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Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell

Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell

Dan Purcell | Sex & Intimacy Coach | Christian Husband

It’s a challenge to build a long term relationship full of love, desire, and sexy fun. It can be especially challenging for Christians in a world filled with mixed messages about sex, intimacy, and marriage that go contrary to traditional values. Your host is Dan Purcell, a Life Coach and Couples Sex Expert that specializes in helping married couples take their sex life to the next level. You’ll gain new ideas, perspectives, and practical tools to help you "get your marriage on"! This podcast discusses fun and spicy topics you’ve always wondered about, but from a Christian-friendly perspective. For more information, visit https://getyourmarriageon.com.
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Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell - 87: Healing From Pornography with Zach & Darcy Spafford

87: Healing From Pornography with Zach & Darcy Spafford

Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell

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06/17/22 • 64 min

You’re about to meet my guests on today’s episode, Zach and Darcy Spafford. Zach used to struggle with habitual pornography use and Darcy struggled with trying to figure out what to do with her feelings of hurt and mistrust.

After applying certain tools and committing to serious growth together, they’ve not only overcome but are now thriving together in their relationship, as you’ll see! They now host a podcast titled: The Self Mastery Podcast: Overcome Pornography

Whether or not porn use is part of your story in your marriage, I hope you learn as much as I did from Zach and Darcy’s courage and the action they took!

You might also be interested in my Life After Pornography App!

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Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell - 174: Dirty Talk, Bondage, Masturbation and More - Q&A with Dan Purcell
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02/16/24 • 29 min

I'm excited to answer some anonymous questions I have received from listeners.

Some topics we cover include the following:

  • Learning to dirty talk and flirt more
  • How to deal with undesireable sexual side effects from medications
  • Self-Soothing
  • Overcoming gridlock
  • The use of bondage in a marriage bed
  • When grief affects sexuality
  • Masturbation
  • and more!

If you would like to submit an anonymous question for me to answer on the podcast, on Instagram, or in an email, you can do so on our website.

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We have an exciting new program coming up at the end of March! Watch your email newsletter for more information!

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Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell - 210: The G-Spot Guide: How to Stimulate, Explore, and Enjoy Together!
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10/18/24 • 33 min

In this episode, you'll learn how to stimulate the "g-spot" and how to have more fun in your bedroom by learning how to work with this beautiful aspect of female pleasure and orgasm.

Join us as my guest, Tilly Storm, a sex coach for women, teaches about unlocking this new dimension in your marriage. Even if including the g-spot is already something you're doing in your relationship, I promise you'll gain a lot out of this podcast anyway. If you're new to this, well, you've got a whole new dimension in your relationship to uncover and explore together!

And I hope you have a lot of fun exploring it, just like my wife and I have had a lot of fun putting into practice a lot of the things that Tilly teaches in this episode!

Resources:

Sexual Mindfulness Seminar Series with Dr. Chelom Leavitt

Intimately Us App

Get Your Marriage On Program

FREE TRAINING: How to Become One: Overcoming obstacles to intimacy and significantly improving sex and connection in your marriage, in 90 days or less

2025 Couples Retreat

You can find links to all these and more at our website: getyourmarriageon.com

Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

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Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell - 217: Eroticism: What Does Your Sexuality Want? with Jessa Zimmerman
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12/06/24 • 39 min

I used to think the word erotic was associated with unsavory things like X-rated films, Las Vegas billboards, or sites are not supposed to visit online. But the more I've done this work with myself and in my marriage and with other couples, the more I've come to love eroticism.

The root word for erotic is the Greek word eros, which literally means desire.

Plato, a Greek philosopher, taught that eros is more than just sexual desire; it's the life force, passionate power that drives individuals to pursue beauty wisdom and even the divine. When you live with this eros feeling, it invites you to yearn for something beyond yourself, close gaps, seek intimacy, and to reach a higher, more spiritual level of love.

Sexual eroticism then are those things that give your intimate moments in your marriage, meaning yearning for closeness and ultimately makes your marriage fill alive and growing and to have love worth making. By that definition. It's no wonder that red light districts X-rated films and brothels are actually anti-erotic, because when you think of it, those aren't full of that life force. They are full of misery and loneliness instead.

Anyway, I've come to appreciate that every person has things that they find erotic. What we find sexually exciting is as unique as our fingerprints. In this episode, I'm joined by sex therapist, Jessa Zimmerman. And this episode, we'll talk about what eroticism is, why erotic fantasies are important, and how to work through the challenges that couples face in sharing and negotiating sexual fantasies. We'll also discuss tips for building a stronger marriage through your God-given eroticism.

News and Resources

Our first annual "Get-it-on-athon" is in full swing! Learn more about how to support a worthy couple's fertility journey as you come closer as a couple!

Reserve your spot at our next Couples Retreat in March 2025 (prices go up in 2025)

Are you struggling with how to explore your eroticism? Our new and improved Sexploration List can help! Rank your own preferences and desires in 13 different areas and explore and talk about those things together. You'll discover where your desires intersect and maybe get some ideas you both like, but have never thought of!

Intimately Us app - for couples who want to spice up their marriage, get new ideas, and learn how to love each other better.

Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

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Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell - 91: How to Talk Dirty Without Feeling Dirty or Awkward with Melanie Studley
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07/15/22 • 44 min

Let’s get one thing out of the way first — dirty talk isn’t dirty. It’s actually an intimate form of communication to let your spouse into your heart and mind. It’s a way to express the erotic part of you with your lover. It’s about using your words to arouse.

The nice thing about married sex is that it’s a place you can go where things don’t have to be so cleaned up. You can be less formal with each other and use language with each other you wouldn’t use in another context – creating more arousal, intimacy and excitement.

If “talking dirty” (and I put that in air quotes) is something you’ve always found awkward or have no idea where to start, you’re in for a treat! This episode with Melanie Studley will hopefully help you and your lover discover a new way to draw closer together and have some sexy fun!

For more information, check out our tasteful, comprehensive, step-by-step guide to increase connection with your spouse through erotic conversations, or "dirty talk." This 40-page guide has something for both brand new, hesitant sexy talkers and those who may be a little more experienced. Use the included worksheets and game suggestions to explore new vocabulary and increase the connection, passion, and fun in your marriage!

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Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell - 173: How to Initiate Sex Like a Pro, Featuring James Christensen
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02/09/24 • 45 min

We recently hit a major milestone with this podcast: 1 million downloads! Thank you for your support!

Let's be honest here. Initiating sex is not easy at all. We want the other person to take charge and initiate, right? We worry, how are we going to be received? There's also so much of ourselves wrapped up in what it means to initiate, or not initiate, sex. And past experiences tend to influence our reluctance to initiate as well. Yet, the reality is if one of you doesn't initiate sex, sex is never going to happen in your relationship.

So why is initiating sex so hard? What are some common reasons why people, me included, struggle to initiate sex sometimes? How do we get better at this very intimate act of bidding for sexual connection?

I've been pondering these questions lately, and I'm grateful to meet up with James Christiansen, a licensed marriage and family therapist from Roseville, California. You'll quickly find out that he has a brilliant sharp mind and quickly cuts right to the heart of the matter.

And this episode, we're going to talk about what's at the heart of initiating sex, because it gets a lot deeper than what you're probably thinking. And by the end of this episode, hopefully you'll take more courageous action to cherish your spouse more than before.

Links referenced in the episode:

⬇️ Download the Intimately Us and get in on the Sextimacy Challenge before it's over!

🌟 Get info on the DIY Boudoir Date Night Box

🙋 Snag the last spot at our couples retreat coming up in just 5 weeks!

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Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell - 161: Whole-hearted Lovemaking and Stage 3 Sex, featuring Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife
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11/17/23 • 42 min

To love and be loved wholeheartedly. It's life's sweetest gift. Marriages thrive when there's two forces working together love and desire. By love, I mean, the qualities like attentiveness, which is like being a good listener, kindness, a feeling of home and belonging in the relationship and loyalty.

On the other hand, by desire I mean a sense of passion, excitement, pursuit, adventure, mystery, and fun. We need both of those things in a good marriage. And to really love someone and to really desire someone with all of your heart, it's often a function of how developed and mature we are. Did you know that there are stages of development and romantic and sexual relationships as there are in other aspects of life? And how do you grow from whatever stage you are now to your next stage and become a better lover?

I've been podcasting consistently every week without fail for almost three years now. Can you believe it?! And one of my personal most favorite teachers of all time is Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, who you'll get to meet in just a moment. We recorded this podcast a long time ago. And because we have so many new listeners on this podcast, I've gone back to the archives to make sure you all get a chance to hear it!

Keep Your Marriage Burning Bright

Marriages need more help to stay strong today than ever. And that's why we just opened registration for upcoming marriage retreat in St. George Utah for March, 2024.

Retreats are an exciting way to spend some time away and we give you the tools you need to build a stronger sexier marriage and you get to meet other couples, have good food, go on excursions and just have this amazing experience to keep the fires of love and passionate desire burning bright in your relationship for years to come. Register today on our website.

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My wife and I both grew up in good homes, but stereotypical to most that grow up in a conservative Christian culture in the 80s and 90s, conversations around sex were usually limited to biological reproduction or staying pure from sexual thoughts. These messages served me well before we were married but after we were married, we realized that these models led to anxiety about sexuality and difficulty with our sexual relationship. These issues didn’t really surface until after a decade into our marriage, when we weren’t so entrenched in survival mode from raising a young family any longer and could actually take a breath and focus on our relationship again.

I’m grateful for the many resources that helped me grow my understanding of marriage and sex in marriage. Specifically, where at first I thought spirituality and sexuality were incompatible, the examples of teachers like my guests on today’s podcast helped me see that spirituality and sexuality actually go together.

Fast forward a few years I’m grateful for the privilege of coaching other couples in growing their marriage intimately. It’s now what I do for work full time, and I hope this podcast, our apps, retreats, workshops, and other resources are helping you build a stronger marriage.

One of the common issues I see with my clients as a marriage coach is how “duty sex” or viewing sex as something just for the man for example often limits a couple’s ability to grow sexually.

Another has to do with one’s interpretation of biblical teachings around sex growing up, and how those views are often antithetical to building an intimate marriage.

Another has to do with sexual performance pressure. And sexual dysfunction.

We get to talk about all of these things and much more in this episode with Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner.

As my guests will attest, getting away for a weekend once in a while can really nourish your marriage. Especially if it’s a marriage retreat where you can learn about how to have a more intimate and fulfilling sex life, develop closer friendships, meet other couples on a similar journey, learn new skills to deal with conflict, and most importantly to have fun together! Our next retreat is four days and three nights, October 26 - 29, in the Dallas Fort Worth Texas area. Register now so that you don’t miss it by going to getyourmarriageon.com, click on Retreats, and then DFW retreat. If you’re on the fence, go to the web page anyway and check out the videos shared by past retreat attendees sharing their experience to get a feel for what it’s all about.

For more great content like this, check out the following resources:

Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/

Couples Retreat (Dallas/Ft Worth area): https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/

Website: getyourmarriageon.com

Instagram: @getyourmarriageon

Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us

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Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell - 201: The Art of Cherishing Your Spouse, Part 2

201: The Art of Cherishing Your Spouse, Part 2

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08/19/24 • 45 min

This is part two of the podcast we released last Friday (#200). And if you haven't listened to that one, I highly recommend you pause this episode and go back and listen to #200 first.

These two episodes are continuation of a project that I started a few months ago to better understand what it means for me to cherish my spouse. I shared a tragic story about my wife's cousin and how that really propelled us to understand what it means to cherish others better. In the process, I've sought out mentors to help me understand this concept better.

And you get to hear snippets of the conversations I've had with them - you get to be a fly on the wall and learn with me and what it really means to cherish your spouse. And to love them really, really well. Of all the things I talk about on the podcast -- sex, orgasms, initiating, foreplay -- I think learning how to cherish your spouse whole heartedly takes the cake!

This is the most important. This is the sum of everything that I wish you would get from my podcast.

I hope these two episodes become the most downloaded episodes of the entire podcast. And this is what I want to be known for. I want you to know that to really love and cherish your spouse is at the heart of everything we do, even your sexual interactions (which we talk a lot about on this podcast, right?). It's about how you cherish your spouse through the language of your sexuality and sharing that with your spouse exclusively.

So today you get a year from three more mentors that I look up to a lot: Tammy Hill, Danielle Savory, and Alex & Kadi Dutton (from EveryLove Intimates). So you get three different perspectives here on the same kind of thing, different stages of life, different worldviews.

And in case you missed it, I talked to Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, Alana Martens, (from Kingdom Sexuality), and Tony DiLorenzo (from One Extraordinary Marriage) in part 1.

I hope this is the inspiration you need to make the most of your marriage relationship--make the changes, get the help, and do what you need to do-- to find that deep and abiding love, the cherishing that brings the deepest meaning and satisfaction to our lives.

Resources:

Get Your Marriage On Program

Intimately Us App

FREE TRAINING: How to Become One: Overcoming obstacles to intimacy and significantly improving sex and connection in your marriage, in 90 days or less

Couples Retreat in St. George, UT, October 10-13

Retreat testimonial videos

You can find links to all these and more at our website: getyourmarriageon.com

Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

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Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell - 166: 12 Ideas to Make Christmastime Extra Sexy

166: 12 Ideas to Make Christmastime Extra Sexy

Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell

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12/22/23 • 20 min

For a lot of couples, Christmastime is a really stressful time of the year. There's a lot of end of year projects for work and school; there's also gift shopping and preparations for guests and meals and Christmas cards and dinners and parties, and the list just keeps going on and on and on.

And if you have children, it just multiplies the complexity by every child that you have in your home.

But Christmastime can also be a very special, sexy time of year. Think about it. Think of all the romantic, Christmas-themed movies that we love. Think about the time you get a snuggle by a fire. Think about the fun that you can have with your spouse when the world kind of slows down for a little bit. It can become a very sexy time.

In fact, a friend pointed out to me that, in the United States at least, we have the highest birth rate at the end of August, early September. I didn't believe him. So I double checked it. And it's true! In the United States, we have the most births in late August, early September. Which means most people are being conceived around Christmas time.

And I want this to be a very sexy time for you too! So I'm going to offer you 12 sexy Christmastime tips in this episode!

Helpful links:

Intimately Us

Get Your Marriage On! Couples Retreat

Tammy Hill's book, Replenish

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Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell currently has 219 episodes available.

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The podcast is about Health & Fitness, Sex, Podcasts, Marriage, Self-Improvement, Education, Intimacy and Sexuality.

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The episode title '55: When Infertility Interferes with Intimacy with Sadie Banks' is the most popular.

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The average episode length on Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell is 37 minutes.

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Episodes of Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell are typically released every 7 days.

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The first episode of Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell was released on Nov 4, 2020.

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