Doing Something New

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08/09/21 • 30 min

Tim and Jamie have been trying a lot of new things in the name of adventure lately. Jamie says one of the most thrilling things she’s done in a while was cryotherapy. Tim prefers to call it freeze-your-ass-off therapy. It wasn’t just a crazy thing to do, though, it had quite a few health benefits. One being your body goes into fight or flight and, not being able to flee, its first response is to protect your organs. It’s a great clean out for your organs. Jamie says it was exhilarating and had her on a high for hours. Some other recent experiences were foot mapping and eating at The Melting Pot. The moral of the story is to do something new. Don’t fall into the mundane with no excitement. We need unpredictability just as much as we need predictability in relationships.

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White knight syndrome or being a savior, whatever you want to call it, it’s codependency, and it’s not healthy. It doesn’t matter if you’re the one doing the saving or the one always needing to be saved, we’re taught these roles from a young age. Just look at the cliché princess in some sort of trouble and the white knight has to come save her. The biggest thing in any relationship, whether it be husband and wife, parent and child, or boss and employee, is the presence of interdependency. Healthy relationships are both give and take. A lot of parents try to rescue their children and shield them from any ill consequences. Tim admits he’s more likely to jump in and ‘save the day’, while Jamie will ask them what they think or tell them to figure it out. Which role do you play?

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