Flirtini #6: Dating Anxiety, Codependency + Moving too Fast, and Are They Flirting with Me?

11/13/24 • 21 min

Flirtations! with Benjamin, the Flirt Coach

Flirties!

It's the first Q&A Flirtini!

In this one today, I answer three dating questions that were submitted!

➡️ Question 1: When I meet someone, I automatically ask myself, “Is this my future partner?” How can I stop doing that and enjoy the dating process more?

➡️ Question 2: I tend to rush a connection and go into codependency mode. What can I do about this? If things have moved too fast, is it too late to slow things down? What could I say?

➡️ Question 3: I think someone is flirting with me, but I’m not sure. How can I tell? Should I ask them out? Or wait?

Check out this Flirtini for the answers to these questions, all delivered with my signature Flirt Coach perspective!

Then don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world!

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About your host: Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!

As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and deeper connections.

You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

💗 Happy flirting!

Flirties!

It's the first Q&A Flirtini!

In this one today, I answer three dating questions that were submitted!

➡️ Question 1: When I meet someone, I automatically ask myself, “Is this my future partner?” How can I stop doing that and enjoy the dating process more?

➡️ Question 2: I tend to rush a connection and go into codependency mode. What can I do about this? If things have moved too fast, is it too late to slow things down? What could I say?

➡️ Question 3: I think someone is flirting with me, but I’m not sure. How can I tell? Should I ask them out? Or wait?

Check out this Flirtini for the answers to these questions, all delivered with my signature Flirt Coach perspective!

Then don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world!

Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee!

You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

💗 Happy flirting!

Previous Episode

47. Healing from a Narcissistic Relationship and Living Courageously with Dana Flaherty

On this episode of Flirtations, we welcome the incredible Dana Flaherty to share with us her story of healing from a relationship with a narcissist.

If you've ever found yourself trapped in the harmful cycle of narcissistic abuse, this episode offers hope, guidance, and inspiration for reclaiming your power and why the best is yet to come.

Today, we'll get into:

How it begins: How does the narcissist show up in the early stages of dating? Are there early signs to look for?
The Turning Point: Dana shares what the turning point was, how to not abandon yourself even in a narcissistic relationship and why leaving is so hard.
Escaping the Narcissist: What are the complexities of leaving a narcissistic relationship? How do you get out? What do you do if/when they come back?
Healing and Recovery: Insight and advice on the healing process, from setting boundaries and seeking support to rediscovering love and trusting again.
Living Courageously: Exploring how to rebuild your life after narcissistic abuse, continue to show up for yourself and your family, and believe that the best is yet to come.

Whether you're in the midst of a narcissistic relationship, in the early stages of recovery, or looking to support a loved one, this episode is packed with wisdom and hope to help you move forward and live courageously!

Then don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world!

Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee!

About our guest: Dana Jill became a social media creator on TikTok during 2020 in addition to her full time, multifamily career. She has a huge passion for helping women feel empowered by sharing her tips and tricks that have made her feel more confident. She is a single mother of three and uses her platform to share how you can be "park happy" and thrive as a single parent.

You can connect with Dana on TikTok and Instagram!

You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

💗 Happy flirting!

Next Episode

48. Breaking Free: Surviving and Thriving After a Narcissistic Relationship with Madeline Beeler and Randi Markowitz

In this powerful episode of Flirtations, we welcome two Flirties to the show to share with us their stories of surviving and thriving after a narcissistic relationship.

Our guests, Madeline Beeler and Randi Markowitz, share their personal experiences of being in relationships with narcissistic partners and, through their stories, we explore the signs of narcissistic behavior, the emotional toll it takes, and the journey towards healing, self-discovery, and what comes next.

What you'll hear inside:

Understanding Narcissism: What it is and how to recognize it in a partner
Red Flags: Identifying the early signs of narcissistic behavior
The Emotional Impact: How being in a relationship with a narcissist affects your mental and emotional health
Breaking Free: The turning points that led our guests to leave their relationships
Healing and Recovery: Practical advice on rebuilding self-esteem and finding hope after leaving a narcissistic relationship
Moving Forward: How to avoid falling into similar patterns in future relationships and cultivate healthy connections

Please join us for an insightful and heartfelt conversation that sheds light on the challenges of dealing with narcissism in relationships and offers hope and strategies for anyone looking to reclaim their lives - and thrive!

Then don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world!

Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee!

About our guests!

Madeline Beeler is a business coach, mindset expert, and advocate for women navigating major life transitions. With a focus on empowering women to build thriving businesses and create meaningful lives, she helps them break free from limiting beliefs and step into their full potential. As a single mom, she understands the challenges of balancing family, business, and self-care, and she’s passionate about guiding women through the process of creating aligned, successful businesses. When she's not coaching, you can find her living life fully with her daughter and partner, and dreaming big for the future.

You connect with Madeline on Instagram. If you know its time to leave your relationship or marriage and looking for support, check out Madeline's upcoming course, Empowered Exit! You can learn more and join the waitlist here: https://madelinebeelerco.podia.com/empowered-exit

Randi Markowitz is a mixed-media artist who works as a painter, photographer, and graphic designer. Her paintings often feature inspirational messages, as she strongly believes in the power of words. Each piece includes an uplifting quote or saying—sometimes visible and other times hidden—intended to inspire feelings of love and hope.

In 2023, she received the Best of Chatham award for her design business, Belle Fleur Design. In 2024, she will participate in the Chatham Artists Guild Studio Tour to showcase her artwork under Randi Markowitz Art.

As a single mother, she has overcome the challenges of narcissistic abuse and now helps others understand narcissism.

You can find Randi’s art on Instagram @randimarkowitzart and Facebook @randi.markowitz.art and her website www.randimarkowitz.com. Her graphic design work can be found on Instagram @bellefleurgraphicdesign and Facebook @bellefleurgraphicdesign and www.bellefleurdesign.com

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