4 Biblical Keys to Setting Boundaries with a Toxic Mother

10/20/22 • 9 min

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Difficult Relationships - Christian Wisdom for Life's Toughest Ties

The mother daughter relationship should be one marked by nurture, love, support and proper correction. Sadly for many women, their relationship with mom is marked by dysfunction, blame, self-centeredness, and manipulation.

It’s difficult to hug a porcupine, even when she’s your mother.

And if you’re being honest, there’s no other relationship where you would tolerate such behavior.

Over the years, I’ve seen more women negatively affected by toxic mothers more than any other life issue. And nearly every time, I witness these loving women hoping their manipulative mothers will miraculously change IF they could just do enough, be enough, and explain enough.

This never works.

Instead of focusing on trying to love your mother enough that she magically transforms in to a marvelous mom, or continuing your relentless attempts at pleasing her, it may be time to learn how to set boundaries with her.

Let’s talk today about four crucial keys to setting biblical boundaries with a manipulative mother.

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It’s difficult to hug a porcupine, even when she’s your mother.

And if you’re being honest, there’s no other relationship where you would tolerate such behavior.

This never works.

Let’s talk today about four crucial keys to setting biblical boundaries with a manipulative mother.

FREE Toxic People Survival Guide
https://krisreece.com/toxic-people-survival-guide

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When to Stay and When to Walk Away from a Toxic Mother

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In this episode we talk about when to stay and when to walk away from a toxic mother and how to do it biblically.
Leaving a relationship is never easy and the decision should not be taken lightly, but we have necessary relationship endings all the time, friends, coworkers, even churches. But what do you do when you have to consider walking away from your own mother? Some people have a great relationship with their mother, a wonderful adult relationship that is built upon, mutual love and respect. But some others didn't get the memo that you're not a child anymore who needs to obey her every command, therefore creating a terrible strain on the relationship, only to have it turned back on the adult child, as the source of the problem.

All relationships take work. There's a difference between personality differences, growth trap challenges and your toxicity. Toxic relationships are defined by one that makes you feel unsupported, misunderstood, demeaned, or attacked or even avoided. It's one that leaves you feeling worse rather than better over time, and it's not marked by a few difficult interactions, but rather a blatant ignorance of the dynamics of a healthy relationship. In other words, toxic people are not safe and there may be physical abuse taking place, but if there are such things as manipulation, guilt, selfishness, gaslighting and disregard, my friend, you are likely dealing with levels of toxicity.

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Can Your Mother be Trusted? (5 Warning Signs from God)

Imagine living your life in constant fear, never knowing how, or when you're going to be blamed, for just being you. Stomach, is always in knots, you'll watch your every word you'd give anything to be able to just relax. All you want to do is live in peace but you can't seem to escape this toxic person. No, no, not because your barricaded or in bondage, but simply because you were born.

Now, imagine that toxic person is your own mother. Have you ever been in a relationship with someone that you just couldn't share vulnerable information or connect on a genuine level and maybe you weren't able to put your finger on it, but you felt like something was just off. I just can't seem to trust this person and see if people aren't able to join you in the joys of life and or the struggles.

Unsafe people have a way of making you feel fearful and foolish for having confided in them and it's hard enough, dealing with unsafe people in friendships and romantic partners. But what do you do when it's your own mother? If interactions with your own mother leave you scratching your head or pull your hair out, it might be, that mom is more toxic than your thought.

So today, let's talk about five signs that God is showing you that your mother isn't safe.
I have included a link to Faithful Counseling to help you find a counselor that works best for you. Faithful Counseling is a network of counselors all across the United States and when you call you going to be paired with the best one for you. And if you use the link above, you will actually receive a 10% discount off of your first month’s counseling. And if you would like help on healing from a toxic mother, I want to invite you to check out my Heal from a Toxic Mother course it is designed to help you restore your life through faith or if you’re saying, I need better boundaries to be able to handle myself around my mother. We have a new course that is launching it is a Toxic Mother Survival Course it is the Christian’s guide to dealing with your toxic mother Biblically.