Flip Your Lid with Kim Honeycutt

Trigger Warning: This episode contains sexual violence.

In this episode, Kim Honeycutt interviews Madeleine Black, who was violently assaulted. They discuss the behavior that happens after trauma, how to have fulfilled relationships moving forward, and more about her powerful story of healing.

Madeleine Black's Bio:

I have an unusual personal story which I use to inspire and motivate others. I chose to forgive the two men who gang-raped me when I was thirteen years old, and I share my story for many reasons.

I want to end the shame, stigma, and silence surrounding sexual violence, enabling others to find their voice, whatever their story is. I want people to know that it's not what happens to us that is important but what we do with it. I will show how changing my mindset tapped into my resilience and transformed my life, making people question their own thinking and encouraging them to see that there are always choices to make, and if we choose to, we can get past anything that happens to us in life both professionally and in our personal life. I want to encourage others to live their lives courageously, too, but ultimately, I want to inspire hope and show people that we are all so much stronger than we think we are.

The sharing of my story publicly on The Forgiveness Project's website in September 2014 opened many doors for me in ways I never imagined, and the invitations started to pour in. Many women and men got in contact and explained how reading my story gave them strength, hope, and a different perspective of what's possible in their lives. I have taken part in both TV and radio interviews and has been invited to share my story of being gang-raped as a teenager at conferences, book events, schools, etc. I recognize that I was a victim of a crime that left me silent for many years but has now found my voice and intends to use it. Not just for me, but for so many who can't find theirs yet.

Roxanne has over twenty-three years of experience working with clients suffering from high-risk substance use disorders, many with dual diagnoses. Additionally, she has sixteen years of experience helping family members who love them. Her disarming authenticity and decades of recovery experience have given her the ability to build a strong rapport with her clients. Her passion for seeing others recover drives her to support and help clients achieve their goals using evidence-based practices, motivational interviewing, reflective listening, compassion, and using positive reinforcements.

Hear Roaxanne's incredible story of recovery and self-forgiveness in today's episode. Watch this interview and read the full show notes at flipyourlidpodcast.com

In this episode, Kim Interviews therapist Elsie Howell and discusses different types of therapy for Eating Disorders and Codependency. This episode will help all of us to reconnect with ourselves so that we can become whole.

Elise collaborates with adults and teen girls (11+) in their journeys with anxiety, trauma, disordered eating, grief and loss, identity development, life transitions, body dissatisfaction, self-esteem, relationship difficulties, and chronic health concerns.

She is passionate about helping teen girls and their families navigate the unpredictable years of adolescence and supporting women to cultivate healthy relationships with their authentic selves. Elise also enjoys working with individuals seeking to understand painful relational patterns and establish peace and boundaries in the present. She supports parents of teens/pre-teens in building skills to coach and connect with their children in tough emotional moments and to foster confidence and independence in their child.

Elise’s approach to therapy is holistic and relational, informed by Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Cognitive Behavior Therapy, and Dialectical Behavior Therapy. She uses Internal Family Systems Therapy and EMDR to support clients to heal from acute and chronic trauma. Elise also provides ERP for clients seeking to overcome anxiety, OCD, and disordered eating patterns. She incorporates creative activities and spirituality into therapy when desired by the client.

Jason Clark is a pastor, writer, producer, and many more titles. He is also a cisgender, white male who was removed from a church because he had different ideas about the Bible. This is his story about leaving and rediscovering Jesus.

Jason Clark is the lead communicator at A Family Story. Jason has written 5 books including, Prone To Love, and, God Is (Not) In Control. He has written and produced films in several genres including documentaries, faith-based discipleship, and entertainment.

A natural storyteller, Jason writes and speaks with authenticity. His stories inspire awe and wonder in the goodness of God. Jason’s mission is to reveal that God is love and His love is always good. He and his wife, Karen, live in Charlotte, North Carolina, with their three children.

Andrew J. Bauman is the Co-Founder & Director of the Christian Counseling Center: For Sexual Health & Trauma (CCC), Andrew J. Bauman is a licensed mental health counselor with a Master of Arts in Counseling Psychology from The Seattle School of Theology & Psychology. Andrew is the author of 5 books, The Sexually Healthy Man, Floating Away, Stumbling Toward Wholeness, The Psychology of Porn, and (with Christy) A Brave Lament.

When Andrew was a young child, he started developing some mental health issues as his parent’s marriage was falling apart. He began to internalize all that trauma in his body all that was going on in his head. His father was a pastor and Vice President of a Christian college. Being a part of a Christian community that had no language to articulate what was going on he just kept moving as if everything was fine, yet his body told him something different.

Andrew hit adolescence right when the internet was becoming readily available and began to self-soothe with pornography. In his words, he found a cheap substitute for God. After thirteen years of addiction to pornography and objectifying and harming women, he found himself on a psychiatric ward nearly killing himself, literally being stripped naked in a padded room.

Through a quote he read on the psych ward, he became determined to find out what makes him come alive because that's what the world needs. He found the courage to hope. He then got his degree and started using his story to reach others who are suffering in similar ways

Andrew wants everyone to understand that much of his harm was not the actual trauma that he suffered whether that was sexual abuse or the destruction of his parents’ marriage. His decision to soothe and his behavior was actually much more complex and harder to undo in the trauma itself.

Listen to the full episode to hear more about what flipped Andrew's lid and how he reconnected with who God says he really is.