Dr. Gary Bell's Absurd Psychology

Low self esteem is suffered by the vast majority of the human population. Whether it be around body image, race, gender, culture, education or a million other topics, low self esteem diminishes the quality of life for anyone who suffers from it. The challenge is to put our warped perspectives in focus and clear our view of the world around us. Low self esteem is attributed to so many issues around trust, chaotic relationships and passive aggressive behavior. Without understanding what is healthy self esteem, people go through life spreading misery and self destruction of personal integrity. Tune in as I take on this overwhelming issue!

Over 3.3 million Adult children remain or have returned to their parent's home. This complex situation can create enormous stressors for both the parent(s) and their children. Relationships shift, people are taken for granted and often the ugliness of watching an adult child not move on with their life is a gigantic disappointment. Some parents want to try to fix what they can't. Some parents nag their adult children to the point they no longer can stand each other. Others just sit back and let their adult children suck their finances, life and yearning to live straight out of their bodies. These scrubs are an ever increasing problem. We will work through solutions and options in this program. Tune in!

If you are worried about the future of your marriage or relationship, you have plenty of company. There's no denying that this is a frightening time for couples. More than half of all first marriages end in divorce; 60 percent of second marriages fail. What makes the numbers even more disturbing is that no one seems to understand why our marriages have become so fragile. In pursuit of the truth about what tears a marriage apart or binds it together, I have found that much of the conventional wisdom--even among marital therapists--is either misguided or dead wrong. For example, some marital patterns that even professionals often take as a sign of a problem--such as having intense fights or avoiding conflict altogether--I have found can signify highly successful adjustments that will keep a couple together. Fighting, when it airs grievances and complaints, can be one of the healthiest things a couple can do for their relationship.

What does the word commitment suggest? It usually evokes a strong sense of intention and focus. It typically is accompanied by a statement of purpose or a plan of action. Very often, we utilize this word in regard to proclamations we may make about the seriousness of our relationships. For example, “I’m in a committed relationship,” or “I’m completely committed to this relationship.” In such circumstances, what exactly are we saying? We take it for granted that the word or the expression means the same thing to all of us. I can assure you that it doesn’t. Tune in and learn the power of commitment!

Our inner child is a part of ourselves that’s been present ever since we were conceived, through utero and all the developing years after where we were young and developing into tender selves: baby, infant, toddler, young child and middle school year. The inner child can often recall good experiences as well as childhood fears, traumas, neglect or significant loss. It can be hard to pinpoint the exact event that is tugging at us, but we can start to notice our internal patterns that have left us a subconscious “bread crumb trails” when we start to explore our inner world. Each one of us has an “inner child” living inside. You have an inner child. I have an inner child. We all do. Your “inner child” is a part of your subconscious that has been picking up messages way before it was able to fully process what was going on (mentally and emotionally). It holds emotions, memories and beliefs from the past as well as hopes and dreams for the future. Tune in and learn how to identify and forge a relationship with this critical and sometimes self-destructive part of you!