131: Comparing and Justifying Prevent Healing

11/28/19 • 33 min

Do you feel that you deserve to heal and feel better on your fertility journey? Do you feel like you deserve to be a mother and experience a healthier pregnancy? Do you feel like you deserve to grieve your losses and bring a baby home from the hospital? Of course, we say that we deserve these things, but the problem is that we battle an underlying feeling of unworthiness.

In this episode:

The qualifications we use to call ourselves “infertile” [3:20]
How we, as women, allow everyone else’s needs to be more important than our own [12:20]
When we don’t feel validated in our experience, we tend to look for validation from other people [17:00]
Why we feel like we deserve the “bad things,” but don’t deserve healing and support [24:16]
You don’t need to try to “figure out” if your pain is justified as compared with someone else’s [27:29]

You shouldn’t have to fight for the ability to grieve, honor your story, and heal. You ARE worth it, and you deserve to heal from grief and trauma. When was the last time you told yourself that?

Resources:

Modern Approach to Grief & Trauma Release (Free Webinar)- http://bit.ly/modappweb

Schedule a consultation - http://bit.ly/healthstratsess

Join us in Healing Hearts - http://bit.ly/healheartdirect

In this episode:

The qualifications we use to call ourselves “infertile” [3:20]
How we, as women, allow everyone else’s needs to be more important than our own [12:20]
When we don’t feel validated in our experience, we tend to look for validation from other people [17:00]
Why we feel like we deserve the “bad things,” but don’t deserve healing and support [24:16]
You don’t need to try to “figure out” if your pain is justified as compared with someone else’s [27:29]

You shouldn’t have to fight for the ability to grieve, honor your story, and heal. You ARE worth it, and you deserve to heal from grief and trauma. When was the last time you told yourself that?

Resources:

Modern Approach to Grief & Trauma Release (Free Webinar)- http://bit.ly/modappweb

Schedule a consultation - http://bit.ly/healthstratsess

Join us in Healing Hearts - http://bit.ly/healheartdirect

Previous Episode

130: How to Prepare for a Pre-Term Delivery

November is Prematurity Awareness Month, so it’s a good time for us to discuss the basics. In today’s show, we’re talking about risk factors for preterm delivery and other information you need to know about this frightening experience.

In this episode:

Prematurity is the leading cause of death for children under five across the world---and the rate in the US keeps rising. [1:47]
A history of preterm delivery is the #1 risk factor for another preterm delivery. [6:51]
Many medical conditions and lifestyle habits can increase the chances of preterm delivery. [21:27]
Conditions associated with stress can contribute to risk factors. [23:09]
What you need to know about the four levels of the NICU--and what to expect with each one. [33:14]

You need to be well-informed about the risk factors for preterm delivery, red flags to look for, who you need on your team, and how to prepare yourself.

Resources:

What Should I Ask My Doctor (free guide) - bit.ly/whattoaskdr

What Every Woman Needs to Know About Pelvic Floor Health with Catherine Middlebrooks - http://bit.ly/dmep117

5 Myths About Trauma http://bit.ly/5traumamyths

Modern Approach to Grief & Trauma Release Free Webinar http://bit.ly/modappweb

Schedule a consultation - http://bit.ly/healthstratsess

Next Episode

132: The Biggest Problem of Prenatal & Postpartum Care

This is the episode I didn’t want to do. I tried to avoid it, but I can’t. My feelings are prompted by what I’ve seen on social media posts and articles--and those have left an awful taste in my mouth. We have an epidemic in the US of healthcare providers not listening to women when they complain about their pain and what’s going on in their lives. People don’t listen, and they don’t trust what women say, but then they wonder why all these women’s health issues keep cropping up in spite of our advanced technology. I’m angry--and you should be, too. Let’s talk about it.

In this episode:

99% of my clients have experienced being silenced, being ignored, or medical errors being made because they were not believed.
In advocating for evidence-based solutions to women’s health issues, we can’t ignore the fact that every person’s body and experiences are different.
We are only able to trust our instincts when we’re able to regulate our nervous system in scary situations.
Regardless of your age, career, education, social status, or finances, YOU are the only expert on your body.
Statistics are just big-picture guidelines, so you need to lead with your body and what it is telling you.

In women’s health, providers understand the clinical side of data but ignore the lived-in experiences of women. We need more research, but your lived-in experiences matter way more than any study. Find a provider who respects your experiences and will let YOU lead.

Resources:

What Should I Ask My Doctor (free guide)--http://bit.ly/whattoaskdr

How to Get a Reliable Second Opinion--http://bit.ly/003dmep

5 Signs You Need a New OB--http://bit.ly/neednewOB

How to Be an Empowered Patient--http://bit.ly/dm022ep

5 Myths About Trauma--http://bit.ly/5traumamyths

Modern Approach to Grief & Trauma Release (free webinar)--http://bit.ly/modappweb

Schedule a Strategy Session--http://bit.ly/healthstratsess