How Purity Culture Can Ruin Your Sex Life
02/18/25 • 37 min
In today’s episode, we explore the complexities of purity culture and how it can impact your sex life—both before and after marriage.
We discuss the core of purity culture—its emphasis on abstinence and sexual purity until marriage—highlighting how it often leaves us with feelings of shame, guilt, and confusion about healthy sexual desires. From the “True Love Waits” movement to the fear-based tactics that reinforce a narrow view of sex, we break down the unintended consequences this can have on intimacy, communication, and self-worth.
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Chapters
00:00 The Pursuit of Intimacy: A New Perspective on Sex
02:55 The Impact of Purity Culture on Relationships
06:11 True Love Waits: The Promise and Pitfalls
08:55 Shame and Guilt: The Hidden Costs of Purity Culture
12:09 Communication: The Key to Healthy Intimacy
14:49 The Fear Factor: Risks and Consequences of Sexual Sin
18:06 The Need for Comprehensive Sex Education
20:53 Finding Freedom in God's Design for Sex
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Dustyn and Heather Miller are the voices behind the Greater Marriage Podcast. With a combined 25+ years of ministry experience, they have dedicated their lives to serving others and strengthening marriages.
Dustyn, a Bible school graduate, jumped into full-time ministry immediately after completing his studies. His heart for people and commitment to God's calling have driven him to serve in various leadership capacities over the years. Heather, after earning her degree in business, also entered full-time ministry, where she and Dustyn worked side-by-side in youth and children’s ministries for more than a decade. Today, they lead a thriving Young Marrieds ministry at their local church, where they are passionate about helping couples build strong, lasting relationships.
Married for 12 years and the parents of three children, Dustyn and Heather's marriage is a testament to the power of God's grace. Heather's journey is also marked by resilience—having been widowed before marrying Dustyn, she brings a unique perspective on healing, restoration, and the redemptive power of God. Their greatest joy is seeing marriages restored, strengthened, and thriving.
Through their podcast, they offer practical advice, biblical wisdom, and heartfelt encouragement to couples at every stage of marriage. They believe that every marriage can be greater, no matter the challenges, and they are on a mission to inspire couples to pursue God's best for their relationships.
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Keywords: marriage, communication, red flags, warning signs, counseling, boundaries, childhood experiences, communication, marriage, emotional experiences, marriage, relationships, shared interests, individuality, intimacy, communication, compatibility, introversion, extroversion, personal growth
In today’s episode, we explore the complexities of purity culture and how it can impact your sex life—both before and after marriage.
We discuss the core of purity culture—its emphasis on abstinence and sexual purity until marriage—highlighting how it often leaves us with feelings of shame, guilt, and confusion about healthy sexual desires. From the “True Love Waits” movement to the fear-based tactics that reinforce a narrow view of sex, we break down the unintended consequences this can have on intimacy, communication, and self-worth.
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Chapters
00:00 The Pursuit of Intimacy: A New Perspective on Sex
02:55 The Impact of Purity Culture on Relationships
06:11 True Love Waits: The Promise and Pitfalls
08:55 Shame and Guilt: The Hidden Costs of Purity Culture
12:09 Communication: The Key to Healthy Intimacy
14:49 The Fear Factor: Risks and Consequences of Sexual Sin
18:06 The Need for Comprehensive Sex Education
20:53 Finding Freedom in God's Design for Sex
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DOWNLOAD “75 FUN & FLIRTY WAYS TO KEEP THE SPARK ALIVE” HERE ⬇️
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Connect with us
Website
@dustynmiller @heathermiller @greatermarriage
@dustynmiller @heathermiller @greatermarriage
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Dustyn and Heather Miller are the voices behind the Greater Marriage Podcast. With a combined 25+ years of ministry experience, they have dedicated their lives to serving others and strengthening marriages.
Dustyn, a Bible school graduate, jumped into full-time ministry immediately after completing his studies. His heart for people and commitment to God's calling have driven him to serve in various leadership capacities over the years. Heather, after earning her degree in business, also entered full-time ministry, where she and Dustyn worked side-by-side in youth and children’s ministries for more than a decade. Today, they lead a thriving Young Marrieds ministry at their local church, where they are passionate about helping couples build strong, lasting relationships.
Married for 12 years and the parents of three children, Dustyn and Heather's marriage is a testament to the power of God's grace. Heather's journey is also marked by resilience—having been widowed before marrying Dustyn, she brings a unique perspective on healing, restoration, and the redemptive power of God. Their greatest joy is seeing marriages restored, strengthened, and thriving.
Through their podcast, they offer practical advice, biblical wisdom, and heartfelt encouragement to couples at every stage of marriage. They believe that every marriage can be greater, no matter the challenges, and they are on a mission to inspire couples to pursue God's best for their relationships.
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Keywords: marriage, communication, red flags, warning signs, counseling, boundaries, childhood experiences, communication, marriage, emotional experiences, marriage, relationships, shared interests, individuality, intimacy, communication, compatibility, introversion, extroversion, personal growth
Previous Episode
How Can We Improve Our Sex Life?
In this episode, we’re continuing our series all about creating a greater sex life in marriage. In today’s chat, we’re diving into the Biblical foundation of intimacy and sharing simple, real-life tips to boost your connection—physically, emotionally, and spiritually. From staying healthy to keeping the romance alive, we’ve got some fun and easy ideas to help you grow closer and keep things exciting!
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Chapters
00:00 The Sacredness of Sex in Marriage
04:48 God's Intention for Intimacy
10:03 Sex as Worship
14:59 Breaking the Stigma of Purity Culture
20:14 Practical Steps to Improve Your Sex Life
30:06 Emotional and Spiritual Intimacy
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DOWNLOAD “75 FUN & FLIRTY WAYS TO KEEP THE SPARK ALIVE” HERE ⬇️
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Connect with us
Website
@dustynmiller @heathermiller @greatermarriage
@dustynmiller @heathermiller @greatermarriage
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Dustyn and Heather Miller are the voices behind the Greater Marriage Podcast. With a combined 25+ years of ministry experience, they have dedicated their lives to serving others and strengthening marriages.
Dustyn, a Bible school graduate, jumped into full-time ministry immediately after completing his studies. His heart for people and commitment to God's calling have driven him to serve in various leadership capacities over the years. Heather, after earning her degree in business, also entered full-time ministry, where she and Dustyn worked side-by-side in youth and children’s ministries for more than a decade. Today, they lead a thriving Young Marrieds ministry at their local church, where they are passionate about helping couples build strong, lasting relationships.
Married for 12 years and the parents of three children, Dustyn and Heather's marriage is a testament to the power of God's grace. Heather's journey is also marked by resilience—having been widowed before marrying Dustyn, she brings a unique perspective on healing, restoration, and the redemptive power of God. Their greatest joy is seeing marriages restored, strengthened, and thriving.
Through their podcast, they offer practical advice, biblical wisdom, and heartfelt encouragement to couples at every stage of marriage. They believe that every marriage can be greater, no matter the challenges, and they are on a mission to inspire couples to pursue God's best for their relationships.
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Keywords: marriage, communication, red flags, warning signs, counseling, boundaries, childhood experiences, communication, marriage, emotional experiences, marriage, relationships, shared interests, individuality, intimacy, communication, compatibility, introversion, extroversion, personal growth
Next Episode
What Are You Craving?
In this episode, Dustyn and Heather Miller dive into the topic of sexual appetite, exploring what we crave and how it aligns with God's purpose for intimacy within marriage. They discuss how to navigate the tension between what the world offers and the healthy, God-ordained desires we should cultivate in our relationships.
From the boundaries God has set to how we can realign our appetites with His Word, this conversation is filled with practical insights for both singles and married couples. Whether you're struggling with unhealthy cravings or seeking to reignite the passion in your marriage, Dustyn and Heather provide powerful wisdom to help you develop a God-centered, fulfilling sexual relationship! Tune in for this honest and empowering episode that challenges the cultural norms and encourages you to cultivate the marriage God intended.
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Chapters
00:00 The Appetite for God's Offerings
03:06 Understanding Sexual Appetite and Cravings
05:52 The Impact of Purity Culture on Desires
11:55 The Dangers of Counterfeit Desires
14:47 Reframing Intimacy and Cravings in Marriage
18:01 The Role of Communication in Sexual Relationships
20:54 Developing Healthy Cravings
24:01 Starving Unhealthy Appetites
30:09 Embracing God's Design for Intimacy
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DOWNLOAD “75 FUN & FLIRTY WAYS TO KEEP THE SPARK ALIVE” HERE ⬇️
https://api.leadconnectorhq.com/widget/form/iLAaOKz4LG1cpsjlcqri
Connect with us
Website
@dustynmiller @heathermiller @greatermarriage
@dustynmiller @heathermiller @greatermarriage
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Dustyn and Heather Miller are the voices behind the Greater Marriage Podcast. With a combined 25+ years of ministry experience, they have dedicated their lives to serving others and strengthening marriages.
Dustyn, a Bible school graduate, jumped into full-time ministry immediately after completing his studies. His heart for people and commitment to God's calling have driven him to serve in various leadership capacities over the years. Heather, after earning her degree in business, also entered full-time ministry, where she and Dustyn worked side-by-side in youth and children’s ministries for more than a decade. Today, they lead a thriving Young Marrieds ministry at their local church, where they are passionate about helping couples build strong, lasting relationships.
Married for 12 years and the parents of three children, Dustyn and Heather's marriage is a testament to the power of God's grace. Heather's journey is also marked by resilience—having been widowed before marrying Dustyn, she brings a unique perspective on healing, restoration, and the redemptive power of God. Their greatest joy is seeing marriages restored, strengthened, and thriving.
Through their podcast, they offer practical advice, biblical wisdom, and heartfelt encouragement to couples at every stage of marriage. They believe that every marriage can be greater, no matter the challenges, and they are on a mission to inspire couples to pursue God's best for their relationships.
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Keywords: marriage, communication, red flags, warning signs, counseling, boundaries, childhood experiences, communication, marriage, emotional experiences, marriage, relationships, shared interests, individuality, intimacy, communication, compatibility, introversion, extroversion, personal growth
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