DBM Episode 26 In Case You Forgot: A Conversation with Frederick Smith & Chaz Lamar
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09/04/19 • 76 min
Dear Mama,
Take a trip with me back to when you read your first book by Terry McMillian, E. Lynn Harris or Eric Jerome Dickey and their names & their characters names rolled off our tongues like family members. These authors wrote Blackness without explanation or apology. In these books we were allowed to love, fail, explore, and soar without the weight of being flattened by whiteness. Above all else those books were page turning fun! If you, your mama, or Auntie cut their grown-ness on these books then you’ll love this episode and our guest Frederick Smith & Chaz Lamar, authors of In Case You Forgot, the story of two newly single, Black, queer, and socially aware men who have packed up to start again--in love, career, and life--in the West Hollywood neighborhood of LA. Zaire James, on the cusp of 30, has decided marriage isn't all it's cracked up to be. Despite friends, family, and coworkers loving Zaire's "perfect" partner, divorce is a necessary step for finding himself and being free. Kenny Kane has made a career of deferring dreams, lowering expectations, and chasing partners not on his level in hopes of finding a love to call his own. However, on the verge of the big 4-0, he realizes the clock is ticking on all his dreams. As Zaire and Kenny undo the significant relationships of their pasts, they hope new opportunities, energy, mindsets, and connections will reinvigorate what is missing in their lives--drama and all. In this episode we delve into this juicy book and all it’s layers, the tension & love between Black women and queer Black men, heteronormativity, Black trauma, healing and laugh ALOT. In Case You Forgot is published by Bold Strokes Book and is available wherever you buy books. As always thanks for rockin with us. Don’t just listen subscribe and follow us on all social media platforms @demblackmamaspodcast so you won’t miss an episode. Please keep emailing us, keep engaging with us through social media comments, your reviews, and SoundCloud comments. Keep sharing us, even if it’s only with one other person. If you’re a new listener, welcome to the ride. Invest in us (all links in our show notes on our website) by becoming a DBM patron, buying merch or giving a one time donation. Now let’s get free yall...
SHOW LINE UP
Church Announcements/Prayer Requests:
Black Mama Creative Week: Check our Facebook page for interviews
Thea Monyee: Ayo Consults
Sista Midwife Doula Training w/ Nicole Deggins
REGISTER NOW: https://courses.sistamidwife.com/courses/losangeles
Follow Sista Midwife: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | YouTube
*My Daughter’s Keeper by Mark Winkler
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Mac & Cheese:
Frederick Smith: Instragram | Twitter | Facebook
Dear Mama,
Take a trip with me back to when you read your first book by Terry McMillian, E. Lynn Harris or Eric Jerome Dickey and their names & their characters names rolled off our tongues like family members. These authors wrote Blackness without explanation or apology. In these books we were allowed to love, fail, explore, and soar without the weight of being flattened by whiteness. Above all else those books were page turning fun! If you, your mama, or Auntie cut their grown-ness on these books then you’ll love this episode and our guest Frederick Smith & Chaz Lamar, authors of In Case You Forgot, the story of two newly single, Black, queer, and socially aware men who have packed up to start again--in love, career, and life--in the West Hollywood neighborhood of LA. Zaire James, on the cusp of 30, has decided marriage isn't all it's cracked up to be. Despite friends, family, and coworkers loving Zaire's "perfect" partner, divorce is a necessary step for finding himself and being free. Kenny Kane has made a career of deferring dreams, lowering expectations, and chasing partners not on his level in hopes of finding a love to call his own. However, on the verge of the big 4-0, he realizes the clock is ticking on all his dreams. As Zaire and Kenny undo the significant relationships of their pasts, they hope new opportunities, energy, mindsets, and connections will reinvigorate what is missing in their lives--drama and all. In this episode we delve into this juicy book and all it’s layers, the tension & love between Black women and queer Black men, heteronormativity, Black trauma, healing and laugh ALOT. In Case You Forgot is published by Bold Strokes Book and is available wherever you buy books. As always thanks for rockin with us. Don’t just listen subscribe and follow us on all social media platforms @demblackmamaspodcast so you won’t miss an episode. Please keep emailing us, keep engaging with us through social media comments, your reviews, and SoundCloud comments. Keep sharing us, even if it’s only with one other person. If you’re a new listener, welcome to the ride. Invest in us (all links in our show notes on our website) by becoming a DBM patron, buying merch or giving a one time donation. Now let’s get free yall...
SHOW LINE UP
Church Announcements/Prayer Requests:
Black Mama Creative Week: Check our Facebook page for interviews
Thea Monyee: Ayo Consults
Sista Midwife Doula Training w/ Nicole Deggins
REGISTER NOW: https://courses.sistamidwife.com/courses/losangeles
Follow Sista Midwife: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | YouTube
*My Daughter’s Keeper by Mark Winkler
Follow Mark: Instagram
Mac & Cheese:
Frederick Smith: Instragram | Twitter | Facebook
Previous Episode
DBM Episode 25 Part 1 BMCW19 featuring Margaret Wilkerson Sexton
Dear Mama: Let all the myths of motherhood crumble at your feet. Dig motherhood out from under the rock of sacrifice. Look at your children and be willing to be a student, be willing to receive. See them as path makers and pathfinders. It is work. It takes presence. It takes an open heart and a willing soul. All the things white supremacy is built to beat out of us. The truth is, if we are committed to building the Promise Land outside of us by dismantling systemic and institutional oppression, then we've got to be willing to build a Promise Land within us. This is not to say that motherhood is easy; that it's not frustrating and exhausting but it ain't the thing killing us. White supremacy is. This is our prayer for every Black mother. This is our declaration for #BlackMamaCreativeWeek - Motherhood is not the graveyard of dreams.
We’re excited to be joined in this episode by one of our Patron Donna Jeneen and National Book Award nominee Margaret Wilkerson Sexton. Thank you for supporting us all week. If you missed any of our Facebook Lives, you can still check them out on our Facebook page and we will have all of our live videos up on YouTube by Tuesday, July 2nd. Please be sure to tag us and use the hashtag #BlackMamaCreative #BlackMamaCreativeWeek #BMCW19 Let us know how your felt about the week by emailing us and engaging with us through social media comments. Please keep sharing us, even if it’s only with one other person. If you’re a new listener, welcome to the ride. Invest in us (all links in our show notes on our website) by becoming a DBM patron, buying merch or giving a one time donation. now let’s get free yall and jump into Part 1 of Episode 25 of (Insert the girls saying Dem Black Mamas)
EVENTS
Sista Midwife Nicole Deggin Doula Training November 2019, LA: https://courses.sistamidwife.com/courses/losangeles
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- PREORDER THE REVISIONERS by Margaret Wilkerson Sexton NOW!
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- BARNES & NOBLE: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/the-revisioners-margaret-wilkerson-sexton/1130454675?ean=9781640092587
- Margaret Wilkerson Sexton: www.margaretwilkersonsexton.com
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DBM Episode 27 The Upper Room
#DearMama
If you’re feeling like you’re in quicksand, disconnected, or running on empty, then this is the episode for you! It is a reminder to not to limit spirit, that spirit is in EVERYTHING and we must continue to dig deeper for a higher connection. In this episode we revisit Episode 4 How I Made It Ova, recorded two years ago and evaluate our spiritual evolution since then. This is an “Empty the Crates” episode meaning we recorded it a while back and never released it. So some of the commentary may be a little dated. It’s still a gem though yall. Listen & ask yourself: What do I need to be rooted in to gain alignment on all levels of my being, in every aspect of my identity to manifest the life I need for me and my children to thrive? Let us know what your answer is or even if you couldn’t come up with an answer send us your thoughts and questions about this episode.
As always thanks for rockin with us. Don’t just listen subscribe and follow us on all social media platforms @demblackmamaspodcast so you won’t miss an episode. Please keep emailing us, keep engaging with us through social media comments, your reviews, and SoundCloud comments. Keep sharing us, even if it’s only with one other person. If you’re a new listener, welcome to the ride. Invest in us by becoming a DBM patron, buying merch or giving a one time donation. For full show notes check our website demblackmamas.com. Now let’s get free yall and jump into Episode 27!
SHOW LINE UP
Church Announcements/Prayer Requests:
Sista Midwife Doula Training w/ Nicole Deggins, Los Angeles,
Nov 8th-10 & November 15th-18th
REGISTER NOW: https://courses.sistamidwife.com/courses/losangeles
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Mac & Cheese:
Revisiting Episode 4 (How I Made It Ova) & evaluating the evolution of our spirituality
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