Here's The Thing...

During a time when so many things are uncertain, it's helpful to look at the things we can and can not control. This episode will give you a quick intro to the CIRCLE OF CONTROL and how the quote "Sloppy success beats perfect mediocrity" from Alex Mandossian might give you some perspective.

If there is something you would like us to answer or discuss on a future episode, please message Kim on TikTok @kimlukens or you can also message us on IG @heresthethingteenpodcast.

Quick Episode Summary:

• What to expect today
• What Kim’s house is like
• Whats important to remember
• The circle of control
• The three things you can’t control
• The three things you can control
• How distancing can benefit you

Thank you to our listeners! Our first questions have come in and we are answering them today!

If there is something you would like us to answer or discuss on a future episode, please message Kim on TikTok @kimlukens or you can also message us on IG @heresthethingteenpodcast.

Quick Episode Summary:

• Your questions answered!
• Why we are on TikTok
• Why you shouldn’t Google
• The most embarrassing thing that happened to Kim and Melisa as teens
• It’s easy to be kind
• Why parents are overprotective
• Why grounding you can suck for moms too
• Keeping the bubble

This episode provides a high-level introduction to Enneagram for teens 13+ with an overview of the nine motivation types, as well as their strengths and weaknesses.

We discuss the numbers "in a nutshell" and what self-care looks like. 'Ennea' is Greek for nine, and 'gram' is greek for figure or drawing. So the simple definition of Enneagram is a nine-pointed figure. It is nine ways of seeing and experiencing the world and helps us understand who we are and what motivates us. If you are interested in learning more about Enneagram, we strongly encourage you to read, study or listen to podcasts first, before taking the test. Materials and interviews with Casey McCollum is a great place to start. A good first book is The Road Back to You by Suzanne Stabile. And if you decide to take the test online, we recommend the one by Beth McCord on her

LINKS:

• yourenneagramcoach.com.

Quick Episode Summary:

• Becoming self-aware
• The different types of enneagram
• Kim's enneagram results
• Preparing yourself for any situation
• Handling negative emotions
• Understanding your self-care style
• Resources to learn more about the enneagram

**EPISODE NOTE - Before airing, we did receive permission to share all of the stories that belonged to others. We believe it is important to always ask permission.

In this episode, we will talk about things that you don't like but you feel like you should. The things that you go along without of fear of breaking from what is popular or "socially" acceptable. Teens often find themselves following trends even when they don't understand them. We discuss the idea of knowing yourself and how powerful it can be to have the confidence to stay true to your inner voice.

We talk about being bold enough to start your own trends, learning your likes and dislikes, and the importance of paying attention to what you say yes to. Reference was made to the Netflix series To All The Boys I've Loved Before.

Quick Episode Summary:

• You don't have to like what everyone else likes
• Melissa's family hates water parks
• Kim's terrible Disney memory
• How Melissa's daughter sets trends
• Why boys where scrunchies on their wrist
• The difference between girls and boys minds
• What's coming up next

Betsy Cadel is a college essay specialist with over 30 years of experience as a writer and marketing expert.

Her company, College Essay Helpers, works with high school juniors to write compelling essays that will impress admissions officers to increase their chances of getting into their dream school while reducing stress, family tension and feeling overwhelmed.

As a former advertising copywriter, she’s sold everything from trucks to tampons and brings that marketing savvy to her role as an essay coach not just to help students tell their most authentic, deepest story, but to position them so that they stand out from thousands of other applicants.

She’s written two parenting resource books and scripted over 100 how-to tech tutorials for time-strapped moms. Betsy’s also an empty nester and mom to a college junior. She lives in New York City with her husband and Aussie terrier, Pixel.

Visit collegeessayhelpers.com to learn more about how she’s helped so many families successfully navigate the college essay process.

LINKS:

Resources referenced in today's episode: hwww.bls.gov/careeroutlook/2021/article/mobile/field-of-degree-and-careers.htm

https://www.bls.gov/ooh

Social Media Links:

Linktree: https://linktr.ee/collegeessayhelpers

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IG: www.instagram.com/collegeessayhelpers

Clubhouse: https://www.joinclubhouse.com/@betsycadel

Website: collegeessayhelpers.com

You can connect with Kim at:

TikTok @kimlukens or can find all of her connections spots through on https://linktr.ee/kimlukens

QUICK EPISODE SUMMARY

• Get to know Betsy
• How detours can become on-ramps
• How parents can delay the college application process
• You don’t have to have it all figured out
• Betsy’s best advice for parents
• Where to start with the college process
• Your skills could be a clue to your calling
• How a school newspaper can tell you everything you need
• Create a schedule that is manageable