Developing More Humility in Your Marriage #030

The coming together of a husband and wife is a challenging experience that requires compromise, courage, and humility. This week we talk about what true humility is, why it is so important, and then we discuss five specific ways you can further develop humility in yourself and your marriage:

1. Take responsibility for your side of the equation.
2. Look for your spouse's strengths. And, verbalize them.
3. Seek to understand your spouse's point of view. And, listen well.
4. Be willing to admit when you are wrong and ask for forgiveness.
5. Give your spouse permission to provide you with feedback.
   • Corollary: Be extremely gentle, kind, and encouraging when providing your spouse with feedback.

A few resources that we reference during the conversation include:

• Measuring Humility and Its Positive Effects by Don Emerson Davis, Jr. and Joshua N. Hook in Association for Psychological Science
• Religious Involvement, Humility, and Change in Self-Rated Health Over Time by Neal Krause in Journal of Psychology and Theology
• Do These Six Things to Be More Humble by Patty Onderko in Success Magazine
• Quote: "One good question is worth 100 good answers..." by Paul Shoemaker, author of Can't Not Do: The Compelling Social Drive that Changes Our World
• Quote: "True humility is not thinking less of yourself, it is thinking of yourself less." (attributed to various authors)

The Stat of the Week is all about Leap Day (February 29th) and somehow includes Ja Rule (NSFW).
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