109. Let’s Talk About Married Sex (with Debra Fileta)

11/14/22 • 37 min

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Disclaimer: This episode contains sensitive content that is not appropriate for young listeners, as hosts Elisa Morgan and Eryn Eddy talk with guest Debra Fileta about sex in marriage. We often don’t learn enough about sex before we get married, or we think purity will equal perfection in our sex lives after we get married. On this episode of “God Hears Her,” Debra shares why purity is important before and after marriage, why our sex lives may not look the way we want them to, and how to improve our married sex lives.

About Our Guest:

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of five books: “Choosing Marriage”, “True Love Dates”, “Love In Every Season”, “Are You Really OK?”, and “Married Sex.” She’s also the host of the hotline style “Love + Relationships” Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships.

Notes and Quotes:

“Sex is a symptom of our need for connection and intimacy.” — Debra Fileta
“If we want healthy relationships, we need to start with being healthy standing alone.” — Debra Fileta
“When sex doesn’t measure up to our expectations, we get confused.” — Debra Fileta
“Sometimes you have to go backward before you can move forward because it helps with healing.” — Debra Fileta
“What happens above the sheets, fuels underneath the sheets.” — Debra Fileta

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Links:

Debra’s blog: https://truelovedates.com/
Get your copy of Debra’s book “Married Sex” on Amazon
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Listener Advisory:

Conversation about sex in marriage

About Our Guest:

Notes and Quotes:

“Sex is a symptom of our need for connection and intimacy.” — Debra Fileta
“If we want healthy relationships, we need to start with being healthy standing alone.” — Debra Fileta
“When sex doesn’t measure up to our expectations, we get confused.” — Debra Fileta
“Sometimes you have to go backward before you can move forward because it helps with healing.” — Debra Fileta
“What happens above the sheets, fuels underneath the sheets.” — Debra Fileta

Verses:

Links:

Debra’s blog: https://truelovedates.com/
Get your copy of Debra’s book “Married Sex” on Amazon
God Hears Her website
God Hears Her newsletter sign-up: https://www.godhearsher.org/signup
Subscribe on Apple Podcasts !
Elisa’s Instagram: elisa morgan author
Eryn’s Instagram: eryneddy

Listener Advisory:

Conversation about sex in marriage

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108. Spiritual Apathy

Have you ever experienced times where you just didn’t feel like praying? Maybe you go through phases where reading your Bible is boring or you just don’t have the energy to read another devotional. God Hears Her hosts Elisa Morgan and Eryn Eddy have had those moments too. Join them in this conversation to talk about what spiritual apathy is and how we can overcome it on this episode of God Hears Her.

Notes and Quotes:

Sometimes I don’t feel like praying, and don’t feel a desire or experience a drivenness into His spirit. There are times when the spiritual “blahs” take over.—Elisa
When do the spiritual blahs hit us? The more I become secure in my circumstances.—Eryn
I’m doing what I do, then if I do a—“oh, God’s here”—my spiritual eyes open to something and suddenly that very moment which was a little apathetic becomes a “Pow! Wow!”—Elisa
“Can I just see You today? Give me the eyes and ears to see You today.” I want to do that more, where I’m just recognizing the little things I see. I want to call it out when I see it versus let it go by me.—Eryn
Even if he doesn’t do the things I hope for, the journey and intimacy of me expressing and being vulnerable and trusting prepares me either way for the response of what I’m hoping for.—Eryn
When we open Scripture, we can open our spiritual ears and remind ourselves God is talking to me. What can I get out of this today?—Elisa

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110. Grace That's Daring (with Manda Carpenter)

Have you ever thought about becoming a foster parent? Are you curious to know what it’s like to take in kids that need a place to live? Foster parenting is a unique calling, but the experience can lead us closer to understanding God’s love and grace. Join Elisa Morgan and Eryn Eddy in this episode of God Hears Her as they learn from longtime foster parent, Manda Carpenter, what it’s like to be the foster mom of 16 kids.

About Our Guest:

Manda Carpenter is a writer, a speaker, and an advocate committed to helping women grow in their relationships with God, self, and others. She is a neighbor, question-asker, and cheerleader of the underdog. Manda and her husband, Eric, are foster parents and hosts of A Longer Table podcast. They live with their son, Shia, in Los Angeles, California.

Notes and Quotes:

“The catastrophe in our life ends up being our calling.” —Manda Carpenter
“The goal of foster care is reunification.” —Manda Carpenter
“To be a great foster parent, you don’t need to adopt all of your children.” —Manda Carpenter
“My relationship with my foster kids doesn’t look much different than my relationship with my biological son.” —Manda Carpenter
“With fostering, you have all the responsibility but no power.” —Manda Carpenter
“Fostering is a position that forces me to rely on God.” —Manda Carpenter
“Grace is loving them when they’re daring you not to.” —Manda Carpenter
“Nothing matters more than the condition of your soul.” —Manda Carpenter

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