From the one Who Carries Wounds to the one Who Heals Wounds; Enjoy Every Bit of Life w/Tanya Bashor

04/29/23 • 45 min

Have you ever felt guilty or not being deserved for what you have and where you are? Sometimes it is a mixed feeling to move on or focus on creating what you want. When your loved ones could not experience the same quality of life, we may feel we are the exiles. A sense of belonging is reduced and a sense of betrayal is increased.

I am so amazed hearing Tanya said “It’s all worth it.” “I am willing to experience it again so I can support those women.” I could not imagine the darkness she went through: the decades of heartbreak and physical sickness, and not knowing when this will end. I am not sure how this commitment can be made. But I am encouraged to see the sunshine in the sky. The light has come.

Tanya Bashor, a banker and a coach helping women who are influenced by narcissistic abuse relationships. She experienced a difficult time leaving family and dear friends in her home country. Then, a 22-year toxic relationship put her into panic attacks, uncontrollable asthma, and other illnesses that she could not understand. After overcoming these, she rebuilt her life. More than that, she helps other women to walk out from the shadow of trauma and embrace the light. Tanya is a first generation immigrant and also the first one in her family transferring her past experience into a profession and a business supporting others.

Here us discuss:

[01 '30] Be the only one in a foreign country; identity; self-doubts and knowing oneself more
[04 '00] Feel betraying origin family and country while building a new identity
[05 '46] Build a new life while “left” family and old friends behind
[19 '19] How to stay in joy and feel we deserve what we create while looking at the loved ones not being able to enjoy the same
[23 '50] Heal our own wounds and other people’s wounds
[30 '24] Transferring past experience into a profession and a business supporting others
[39 '37] Go for it!

To know more about Miranda's work:
https://mirandameng.com/

Here us discuss:

To know more about Miranda's work:
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How to Create New Environments Paving You to the Place You Want to Be? w/Hoa Nguyen, Part 1 of 2

If I grew up in an environment where language barrier was high, finance pressure was rough, women tend not to be exposed to higher education, and yet my mother gave me unconditional love and trust, who would I be?

Hoa Nguyen is an Optometrist, a Real Estate Syndicator, a mom, and a support to help other women to walk into the possibilities they have not imagine yet. Since Hoa was very little, she makes decisions to create a life she wants and more abilities to support her loved ones. She is a first-generation immigrant and doctoral degree owner. She is the one setting new norms and expanding possibilities of lives in her family and community.

Hear us discuss:[01 '11] How to get a vision for oneself? (Journey from being a young immigrant to a doctor and an entrepreneur)
[08 '27] Build a career of many demanding business while being a mom and a minority in the industries
[09 '19] Secrets to get mentorship and supports from the established people in a new field
[14 '23] Being a first-generation
[15 '50] Being the one who breaks a undesired chain of a family
[18 '16] The biggest support and role model (trust, love, faith from mom)
[21 '22] The impact to the surroundings and next generation
[24 '49] Tools and methods to stay resilient

To know more about Miranda's work:
https://mirandameng.com/

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Make Our Thoughts a Reality Even When there is Fear w/Hoa Nguyen, Part 2 of 2

After you reach a point where everyone thinks you have everything, would you stop and enjoy it? I can sense that Hoa enjoys every moment to create another milestone and create more values to different people. It does not pressure her or activate the never ending competition. It is just her curiosity about "what’s else?" and the love she has for her community.

We are happy to hear about your 30-day project and delighted to form a support group. Let’s make our thoughts come true together. Feel free to email us at “[email protected]”

Hoa Nguyen is an Optometrist, a Real Estate Syndicator, a mom, and a support to help other women walk out of their comfort zone. Since she was very little, she makes decisions to have a life she wants and be able to support the loved ones.

Hear us discuss:
[01 '56] Keep momentum and don’t set a limit; overcome the fear of public speaking
[16 '50] When the low time comes, how to overcome it
[21 '33] Let yourself see your goals written on paper, visualize it, and realize it
[23 '24] A 30-day project. Let your thoughts become a reality.
[26 '47] Be true to yourself; methods to align your thoughts, values, and actions
[29 '24] Teach resilience to your kids
[31 '57] Strong beliefs

To know more about Miranda's work:
https://mirandameng.com/