
What Are You Afraid Of?
08/30/22 • 10 min
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Season 3 Finale; What Are You Afraid Of?
What do you do when you have fears in your relationships and marriage? Or when you get triggered by your childhood and past experiences? Fear has a way of showing up in our relationship and/or marriage. Sometimes we fear that our marriage may not last, we won't be good parents, we won't manage money well making us doubt ourselves and question our very being. We can't always keep our fears at bay, but we don't have to be trapped by them.
If what people say or do sometimes trigger fear in your relationship and marriage, you need to be honest with yourself and dig deeper. Don’t just look at how you think, what you see, what is going on, and how it is making you feel. Look at why it’s making you feel that way and find the real underlining issue.
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During this episode, you will learn about;
[00:00] Episode intro
[02:14] Today’s focus: What Are You Afraid of
[03:41] Digging out the root and finding the real underlying issue
[04:08] How childhood experiences can trigger fear in your marriage
[06:30] Find out what it’s that you are afraid of
[07:11] Fear does not come from God; 2 Timothy 1:17
[07:41] God cares about you and the things that you fear; 1 Peter 1:5-7
[08:14] Being honest with yourself and your partner and doing the work
[09:08] How to move past your fears
[09:17] Ending the show and call to action
Notable Quotes
- Fear always has a way of showing up
- Cast all your fears on God, for he cares for you
- You don’t have to say it out loud to the world; say it to yourself.
- It’s not going to be easy or comfortable, but it’s worth it
- You have to be honest with yourself, your partner, and your children to move past fear
Let’s Connect
Monique Simmons
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About The Show
*****Thank you so much for listening to the DEMO with Mo PODCAST! This podcast’s mission is to help equip you with the tools and practical applications to do relationships well. Get inspired, motivated, and tuned up with honest conversations every week. Follow us on Facebook and Instagram and be part of this blessed family.
Please consider leaving a review and sharing it with your friends and family!
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Season 3 Finale; What Are You Afraid Of?
What do you do when you have fears in your relationships and marriage? Or when you get triggered by your childhood and past experiences? Fear has a way of showing up in our relationship and/or marriage. Sometimes we fear that our marriage may not last, we won't be good parents, we won't manage money well making us doubt ourselves and question our very being. We can't always keep our fears at bay, but we don't have to be trapped by them.
If what people say or do sometimes trigger fear in your relationship and marriage, you need to be honest with yourself and dig deeper. Don’t just look at how you think, what you see, what is going on, and how it is making you feel. Look at why it’s making you feel that way and find the real underlining issue.
Tune in!
During this episode, you will learn about;
[00:00] Episode intro
[02:14] Today’s focus: What Are You Afraid of
[03:41] Digging out the root and finding the real underlying issue
[04:08] How childhood experiences can trigger fear in your marriage
[06:30] Find out what it’s that you are afraid of
[07:11] Fear does not come from God; 2 Timothy 1:17
[07:41] God cares about you and the things that you fear; 1 Peter 1:5-7
[08:14] Being honest with yourself and your partner and doing the work
[09:08] How to move past your fears
[09:17] Ending the show and call to action
Notable Quotes
- Fear always has a way of showing up
- Cast all your fears on God, for he cares for you
- You don’t have to say it out loud to the world; say it to yourself.
- It’s not going to be easy or comfortable, but it’s worth it
- You have to be honest with yourself, your partner, and your children to move past fear
Let’s Connect
Monique Simmons
Website: https://www.demowithmo.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/demowithmo/
Facebook: https://web.facebook.com/demowithmo/
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@demowithmo/
About The Show
*****Thank you so much for listening to the DEMO with Mo PODCAST! This podcast’s mission is to help equip you with the tools and practical applications to do relationships well. Get inspired, motivated, and tuned up with honest conversations every week. Follow us on Facebook and Instagram and be part of this blessed family.
Please consider leaving a review and sharing it with your friends and family!
Connect with Mo
Become a Subscriber for subscriber only content: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1834533/subscribe
Merchandise: https://demo-with-mo.myspreadshop.com/
Website: https://www.demowithmo.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/demowithmopodcast/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/demowithmo/
Facebook Relationship Community:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/548524369897098/?ref=share
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Learning How to Create Healthy Boundaries with In-laws & Extended Family
Learning How to Create Healthy Boundaries with In-laws and Extended Family with Christ-Lynn Smith
How do we create healthy boundaries with our in-laws and extended family members? How can we have conversations with our partners about protecting our relationships and marriage without it turning into a power struggle, or worse yet, the very thing that is being avoided by creating these boundaries?
In-laws are a constant struggle for some. They don't always get along with our partners, or we don't agree on managing relationships with them. This can lead to conflict and tension in relationships and marriage. In order to maintain healthy boundaries, we need to have conversations with our partners about how in-laws should be handled not to cause a rift in the marriage.
In today’s episode, I invited the podcast host of “Black Marriage Therapy,” Christ-Lynn Smith, and we discussed how to create healthy boundaries with in-laws and extended family, having conversations with our partners to get on one accord about how to protect our relationship/ marriage.
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During this episode, you will learn about;
[00:28] Episode intro and a quick bio of the guest; Christ-Lynn Smith
[02:03] The one thing about Lynn that people don't know
[04:59] The journey behind Lynn's motivation to start a podcast
[07:56] How she and her husband created healthy boundaries with in-laws
[11:32] What are relationship boundaries?
[14:30] Effects of lacking a model of a healthy boundary as they got into marriage
[18:53] The good and bad about getting married young
[21:52] What hinders us from making and setting boundaries
[28:41] Years of learning and growth before she got on the same page with her husband
[42:12] Understand empathy, judgment, and family dynamics in relationships
[44:48] When should couples have conversations about boundaries they want to put in place
[48:41] The need to re-adjust your boundaries in periods of transition as a couple
Notable Quotes
- When you see someone go through an experience like yours, you empathize because you know how exactly it feels.
- In-law relationships are unique and complex in different relationships and people.
- Relationships change for the better when you are on the same page with your spouse or partner.
- If you set the boundary and are consistent with it, your in-laws will fall in line because they love you and want to be part of your life.
- You set boundaries around things that you believe are valuable. Things that you want to protect and keep safe.
- We are afraid to set boundaries because of conflict, so we don't. However, we cause more conflict when we don't.
- An In-law relationship can define your marriage.
- Understand your par
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Next Episode

Let's Talk About Sex
Let's Talk About Sex
Sex is a common concern. It’s affecting so many of us on a much broader scale, both inside and outside the bedroom. Yet most of us don’t talk about it the way we should. We are embarrassed to get real about sex and the things that really bother us, even with our spouses. Sex is something that we need to talk about, especially as Christians and believers. We talk about everything in the church but a lot of times, we don't talk enough about sex, and when we do talk about it, it's usually a negative connotation around it. We need to get to a place where we are comfortable in our conversations when it comes to sex. God created sex for pleasure and for us to enjoy. We have to start taking the narrative of sex back and teaching positivity outside our bedrooms. This will help us and our children to be free and have healthy and productive relationships.
Join the conversation with Dana Che as she shares her experiences, more about sex, and how you can get comfortable and confident having a conversation around sex. Dana Che is a marriage and relationship coach and the Real Relationship Talk podcast host. She is also an online pastor in a multisite and multiethnic church. Her mission is to help lead people into more fruitful relationships with the Lord and each other. She's married to her husband Shaun of 23 years, and they have 4 children together and live in Virginia Beach.
Tune in!
During this episode, you will learn about;
[00:24] Episode intro and today's focus
[05:13] What inspired today's topic, Let’s talk about sex
[09:41] A bit about our guest today, Dana Che
[11:58] Dana's experience growing up and how it shaped her perspective on sex
[15:28] How our parent’s background affects their openness to sex conversations
[20:14] What Dana learned from the church and how it affected her as a teenager
[27:07] Dana’s perspective about sex and why it took so long to change even after getting Married
[33:57] What Dana has done differently with her children in sex conversations
[35:45] Dana’s perspective on how the church’s doing in providing resources to singles and couples regarding sex
[38:14] What Dana’s church is doing in providing resources to support sexual intimacy
[41:51] What the church can do better in providing space for sex and sexuality
[44:50] Dana’s message to her 14 year old self and the message she needed to hear
[48:36] Dana’s advice to new wives who feel ashamed and uncomfortable in the bedroom
[55:31] Dana’s advice to couples who want to spice it up and enjoy their sexual intimacy
[01:03:37] Does Dana still have difficulties talking about sex with the church? Find out
[01:04:13] How to talk to your children about sex without them wanting to try it out
[01:12:44] How important it is for the church
Connect with Mo
Become a Subscriber for subscriber only content: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1834533/subscribe
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Facebook Relationship Community:
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