158. When you feel hurt and offended...

Have you noticed how in this modern age of social media, people are so easily hurt, upset, and offended? I know that I’ve fallen prey to knee jerk reactions when scrolling online.

In this episode, Jesse and I talk about this book I’m reading by Brant Hansen called Unoffendable: How Just One Change Can Make All of Life Better. Hansen challenges us to ask the question, “How would it change my life if I chose not to be offended by others?”

Some of you may be thinking, “But how do I even do that? You don’t know what this person has done or said (or not done or not said).” I don’t, but I do know this: We get to choose how we respond. We can’t choose how other people treat us or respond to us or what they say to us or do to us, but we can choose our response.

This doesn’t mean that we let people walk all over us or that we don’t set boundaries, but it does mean that we can choose to either be a victim or a victor. We can choose to either be offended and hurt and upset, or we can acknowledge our feelings, grieve our loss, and choose to forgive.

In this episode, we dive into this topic + we talk about Silas’ recent Science Fair, an early preschool curriculum we started with Kierstyn and are loving, and what’s saving our lives.

In This Episode

[00:34] – Welcome to another episode of The Crystal Paine Show.

[01:03] – Today is the first time we have recorded a podcast — in PJs!

[05:58] – Speaking of PJ’s, we are excited to finally be sleeping through the night again!

[08:07] – But that has come with some crazy dreams for me.

[10:11] – What’s saving our life.

[11:31] – Yesterday we made Oobleck, if you haven’t done that with your kids it is so much fun.

[12:28] – We have been getting a lot of kind feedback from our audience.

[12:54] – I read a couple of notes from our audience.

[15:50] – There are no perfect families, no perfect parents, and no perfect children.

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[18:46] – Today’s topic is inspired by Brant Hansen’s book, Unoffendable.

[20:47] – Years and years of being on the internet has confirmed this: it’s hard to say anything without offending someone.

[22:41] – I feel like there is some much that we can learn from people on the internet. But it’s so easy for a little thing to turn into a really big thing.

[25:43] – We get to choose how we respond.

[27:58] – It’s okay to acknowledge anger, but it’s what we do with it.

[28:08] – Before rashly reacting, stop... take a breath, and really ask God to help us love others well.

[31:31] – Jesse shares a concept about backing away from an issue when you have an immediate emotional response.

Links & Resources

• Books
• Unoffendable: How Just One Change Can Make All of Life Better by Brant Hansen
• Special Mentions
• Homemade Oobleck
• My Father’s World, preschool curriculum
• Other Links
• Love-Centered Parenting
• 10 Days to Be a Happier Mom
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• MoneySavingMom.com
• My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!)
• Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: crystal @ moneysavingmom.com

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