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October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. This month, we’ve been featuring stories by survivors and hosting community conversations about domestic violence with members from the Engendered Collective. In two weeks, Americans will be going to polls to decide who they want to lead this country. If you’ve been paying attention to how our leaders are acquiring and deploying their power and feeling anxious, agitated, and scared, you understand what abuse is. These tactics are coercive control and can be exercised by the state or in an interpersonal relationship. We’ve asked listeners to share with us some of their experiences.

If you want learn how to be an upstander and help end systemic sexism and its coercive and violent manifestations in our society, please take this time to subscribe, share, follow us in social media, including our new Medium engendered publication. If you’re a survivor, advocate, or pro-feminist ally, please join our Engendered Collective community who are coming together in knowledge-sharing and building, collective care and healing and advocacy to increase accountability for abuse. Thank you to all the listeners for your ongoing support and to the survivors who called or wrote in with their stories. Your voice will help bring greater awareness to the harmful and widespread social, economic, and health impacts of abuse. Together, we can build a cultural literacy around abuse and abuse of power and better identify it, confront it, prevent it, and heal from it.

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On this episode of the en(gender)ed podcast, our guest is Laura Ramirez, the Program Coordinator at Coalition Against Trafficking in Women (CATW) . In that role and as a member of Af3irm, a transnational feminist organization, Laura speaks to us today about the ways in which health care policy and, in particular, COVID-19 or the coronavirus impacts human and sex trafficking, prostitution and pornography.. We will explore the ways in which the global demand for prostitution puts women and girls at particularly high risk of harm and exacerbates systemic gender disparities in income, wealth, mobility, and health outcomes.

During our conversation, Laura and I referenced the following resources and topics:

• The difference between "sex trafficking" and "human trafficking" and the definition offered by the Palermo Protocol
• Sex trafficking as a gendered crime given that over 90% of global victims are women and girls
• "Sex work" and labor rights
• NYC's proposed bill to decriminalize prostitution
• The difference between legalization or decriminalization of prostitution and the Equality or Nordic Model
• The work that New Yorkers for the Equality Model is doing to oppose the decriminalization bill
• The impact of COVID-19 on the prostitution industry across the world
• How the Nordic model has shifted the shame from those prostituted to the buyers as a deterrent to prostitution
• Pornhub's offer of free premium porn as a response to the COVID-19 pandemic and mask donation
• How coronavirus porn is going viral
• The recently passed "Child Parent Security Act" in NYS which legalizes commercial surrogacy
• NYC's "Sex Worker's Pop-Up" that is sponsored by the Open Society Foundations

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On this episode of engendered, our guest is Nicole Perry, a Registered psychologist with a practice in Edmonton, Canada. For the past ten years, she has worked with survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault and uses an approach called Somatic Experiencing, a body-based therapy, for healing trauma. She is known for her work as a “feminist counselor” and helps her clients work on setting boundaries, seeing problems within their context and making healthier decisions in their lives. We speak with Nicole about how her feminist, collaborative approach is used to help both her survivor and non-survivor clients.

During our conversation, we talked about these additional resources:

• Tom Digby's book, Love and War: How Militarism Shapes Sexuality and Romance and our conversation with Tom
• Peter Levine's book, Healing Trauma about his work on somatic experiencing
• Jaclyn Friedman's book, What You Really Really Want: The Smart Girl's Shame-Free Guide to Sex and Safety
• Video of women apologizing to men

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This year, in recognition of DVAM or Domestic Violence Awareness Month, the Engendered Collective hosted a series of community conversations to bring greater awareness to domestic abuse and gender-based violence. This first conversation deals with how we can create systems change and build a culture of accountability. Our guests included Elle Kamihira and Dr. Emma Katz.

Elle Kamihira is survivor, activist, and a multi-disciplinary director who has spent the last twenty years collaborating on a variety of award-winning film, museum, documentary, and theater projects. Current projects include Jennifer 42, an animated documentary that takes a close look at the role of coercive control in the true story of the murder of Jennifer Magnano, and The Most Wicked Problem, a docu-series about femicide.

Dr. Emma Katz, a researcher based in England focused on coercive control of children. Her most recent article When Coercive Control Continues to Harm Children: Post‐Separation Fathering, Stalking and Domestic Violence can be downloaded for free here . Her book Coercive Control in Children’s and Mothers’ Lives will be published by Oxford University Press in 2021. Follow Emma on Twitter at @DrEmmaKatz

During our conversation, Elle, Emma, and I touched upon the following resources:

• Lisa Fischel-Wolovick's article, Battered Mothers and Children in the Courts: A Lawyer's View
• The difference between primary (stopping violence before it starts), secondary (preventing violence from escalating), and tertiary (minimizing negative impact of violence and trauma) prevention of domestic abuse
• Evan Stark's work on "coercive control"
• A discussion paper from the government of NWS on criminalizing coercive control and Women's Safety NSW's Position Paper on criminalizing coercive control
• Jane Gilmore's work on violence and the representation of women in the media
• Nazir Afzal's work on prosecuting gender-based crimes in Britain
• Britain' efforts to categorize sexist and misogynistic acts as hate crimes
• How Scotland's laws on coercive control have stricter sentencing than England
• The work of the CEDAR Network addressing mother-child victims of abuse
• "Perspecticide" as a manifestation of coercive control
• Using the "Housing First" model to address housing insecurity for victims of abuse

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On this episode of the en(gender)ed podcast, our guest is Roz Davidson, Director of The Positive Parenting Company Ltd and a National Consultant and Trainer in the UK implementing "CODA" a 12-week therapeutic program for women and children recovering from domestic abuse which focuses on providing skills to the Mother to support the child, and addresses self-blame, attachment, what abuse is, and emotional regulation across themed sessions. We speak with Roz today about coercive control, its signs, impact, and what she and other advocates in Britain are doing to ensure that domestic abuse is taken seriously and perpetrators are held to account. Roz is currently enrolled in a program to receive her Masters in Domestic Abuse and Sexual Violence at Goldsmiths University.

During our conversation, Roz and I referenced the following resources:

• Roz Davidson’s interview Episode 133: Domestic Violence Awareness Month Community Conversation on Domestic Abuse and Child Abuse
• How Roz uses “CODA” to help children exposed to domestic abuse by addressing their behavior instead of the cause.
• Britain’s “Domestic Abuse Bill”
• Safety planning
• Objectives of the CODA program
• The “Timekeeper” PSA and training tool on coercive control of children Roz served as an advisor on
• The “Freedome” Program, “Caring Dads” Programs
• Domestic abuse is and as coercive control and intimate partner terrorism
• Timekeeper’s “Grounding” techniques and trauma-informed content

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