gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero Show
Steve Bennet-Martin
gAy A delivers inspiring stories about queer people in sobriety who are achieving amazing feats in their recovery, proving that we are all LGBTQIA+ sober heroes.
If you are looking for a safe space where all queer people, no matter their gender, sexual orientation, age, length of sober time, or method of recovery are valid, this is the sober show for you. If you are sober, you are a hero!
This show is not affiliated with any program or institution, so you will hear stories from alcoholics and addicts where people mention getting sober using recovery methods such as rehabilitation, both inpatient and outpatient rehabs, sober living, hospitals, and some of us who got sober at home on our own. Guests may mention twelve step programs like AA, CMA, SMART Recovery, or other methods, while accepting that no one answer is perfect for everyone.
This podcast will provide valuable insights for any interested in learning more about queer recovery, from those of us with years or even decades of recovery under their belt, to people just beginning their sobriety journey, to even the sober curious or friends and family of alcoholics and addicts.
Each week, host Sober Steve the Podcast Guy tries to answer the following questions in various formats and with different perspectives:
· How do I get and stay sober in the queer community?
· Can you have fun while being sober and gay, lesbian, bisexual, trans, or queer?
· What does a sober life as a member of the LGBTQIA+ community look like?
· Where do sober gay and queer people hang out?
· How can I have good sex sober?
· What are tips and tricks for early sobriety?
· How can I get unstuck or out of this rut in my recovery?
· How will my life change if I get sober?
· Can you be queer and sober and happy?
· How can I untangle sex and alcohol and drugs?
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Top 10 gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero Show Episodes
Goodpods has curated a list of the 10 best gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero Show episodes, ranked by the number of listens and likes each episode have garnered from our listeners. If you are listening to gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero Show for the first time, there's no better place to start than with one of these standout episodes. If you are a fan of the show, vote for your favorite gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero Show episode by adding your comments to the episode page.
Sober Gay Adventures ft. Johnny
gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero Show
01/23/25 • 18 min
Episode Highlights
🌍 Traveling Sober & Building Community:
Johnny shares how he founded Sober Gay Adventures, offering intimate, 10-day trips for queer sober travelers to explore the world with accountability and connection. His goal was to create meaningful travel experiences for those in recovery, providing fellowship in small groups across the globe.
🏳️🌈 Embracing Queer Joy:
Johnny talks about loving the vibrant, campy, and dramatic aspects of queer culture and how that community connection has deepened in his sobriety.
💔 Navigating Loss & Addiction:
Johnny opens up about how the sudden passing of his best friend led to years of heavy drinking and eventual morning drinking. His breaking point came after a health scare that led him to fully commit to recovery.
🛠️ Sobriety Tools:
Johnny highlights the importance of daily meetings, meditation, gratitude lists, and building authentic connections as essential tools in his recovery.
🌿 Sober Gay Adventures in 2025:
Johnny shares upcoming travel experiences including:
- London to Paris: Iconic city exploration with day trips to Stonehenge and Mont-Saint-Michel.
- Italy Tour: Rome, Florence, Venice with immersive food tours and Tuscany day trips.
- Crete, Greece Retreat: A yoga and meditation retreat with daily excursions, evening sharing circles, and themed celebrations.
Connect with Johnny
🔗 Website: sobergayadventures.com
📸 Instagram: @sobergayadventures
📘 Facebook: Sober Gay Adventures
Stay Connected with gAy A
📲 Follow us on Instagram: @gAyApodcast
💌 Want to share your story or ask a question? Send a DM on Instagram or visit sobersteve.com to guest or connect!
🎧 New episodes every Thursday!
Until next time, stay sober, friends! 🌈✨
Step 3 Revisited
gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero Show
11/08/21 • 7 min
Steve reflects on his Step 3 and his discussion about it with his sponsor last night.
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If you are interested in sharing your story, getting involved with the show, or just saying hi, please e-mail me at [email protected],
Or Follow Us wherever you are listening so you can get new episodes when they come out every Monday and Thursday. Until that time, stay sober, friends!
Higher Power Stuff ft. Kristen
gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero Show
11/09/23 • 22 min
Steve welcomes back Kristen to discuss navigating their relationship with their Higher Power through their step work and in their lives today.
Topics discussed include:
- Grasping a Higher Power as queer individuals
- Our experiences going through the first few steps
- Living in the 11th Step
- Explaining Higher Power 'stuff' to people not in recovery
- And much more!
Follow us online at @gayapodcast. Head over to the Patreon page to hear Kristen and Steve spin the Topic Wheel!
Living Fearlessly Queer & Sober with India X Miller
gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero Show
02/20/25 • 32 min
Hey there, Super Sober Heroes! Your host Sober Steve is here with 1,357 days sober, and this episode is extra special because we are recording in person for the first time! I’m thrilled to welcome India X Miller, a powerful advocate, trans activist, and sober warrior who has been navigating the world of recovery for over 40 years.
India shares their incredible journey of sobriety, from getting clean as a teenager to experiencing relapse and reclaiming their recovery. We talk about the unique challenges of being trans and sober, the fight for LGBTQ+ rights in Florida, and how to stay strong and connected in recovery despite all the obstacles.
From navigating gender identity to breaking barriers in 12-step spaces, India opens up about resilience, authenticity, and fighting for visibility and acceptance in both recovery and the world at large.
✨ Topics Covered:
- India’s journey through addiction, relapse, and long-term sobriety
- The power of visibility as a trans person in recovery
- How to navigate religious trauma in 12-step spaces
- The importance of gender-inclusive language in recovery
- Finding strength in community and creating LGBTQ+ safe spaces
- India’s work in media & advocacy, including their radio show
Connect with India X Miller:
📲 Instagram: @IndiaXMiller
📲 Tik-Tok: @IndiaXMiller
📻 Radio Show: Trans Cis Her on WSLR (WSLR Website)
Want More Queer Sober Community?
🌈 Join Here Queer Sober! We’re hosting a sober LGBTQ+ conference in NYC this September! Connect, learn, and celebrate with us. Learn More & Register Here
🔗 Follow gAy A on Instagram: @gAyApodcast
🎧 New episodes drop every Thursday! Hit subscribe so you never miss a show.
💬 Have a topic or guest suggestion? DM me on Instagram or email [email protected]!
Thank you for tuning in, and remember: Stay queer. Stay sober. Stay unapologetically YOU. 💖✨
Addiction and Zodiac Signs Revisited
gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero Show
12/05/24 • 12 min
Episode Description:
Hey there, Super Sober Heroes! This week on Gay A, I’m diving back into the vault to revisit one of my earliest episodes on astrology and addiction. Originally recorded at just 105 days sober, this episode explores how our zodiac signs might influence our relationship with alcohol.
But that’s not all—I'm adding fresh insights and exploring a new article on zodiac signs and their connections to other addictive tendencies. Whether you’re a Leo who loves to splurge (looking at you, Amazon cart), or a Pisces drawn to emotional escapism, there's something here for everyone.
So, does your sign align with your past or present tendencies? Let's break it down together!
What’s Next?
✨ Listen to the full episode and share your thoughts on how your zodiac sign aligns with your past habits.
✨ Join the conversation: Email me, text the show, or connect on socials @GayAPodcast.
✨ Don’t forget to follow Gay A for weekly episodes every Thursday!
Resources Mentioned:
#GayAPodcast #QueerSobriety #AstrologyAndAddiction #ZodiacSigns #SoberCurious #LGBTQRecovery #SoberJourney #AddictionRecovery
Resentments
gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero Show
11/22/21 • 11 min
Steve reflects back on the first part of his Step 4 work with his sponsor as he takes inventory of his resentments.
Topics touched on include:
- My initial fear of Step 4
- The importance of having a sponsor
- What a resentment actually is
- How worksheets are helping
- What my worksheet looks like
Sugar Cravings
gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero Show
11/15/21 • 6 min
Steve reflects on his sugar cravings he's developed since getting sober and does some research into the 'why' of it all.
Topics discussed include:
- How alcohol is converted to sugar in the bloodstream
- The effects of dopamine on our brain and cravings
- What transfer addictions are and how to avoid them
Let us know how you handled your sugar cravings or just say hi at [email protected]
Give It Your All Ft. Jason R #125
gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero Show
02/16/23 • 29 min
Steve welcomes Jason to share their experience, strength, and hope with you, along with advice on getting and staying sober.
Check out Jason's podcast, Sober Solutions, wherever you listen to gAy A!
Thank you for listening. Please join our Patreon family for the post-show, along with more exclusive content at www.Patreon.com/gAyApodcast
Find Jason on Instagram @rudabega82 and follow us while you are at it @gAyApodcast
If you are interested in sharing your story, getting involved with the show, or just saying hi, please e-mail me at [email protected]
Acceptance is the Answer ft. Crescent
gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero Show
02/23/23 • 20 min
Steve welcomes Crescent to share their experience, strength, and hope with you, along with advice on getting and staying sober.
Thank you for listening. Please join our Patreon family for the post-show, along with more exclusive content at www.Patreon.com/gAyApodcast
Find Crescent on Instagram @crescent_diamond_coach and follow us while you are at it @gAyApodcast
Also check out her website- https://crescent-diamond.com/
If you are interested in sharing your story, getting involved with the show, or just saying hi, please e-mail me at [email protected]
Until next time, stay sober friends!
Being "Out" in Sobriety ft. Danielle
gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero Show
10/17/24 • 24 min
Hey there, Super Sober Heroes! In today’s episode of gAy A, host Sober Steve (with 1,227 days sober!) welcomes back Danielle—one of our long-time pod family members, to dive into a topic that many in the LGBTQ+ community can relate to: Being “Out” in Sobriety.
What you’ll hear in this episode:
- Danielle reflects on her experiences of coming out in college and how it mirrors her sobriety journey.
- They discuss the importance of recovering out loud and the impact of living authentically in both your sexuality and your recovery.
- The connection between vulnerability and community, and how being open helps others feel less alone.
- Danielle shares how running is part of her self-care routine in sobriety and how she finds both mental and physical health benefits from it.
- Why it’s so crucial to be present and how sobriety allows Danielle and Steve to fully embrace life’s ups and downs.
- The societal assumptions about the queer community and sobriety, and how the LGBTQ+ community continues to evolve with more support and visibility.
Danielle’s candid and insightful take on being open about sobriety, sexuality, and life is sure to inspire anyone struggling with the idea of coming out in any aspect of their life. The conversation highlights the importance of connection, community, and embracing your authentic self, no matter the fears or challenges you face.
Key Moments:
- Danielle shares her personal story about coming out in college after a tragic event sparked her to live authentically.
- The parallel between coming out as LGBTQ+ and coming out as sober.
- The importance of vulnerability and how recovering out loud has helped others start their sobriety journeys.
- Reflections on how the queer community continues to grow stronger despite challenges.
Connect with Danielle:
Follow Danielle on Instagram at @DC_and_Rosie (closed account but accepting friends of Steve!)
Resources Mentioned:
- Looking for support in your sobriety journey? Visit www.sobersteve.com for more resources and community connections.
Make sure to hit Follow so you don’t miss any of our upcoming episodes, and don’t forget to tune in every Thursday for new content.
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- Instagram: @gAyApodcast
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Stay Sober, Friends!
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FAQ
How many episodes does gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero Show have?
gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero Show currently has 235 episodes available.
What topics does gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero Show cover?
The podcast is about Lgbt, Health & Fitness, Hero, Sobriety, Podcasts, Sober, Gay, Self-Improvement, Education, Queer, Recovery and Sexuality.
What is the most popular episode on gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero Show?
The episode title 'Gratitude 2022' is the most popular.
What is the average episode length on gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero Show?
The average episode length on gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero Show is 24 minutes.
How often are episodes of gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero Show released?
Episodes of gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero Show are typically released every 6 days, 23 hours.
When was the first episode of gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero Show?
The first episode of gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero Show was released on Jun 21, 2021.
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