EP. 19: Does God Have Someone for Me?

10/26/20 • 24 min

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Does God have someone for me? It’s a question everyone wonders at some point or another, especially in a culture that suggests romantic relationships are the norm. Join Elisa and Eryn as they dive deep into their struggles with loneliness and healing after relationship loss, as well as discuss a unique and important twist on this popular question.

Notes and Quotes:

“I don’t see myself the way God sees me. I was seeing myself through the lens of the person I was dating.”
We are made for relationships and connection.
“I think what I am learning in this whole journey of being single after being married is that I just desire to become the person I am meant to be.”
“I was seeking relationships to fill voids that only God could fill.”
“When you are single, there is so much work to be done because our identities have been formed in relationship to others.”
“Relationships define so much around us.”
“I think God has a lot of people for us. I think marriage is one thing, and it is an important thing. But I also think the reality is we are humans, and our relationships that can be fully satisfying can function a little bit like an island of intimacy.”
“Until we let God love us, we can’t love ourselves. And until we love ourselves, we can not love another.”
We ask the question if God has anyone for us. Well, He has Himself for us. And yes, He invites us into relationships.
In seasons of singleness, we have time to show up and be present for the loved ones we have around us. Be careful not to overlook that.
“Flip the question and instead of asking if God has anyone for us, ask ‘Can I be someone for God?’”

Links/Books/Resources Mentioned In Show:

Show Notes on godhearsher.org
Subscribe on iTunes! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/god-hears-her-podcast/id1511046507?utm_source=applemusic&utm_medium=godhearsher&utm_campaign=podcast
Order God Sees Her: 365 Devotions for Women by Women on Amazon. https://amzn.to/32lYSgh
God Hears Her website: https://www.godhearsher.org/
Free eBooklet to Download: Divorce and Remarriage: What Does the Bible Teach? https://discoveryseries.org/courses/divorce-and-remarriage/
Elisa’s Instagram: elisamorganauthor
Eryn’s Instagram: eryneddy
Listen to the song “Pieces” by Amanda Cook https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P0FW--zidYA

Notes and Quotes:

“I don’t see myself the way God sees me. I was seeing myself through the lens of the person I was dating.”
We are made for relationships and connection.
“I think what I am learning in this whole journey of being single after being married is that I just desire to become the person I am meant to be.”
“I was seeking relationships to fill voids that only God could fill.”
“When you are single, there is so much work to be done because our identities have been formed in relationship to others.”
“Relationships define so much around us.”
“I think God has a lot of people for us. I think marriage is one thing, and it is an important thing. But I also think the reality is we are humans, and our relationships that can be fully satisfying can function a little bit like an island of intimacy.”
“Until we let God love us, we can’t love ourselves. And until we love ourselves, we can not love another.”
We ask the question if God has anyone for us. Well, He has Himself for us. And yes, He invites us into relationships.
In seasons of singleness, we have time to show up and be present for the loved ones we have around us. Be careful not to overlook that.
“Flip the question and instead of asking if God has anyone for us, ask ‘Can I be someone for God?’”

Links/Books/Resources Mentioned In Show:

Show Notes on godhearsher.org
Subscribe on iTunes! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/god-hears-her-podcast/id1511046507?utm_source=applemusic&utm_medium=godhearsher&utm_campaign=podcast
Order God Sees Her: 365 Devotions for Women by Women on Amazon. https://amzn.to/32lYSgh
God Hears Her website: https://www.godhearsher.org/
Free eBooklet to Download: Divorce and Remarriage: What Does the Bible Teach? https://discoveryseries.org/courses/divorce-and-remarriage/
Elisa’s Instagram: elisamorganauthor
Eryn’s Instagram: eryneddy
Listen to the song “Pieces” by Amanda Cook https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P0FW--zidYA

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EP. 18: How God Redeems Brokenness (with Toni Collier)

We all have moments in our past that lead to brokenness. For some, this is a recent past, and for others, childhood trauma continues to shape present reality. What brokenness—or broken people—have you experienced in your life? Today, Toni Collier joins God Hears Her to remind all of us that our past doesn’t have to define us. Instead, even our brokenness can be redeemed by God and used for His glory and our good.

Bio of guest:

Toni Collier is a communicator, host, and consultant at North Point Ministries. She’s also a voice of Our Daily Bread, and the creator of the blog “Broken Crayons Still Color”—a place for women to be reminded that our past doesn’t define us. Toni is “Texas proud” of her Houston, Texas, roots, but currently resides in Atlanta, Georgia, with her husband and family.

Notes and Quotes:

“There is a balance between being imperfect and striving for perfection, and I think the middle is hard to sit in.”
“I went through a mindset shift that there was a God that wasn’t up there with His finger pointing down at me, but instead was like ‘put me in coach.’”
Counseling is not a weakness, it is needed.
“Our lives are like bookshelves.”
“It is not the brokenness we are lifting up and celebrating, but it is God’s presence and redemption in the brokenness.”
“The world has lied to us, and told us we had to be perfect to be used.”
“The truth is, God wants to use us in the middle of our mess.”
This is the time to walk boldly in our brokenness.
“What people don’t know is what comes with exposing those traumas . . . anxiety.”
When we discover our brokenness, it takes time to heal.
“You are more than enough.”

Links/Books/Resources Mentioned In Show:

Show Notes on godhearsher.org
God Hears Her website: https://www.godhearsher.org/
Subscribe on iTunes! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/god-hears-her-podcast/id1511046507?utm_source=applemusic&utm_medium=godhearsher&utm_campaign=podcast
Order God Sees Her: 365 Devotions for Women by Women on Amazon. https://amzn.to/32lYSgh
Check out Toni’s Blog: Broken Crayons Still Color http://brkncrayons.com/
Free eBooklet to Download: Clinging to Hope in the Storm https://discoveryseries.org/courses/clinging-to-hope-in-the-storm/
Elisa’s Instagram: elisamorganauthor
Eryn’s Instagram: eryneddy

Verses Mentioned in Show:

2 Corinthians 12:9 NIV “But he said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.” https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=2%20Corinthians%2012%3A9&version=NIV

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EP. 20: Dealing with Loss

We all experience loss. The loss of dreams. The loss of relationships. The loss of people we love. But we serve a God who can use loss for our good, and that’s what today’s episode is all about. Join Elisa and Eryn as they discuss not only what they’ve lost, but also what they’ve found.

Notes and Quotes:

“I went through a divorce; and before the divorce I was grieving what I thought I had [as a future]. Divorce is a death; it is like a death.”
Treat your marriage, or other relationship, like its own breathing entity. Is it healthy?
“Loss is like a bucking bronco. It throws us up in the air, and sometimes we come down and land on the back of the horse and sometimes we . . . land in the dirt.”
“You can experience so many kinds of different losses, but you can still have the same emotion towards it.”
“Loss changes you. You are not the same when you lose something. Like for me, I am not the same with marriage. It changed me.”
“Loss does shape us, and I think sometimes we are scared of what the shaping is going to be.”
“What if loss actually grows us as we do the grief work.”
How have you seen loss benefit your life?
“God will use pain to transform us.”
“Loss is inevitable, and there are certain lessons and gifts it provides as God redeems it.”
“Loss becomes a gift because from that we are able to minister to others.”
“Sometimes we are missing out on how He is redeeming because we are trying to take over and make Him redeem it how we would want it.”