 4:8

Help Us Help Others

Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com

1. What are some experiences either you or your clients have shared regarding insensitive friends and family?
2. Why is this kind of situation so uncomfortable?
3. What hope can we leave?

Visit episode 68's website at hopeforwives.com for access to two PDFs. Facts sheets that explains simply the reality of betrayal trauma and problematic sexual behavior.

Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com

1. She kicked him out in the heat of the moment and now she wants to transform the separation into therapeutic, what would you say to her?
2. How is a therapeutic separation a form of mental health care?
3. What do you tell the kids about the separation?
4. What hope can we leave?

• Episode 12: Therapeutic or Healing Separation
• Separation Documents and Guides to purchase by Shawna Meek Healing Separation Document example – pdf Covenant Eyes blog – Can A Therapeutic Separation Help?