Gumball Love Podcast

A lot of coaches out there will tell you feeling butterflies around a new guy is a bad sign, because it means your nervous system is recognizing danger. This just isn't totally true, butterflies CAN actually be a good thing, as long as they're not overtaking your ability to spot the potential red flags.

In this episode, I'm breaking down:

• What the sensation of butterflies actually is from a physiological perspective
• Why, from a physiological perspective, butterflies aren't always a bad thing
• My personal experience with butterflies and how it's gone both good and bad
• When feeling butterflies becomes a bad thing
• How you can distinguish between when the butterflies are a warning sign vs. just excitement

Feeling uncomfortable on dates, like you have to perform, be someone you're not, anxious wondering what he's thinking of you? I help my clients feel totally confident in their skin on dates, and to know how to spot the red flags. You don't have to be currently dating to work with me, in fact, it's great if you're not currently dating!

Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how:

• The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or,
• The Elite VIP Group Coaching Masterclass sessions
• Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504
• Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

This episode was inspired by a listener who messaged me about her situation. She says the guy is not a Gumball Guy, he's nice and he loves her, but there's other issues...she noticed he has anxious attachment style and has been unwilling to get the help he needs, their core values are misaligned, and their levels of motivation and work ethic are different.

She's wondering if it's worth it to stick with him, or if he's not the one.

I share in this episode what questions to ask yourself to know if you should continue dating someone, even if they're not a Gumball Guy, or if it's best to move on.

If you're stuck in this situation, I can help!

Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how:

• The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or,
• The Elite VIP Group Coaching Masterclass sessions
• Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504
• Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

Are you dating with a sense of urgency and a timeline?

If you ask any happily married couple if they had a sense of urgency to find the one when they met each other, most of them will probably say no.

When you're dating with this mentality, it's like you're starving, and so ANYTHING to eat looks good. It clouds your judgement, and you'll either miss the red flags or rationalize them to keep things moving along.

In this episode, we reverse-engineer dating by looking at what causes divorces, and what happy marriages have in common, so you can know what to look for and what to avoid.

If you're having trouble moving out of that "urgency" mentality, especially if you're dating after 30, I can help!

Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how:

• The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or,
• The Elite VIP Group Coaching Masterclass sessions
• Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504
• Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

Not attracting the quality men you're looking for on the dating sites? In this episode, I give you my proven top tips for improving your online dating profile and the first couple interactions to collapse your timeline and find your high-quality man faster.

We talk about:

• How to make sure your profile isn't generic and stands out from the crowd while staying true to who you are
• Red flags to look out for in the initial text messages with a guy so you can filter through the duds faster and save loads of time
• How soon you should move away from texting and move to phone/video call or in-person meet up
• How to grow your self-worth so you no longer settle for Gumball Guys

Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how:

• The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or,
• The Elite VIP Group Coaching Masterclass sessions
• Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504
• Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

Coaching results, 4 years later! Kristy didn't want to get a coach. She said, "I'm smart, I am successful, I should be able to figure this out." When her best friend told her, "We can't keep having this conversation, you need to talk to someone" It was a sign. Kristy is a total badass, finance guru (paid off over $400K in debt in 18 months), and single mom of her gorgeous teenage daughter. We sat down to talk about "Where are things now? and Do the results last?"

We also discuss:

• What was the breaking point when she knew it was time to leave her marriage even though she had a one and a half year old daughter with him
• How she decided it was finally time to invest in a coach
• What benefits she got from coaching
• What she would say to someone considering coaching but on the fence
• How her life is now, four years later

Work with Kristy:

www.simplesuccessfinance.com

Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how:

• The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or,
• The Elite VIP Group Coaching Masterclass sessions
• Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504
• Follow Melissa on Instagram: @melissajaneroberts