Fear Success

12/18/23 • 22 min

Dr. Decision & Coach

Many people don't believe in fear of success, but it is absolutely true.

Fear of success in Failure goal almost hand in hand

We need to make mistakes to become more successful, and those mistakes move us forward. It's

We are failing forward; the more mistakes we make, the sharper we should get.

People often tend to undermine their success just before they reach their peak. Self-sabotage is an unconscious reaction to success, usually held by some deep-seated belief that we don't understand consciously; that's why they call it unconscious, but we need to pay attention to it, especially if we're continually sabotaging ourselves.

Sometimes, this is caused by the fact that success creates distance or a lot of further potential for drop if you fail later. In the beginning, failures don't impact us as much when we aren't successful.

The $50,000 per year salesperson, who it's $50,000 in July, and guess what they do for the year....$50,000. This keeps them within their belief about how good they are. Again, we don't realize this often, but it's a subconscious thing, and this is where psychologists, a coach, a mentor, and accountability partners can be a big help.

We adjust ourselves and succeed in our belief system.

Some people don’t like it when others succeed, envy or guilt because they aren’t living up to their potential.

Take responsibility. There's an old saying: when you're pointing your finger at someone, there's three fingers pointing back at you.

Mixed messages sent by Society: be successful, but it's almost like don't be too successful, then we'll tear you down.

You have to do the work; sometimes luck plays a part, but you usually don’t get lucky unless you move in the direction you want.

The $50 bill and the Jockey

Work to get what you want to buy the Corvette; we are not entitled; we must work

Imposter syndrome is the feeling that we don't deserve to be there even though we've done the work.

Many people feel insecure about their positions, how they got there, and whether they deserve to be there again. That's the Imposter syndrome. People often feel it unjustified because they've worked to get there. Our belief system hasn't caught up with reality and accepts all the hard work.

How much money do you need? You define your own success.

Everything is about your beliefs!

Pay attention to your thoughts and beliefs, things we picked up along the way that can sabotage our success; for example:

Rich people are bad
Money is evil
You can't get ahead
Money changes you
You have to be perfect all the time
The next thing has to be perfect, bigger, better

Media- drives our fear.

Make your own decision, so you like what you're doing or do what you like.

#Fearofsuccess #self-fulling #Fear #excuses

Email: dennis@drdecision&coach.com

#success #procrastination # confidence # Personal development #habit #consistency

Many people don't believe in fear of success, but it is absolutely true.

Fear of success in Failure goal almost hand in hand

We need to make mistakes to become more successful, and those mistakes move us forward. It's

We are failing forward; the more mistakes we make, the sharper we should get.

We adjust ourselves and succeed in our belief system.

Some people don’t like it when others succeed, envy or guilt because they aren’t living up to their potential.

Take responsibility. There's an old saying: when you're pointing your finger at someone, there's three fingers pointing back at you.

Mixed messages sent by Society: be successful, but it's almost like don't be too successful, then we'll tear you down.

You have to do the work; sometimes luck plays a part, but you usually don’t get lucky unless you move in the direction you want.

The $50 bill and the Jockey

Work to get what you want to buy the Corvette; we are not entitled; we must work

Imposter syndrome is the feeling that we don't deserve to be there even though we've done the work.

How much money do you need? You define your own success.

Everything is about your beliefs!

Pay attention to your thoughts and beliefs, things we picked up along the way that can sabotage our success; for example:

Rich people are bad
Money is evil
You can't get ahead
Money changes you
You have to be perfect all the time
The next thing has to be perfect, bigger, better

Media- drives our fear.

Make your own decision, so you like what you're doing or do what you like.

#Fearofsuccess #self-fulling #Fear #excuses

Email: dennis@drdecision&coach.com

#success #procrastination # confidence # Personal development #habit #consistency

Previous Episode

The Blame Game

The Blame Game

The Accountability Mindset

Blaming, strips away your power to effect change. Embrace responsibility instead. Shift from "I wish" to "I will." True self-esteem stems from confronting challenges, taking action, and finding satisfaction in your accomplishments. This builds confidence and courage. Genuine self-confidence and self-esteem originate internally, yet many seek validation externally.

Taking Responsibility

Many individuals or families can manage a $400 emergency in a financial crises.

Be vigilant in repetitive situations; the common denominator might be you. Pause and ask:

Is this a recurring pattern?
What actions am I taking?
Why do I keep repeating this?
What role am I playing?
What aspects are changeable?
What can I do differently?

Identify areas for improvement and set goals. Consider a goal buddy, accountability partner, mentor, or therapist.

Overcoming Resistance
Understand that resistance often stems from a fear of change, the necessity, or admitting a need for change.
Persist in learning, trying new things, and breaking tasks into sub-goals or micro-steps. Small steps are less intimidating.
Sometimes, a catalyst—someone who ignites a spark—is necessary.
Address fears of success and self-sabotage. Expect others to question your decisions based on their beliefs and experiences, not necessarily aligned with yours.
Refuse to let "What Other People Think" (WOPT) dictate your life. Focus on identifying what's missing and what you can do to attain it.
Shift from blame to responsibility.

Stop beating yourself it; if that worked, you would be perfect by now.

Remember, blame is not a strategy for a meaningful life. Take charge, set goals, and thrive.

Email: dennis@drdecision&coach.com

#success #procrastination # confidence # Personal development #habit #consistency

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News Years Resolutions

New Year’s Resolutions
and Stress
Making New Year’s resolutions may help a few people make some positive changes in their lives. Every New Year's Eve the tradition of setting goals and making decisions to live and work better begins. Usually, the motivation to utilize the resolutions wears off by March. The more common ones include such decisions as starting a personal & wellness program, which may include diet, exercise, decreasing alcohol intake, stopping smoking, and so on. All of these are valuable for developing resilience, which helps with managing stress. My best advice to help you
keep the resolutions listed below.
PROBLEMS WITH RESOLUTIONS
Many resolutions are oftentimes more of a wish or desire to be different in some way. But a wish is not a decision to change. Also, “all-or-nothing” thinking about the resolutions sets up cycles of feelings that include remorse and guilt if you don't follow through.
HOW TO IMPLEMENT YOUR DECISION TO CHANGE
Five helpful steps:
1. Set realistic goals, and instead of attempting to stop certain behaviors, it is better to set positive goals. In other words, do not try to stop smoking but do resolve to breathe healthier and live better. Take “baby steps” to reach the goals.
2. Use a sense of humor and a perspective that does not include an all-or-nothing attitude. You are not going to gain 10 pounds because you ate one Big Mac! One " bad behavior" does not make you a non-dieter again. It makes you a person who just ate a tasty burger and has decided to limit that behavior.
3. Decide on your method of living healthier and stick to it in moderation. Avoid high, rigid standards and look at "slips&quot for just what they are. For example, your five weeks of dieting is not a total loss if you overdo it one day. Aim for moderate goals like eating healthier and losing weight at a gradual pace.
4. Even if you don’t totally meet your goal, reducing the damage you may be
doing to your health is still a positive step. This is referred to as “harm reduction” since you have lowered your risk of health problems, and it may help you meet your ultimate goal at a later point in time.
Summary:
Set positive goals; break the decisions down into small steps; avoid an all-or-nothing
attitude, and reward yourself for the progress made. Remember the best decision rule--Instead of worrying about whether you made the best decision or not, make the best of the decision you've made.