Gay Men's Life Lab with Buck Dodson

Gregory Elsasser-Chavez on the high costs & high rewards of coming out
Part of the ‘Gays On’ Series featuring the voices and stories of gay, bi and queer men.

Welcome to a new season of Gay Men’s Life! In this episode, I talk with Gregory Elsasser-Chavez about his remarkable path to freedom as a gay man which he chronicles in his upcoming book, Terms of Estrangement.

Join me as I talk with Gregory about:

• The impact of realizing he could be a gay dad or a dead dad
• Finding the will to leave the Evangelical Christian church
• The torment of “ex-gay” reparative and aversion therapies
• Coming out and ending a marriage to his wife
• His steadfast commitment to parenting his sons through painful resistance

You can follow Gregory on Twitter at GregoryElsasser and find his soon-to-published memoir, Terms of Estrangement on Kindle.

The “Gays On’ Series presents the voices of men who are on their journey of living openly and authentically. Not necessarily the perspective of therapists or coaches, these are the lived experiences and wisdom of gay, bi and queer man on their path to self love.

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Buck

This week, I dive deep into the story of empowerment coach, entrepreneur and author, Yatin Mistry. Join us as Yatin and I go into his story and discuss how he approaches empowering his LGBTQ clients of color.

In this episode, we cover:

1. Yatin’s journey to identifying as a first-generation British-Indian and as a gay man
2. The role of spirituality in coming to terms with sexuality
3. Realizing that you have a choice in how to respond to racism and homophobia
4. Mindset shifts and “brain muscle” practices to develop confidence and empowerment
5. Yatin’s “kindness, necessary and honest” rule of thumb for speaking with inclusion

Yatin Mistry is an empowerment coach, entrepreneur, and author, and for over ten years he’s been helping his clients overcome personal dilemmas and professional setbacks to seize the right opportunities that will help them excel.

Get in touch with Yatin to learn more about his coaching for gay men and LGBTQ people of color.

www.yatinmistry.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yatininspire
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yatininspire
Email: [email protected]

Recommended resources for LGBT Southeast Asian people

• NAZ Project:
  http://www.naz.org.uk - LGBTQ-affirming sexual health organization addressing sexual health for BAME communities. Based in the UK.
  
• Naz and Matt Foundation
  https://www.nazandmattfoundation.org/services - UK based charity supporting LGBTQI+ communities around issues of religion.
  
• https://www.facebook.com/lgbtsikh - Facebook group if you are Sikh and gay.
  
• Southeast Asian TV and Film with LGBTQ storylines and characters. These can be helpful around conversations with family, but Yatin recommends watching these first before sharing with family since some themes may be sensitive and/or explicit.
  Maryada: Lekin Kab Tak?
  Pyaar Kii Ye Ek Kahaani
  Dostana
  Made in heaven
  Satyamev Jayate
  Lifestyle Asia

Learn more about me and how I help gay men like you live and love well by visiting www.buckdodson.com and following me on Instagram and Facebook.

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I’m sorry for the podcast silence last month, especially since it was Pride Month. Although Gay Men’s Life Lab celebrates LGBTQ+ pride every month. In this episode, I share about my decision to take a few months off from the podcast so I can spend the summer soaking up some extra self, relationship and business care.

I hope you’ll tune in to join me for this relatively brief conversation about my decision. It involves filling my well, learning to set limits and listening to my inner creative. As always, I hope this might inspire you to double down on self care this summer or on whatever care your life is needing right now.

Stay subscribed or start following to be notified when new episodes are on their way. You can also join my email list by visiting www.buckdodson.com. I’ll be in touch with podcast updates as well as new blogs, coaching programs and more.

As always, I love hearing from you so feel free to share your thoughts, episode ideas or just say hello by leaving a message on our Phone Line at 512.808.0849.

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Thanks and talk with you all in September!

Buck

In the first of this two-parter, I invite you into a conversation about becoming or rediscovering hope and eagerness about dating. Join me for this deep dive into how becoming “pro dating” and a pro at dating means could radically shift your perspective on dating and creating long term relationships.
Tune in to hear...

1. What it means to be Pro-Relationship rather than Pro-Self
2. How to approach dating like you would in a relationship
3. The 5 characteristics of “Secure Functioning Dating”
4. Developing a Pre and Pro-Dating Mindset
5. Ideas for meeting dating partners IRL rather than relying solely on apps

Resources

Check out Wired for Dating by Dr. Stan Tatkin for more detail on secure functioning dating.

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A “Gays On” episode featuring Burak Yilmaz on healing and self-discovery
In this episode, I talk with Burak Yilmaz about his remarkable path to freedom as a gay man which he chronicles in his upcoming book, If My Mother Never Left.
Join me as I talk with Burak about:

• Being tortured for speaking out as a gay man in Islam
• Learning to survive alone on the streets of Turkey and New York City
• Overcoming shame and recovering from depression
• How writing has helped him heal and live as his true self
• His work to support and guide younger generations

Get your copy of Burak’s new book, If My Mother Never Left and follow him at https://burak212.com and on Instagram.
The “Gays On’ Series presents the voices of men who are on their journey of living openly and authentically. Not necessarily the perspective of therapists or coaches, these are the lived experiences and wisdom of gay, bi and queer man on what it’s like to heal through love.
Stay subscribed or start following to be notified when new episodes come out. You can also join my email list by visiting www.buckdodson.com.
If you found this episode helpful, please ‘gay it forward’ by subscribing and leaving a quick review and rating. This helps more folks like you find Gay Men’s Life Lab!
Thanks!
Buck