Han and Matt Know It All

Han and Matt write a love letter to Reddit Relationships and have the honor of interviewing moderator Alex "ResidentBlackGuy" Spruiell! During the interview portion of the show, they discuss how Alex became a moderator, what makes r/relationships the best subreddit for advice, the worst partner so far of 2019, and much more!

1. ResidentBlackGuy
   • Alex Spruiell on Twitter
   • Podcast: Black & Yellow
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3. [BONUS Discussion for $5 and up patrons] #100: The Best & Worst Advice Column Humans of 2018 (Ft. Ask a Manager and Captain Awkward): Partners Category
   • Worst Partner: "The Boyfriend" in r/relationships' "I[30] am having a mastectomy due to breast cancer and my boyfriend [29] of 4 years is having a hard time with my decision."
   • Dishonorable Mention: "The Boyfriend" in r/relationships' "I'm [24F] on vacation without my boyfriend [33 M] because he missed his flight. Would it be wrong to live it up and ignore him for a few weeks?"
4. [BONUS Discussion for $5 and up patrons] r/relationships: "My [22F] boyfriend [24M] cut the tip of his finger OFF as a "joke" for my Valentine’s Day gift."
5. Reddit Relationships in Three Nutshells
   • Should I key her car?
   • Is this a dealbreaker?
   • Is it mean if I ask him to stop?
6. Listener The Tireless Mind Flayer: "My [46F] girlfriend of 3 months won't invite me [49M] over to her house"
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8. Advice Column Alert: "Who's the Asshole Here?" on Lifehacker
9. Shoutout to John Paul Brammer on Columbia Journalism Review: "The Advice Column Renaissance"
10. Shoutout to Yolanda, Cynosure of the Net (AKA The Golden One) for our first P.O. Box Gift at our New Address
    • And an additional shoutout to Aephe, Stout Battlemage, for sending us AN ENTIRE BOXFUL OF LOVE HEARTS CANDIES
11. Shoutout to Broadway World: "TINY BEAUTIFUL THINGS at Long Wharf"
12. Shoutout to Dear Dabby: "How Do I Work in Weed?" In Cannabis Now
13. Shoutout to Ask the Salty Waitress: "My food came out suspiciously early" for Sounding Like an Onion Headline
14. Shoutout to Ask a Manager: "my coworker is setting toilet paper on fire in the bathroom"

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Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of February 10th, 2019, and beyond, including:

1. WINTER MEETUP:
   • Washington, DC, Busboys and Poets on K Street
   • March 16th, 6 PM - 10 PM
   • Facebook Event
2. Ask a Manager: "we have twice-daily mandatory group therapy at work"
   • "my office has a mandatory feelings chart"
   • "my boss wants us to all share our mental health needs – at every meeting"
3. Ask Amy: "Offensive remarks too close for comfort"
4. Carolyn Hax: "Angry comments on news sites and Facebook? Thats my husband."
5. Dear Abby: "Second Wife-To-Be Wants Man's Name All To Herself"
6. Dear Prudence: "Should I move in with my hoarder boyfriend?"
7. Miss Manners: "Business class welcomes all who can pay for the seat"
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9. Listener Lygeia, Cunning Mesmerist: "How Do I Support a Friend Going Through a Breakup?" + An Update!
   • Reference: "#50: Hannah and Matt Condemn Name Thieves"
10. Shoutout to Entertainment Weekly: "Dumplin' author Julie Murphy previews delectable new novel Dear Sweet Pea"
11. Shoutout to Beast Mode: "My Cats Won't Stop Jumping Onto the Counters"
12. Shoutout to r/dndnext/: "A min-maxer is destroying my group."
13. Advice Podcast Alert: Nick Viall's "The Viall Files"
14. Ted Talks: "Sex Needs a New Metaphor. Here's One." (Pizza!)

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Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of September 9th, 2018, and beyond, including:

1. Ask a Manager: "my office has a mandatory feelings chart"
   • Ask a Manager: "my boss wants us to all share our mental health needs – at every meeting"
2. The Ethicist: "What Should I Do With Old Racist Memorabilia?"
3. Dear Prudence: "My Boyfriend Tricked Me Into Becoming Friends With His Other Girlfriend"
4. r/relationships: "My [41/F] husband [41M] does not brush his teeth, and I'm at my wits end."
   • GQ: "Men, Please Brush Your Teeth"
   • Jezebel: "Men Going to Lose All Their Damn Teeth, Probably!"
   • Daily Mail: "Men aren't brushing their teeth every day and their wives are grossed out"
5. Ask The Salty Waitress: "I need an exemption from this restaurant's cell-phone ban"
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7. Listener Colenka the Saucy Rogue: "My Friend Keeps Bringing Her Boyfriend As a Plus One When He's Not Invited and How Do I Stop This?"
8. Shoutout to Washington Post: "Brides are too afraid of being 'bridezilla' to ask for what they want"
9. Shoutout to Slate: "I Gave Advice on a Hugely Popular Reddit Forum for a Week. If Only People Wanted My Answers."
10. Shoutout to TV Guide: "Facebook Watch Tries to Go Legit with Sorry for Your Loss"
11. Shoutout to The Guardian: "Think it feels like the end of the world? Try reading a self-help column"
12. Shoutout to Well and Good: "Miss you already Dear Sugars: 5 life-changing lessons I learned from my favorite advice podcast"
13. Shoutout to Care and Feeding: "I'm the white parent of a biracial child. How should I deal with his potential use of the N-word?"
14. Shoutout to Savage Love: "She Didn't Actually Cheat—Almost Did, But Didn't—But Her Husband Is Sure She Will Cheat Sometime. So Why Not Punish Her Now?"
15. Advice Column Alert: "The Q" on Project Q
16. Advice Column Alert: "Dearly Beloved" on INTO
    • Keep It: "Harriet Tubman Killed the Queen Radio Star"
17. Advice Column Alert: "The Pickle" on Slate

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Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of September 2nd, 2018, and beyond, including:

1. BONUS: Opinion Overflow LIVE!
2. Ask a Manager: "HR wants our personal cell numbers in our out-of-office messages so we can always be contacted"
   • Ask a Manager: my manager shows up while I’m having chemotherapy to talk about work
   • Ask a Manager: my boss made me leave a work note at a grave, company won’t tell us when someone is fired, and more
3. Dear Mariella: "My boyfriend called me a slut now I dread seeing him"
   • Julia Clare: "Straight Women Need to Unionize" Tweet
4. Asking For a Friend: "I Want to Explore Polyamory, My Partner Doesn't. What Should I Do?"
5. Dear Abby: "Fiancee Wants Her Intended To Halt 'boys' Club' Culture"
6. Baggage Check: "My girlfriend complains that I am 'no fun' after losing weight"
   • Savage Love: "I'm Turned On When I Force My Boyfriend to Eat, but Am I Forcing Him to Eat Too Much?"
7. SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with!
8. Listener Zaphrus Sabersong, Stalwart Mystic: "Is It Okay to Lie to My Grandmother About Having Reported Her to the DMV?"
9. Update to the Nameless One's Question: "On Bodies, Weddings, and Chronic Illness (The POWER TRIO)
   • Reference: "#71: Han and Matt Hoard Their Apps"
10. Listener Rachel the Librarian Knows a Thing or Two About Attaining US Citizenship
    • Reference: "#82: Han and Matt Proceed With Caution"; Listener Sorrowfang: "Should I Get Married Quicker Than I'm Comfortable with so My Partner Can Get a Visa?"
11. Shoutout to Care and Feeding: "Can I ask my newly out son to be less flamboyant at school so his little brother won’t get bullied?"
12. Shoutout to Ask Amy: "The Other Woman Wants to Be the Only Woman"
13. Shoutout to My Kid Is Gay: "How Do I Talk About Periods with My Non-Binary Kid?"
14. Shoutout to Miss Manners: "Public confrontations: ineffective, counterproductive"
15. Shoutout to Ask a Manager: "update: my dad is dating my boss, and they want me to go to couples therapy with them"
16. Advice Column Alert: "The Activist Whisperer"on Lush

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Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of October 7th, 2018, and beyond, including:

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2. Dear Prudence: "I Told My Partner About My Sexual Assault. He Told Me to 'Get Over It.'"
3. Ask a Manager: "my office does Fat Friday — and I have an eating disorder"
4. Social Q's: "Dating After #MeToo"
5. Ask APW: "Am I Overcomplicating The Hell Out Of My Bridal Shower?"
6. Miss Lonelyhearts: "Hubby has a sex buddy — and it's a man"
7. SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with!
8. Listener Not Really Envious: "I don't get NRE and now it's a problem"
9. Shoutout to Washington Post: "Self-proclaimed 'Old Coots' offer life advice at farmers market. Their slogan: 'It's Probably Bad Advice, But It's Free.'"
10. Shoutout to Captain Awkward: "We decided to leave our abusive ex and move to another state, only she came with us and is living on our couch?"
11. Shoutout to Savage Love: "Everything Gives You Cancer"
12. Shoutout to Consequence of Sound: "Speedy Ortiz share new track DTMFA: Stream"
    • Adult Swim Singles Program: "DTMFA"
13. Listener Update from Differently Gymtimidated
    • Reference: From Ep 89: "My Girlfriend Wants to Work Out Together; I Would Rather Keep Working Out Separately"
14. Shoutout to ABC.net Australia: "Polyamory, unicorns, demisexuality: Five takes on monogamy and its alternatives"
15. The "WOMP It Up!" Podcast Now Has an Advice Section at the End
    • Brian Huskey Episode (Advice starts at 45:05)
16. The State of the World
17. Sugar and Charm: "Apothic Dark Sangria Recipe"

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