Crystal Paine Show

You all love it when we do Answering Your Burning Question podcast episodes. It's been awhile since we've done one, so I posted recently on Instagram asking for questions you’d like Jesse and I to answer on the podcast and you had lots of great questions.

We went through as many as we could on this episode -- including talking about Kathrynne's new job, budgeting, where we'd love to travel, how we find time for intimacy (this was the number one asked question!), where would we love to travel to, date nights, would we take more foster care placements right now, and much more!

Jesse and I also discuss teaching Kathrynne how to drive, our vacation to Arkansas, the books we're reading, and how I'm getting in exercise right now.

In This Episode:

[00:33] We’re answering your burning questions on today's episode.

[01:29] RODECaster Pro is saving Jesse’s life.

[03:26] Why Jesse is teaching Kathrynne how to drive instead of me.

[04:53] This year our big trip is going to Arkansas.

[06:11] Morning walks with the double stroller are saving my life.

[08:22] What we’re reading right now.

[10:35] How did Kathrynne land her first job?

[14:19] Why did we move to Tennessee?

[16:02] Learn more about our decision to quit the law firm and work for ourselves.

[17:44] How we find the time and energy for intimacy.

[18:59] Do we sit and go over the budget together?

[20:25] Where do we want to travel together?

[21:25] What does Jesse make fun of me for?

[22:54] What are your go-to date nights?

[24:58] Would we take any more foster care placements right now?

[26:39] How do we build each other up?

Links and Resources:

• RODECaster Pro
• Near Dark by Brad Thor
• Show Up For Your Life by Chrystal Evans Hurst
• MoneySavingMom.com
• YourBloggingMentor.com
• My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!)
• Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: [email protected]

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"Do you let your kids have phones? If so, how do you protect your kids and what kinds of apps or parental controls do you have in place?"

I get some kind of variation on this question multiple times every week. Since this topic is one that really depends so much on the family and the situation and each individual child, I was hesitant to share what we do at our house. However, after we continued to get so many questions on this, Jesse and I decided to delve into this topic on this week's episode of The Crystal Paine Show.

We share the guidelines we have, why we have them, and some thoughts on when we choose to give our kids phones and what the stipulations are for having a phone at our house.

We also share a recipe we've been loving, a funny anecdote about why we got 3 or 4 crockpots as wedding gifts, and what Jesse and I are reading right now.

In This Episode:

[01:32] Pumpkin Chocolate Chip Muffins are saving my life

[02:31] Our crockpot is saving Jesse’s life.

[04:32] Why I've been using the Eat at Home menu plan this week.

[06:30] How we ended up with multiple crock pots as wedding gifts.

[08:08] Learn what Jesse and I have been reading.

[10:37] Why we have to refill our cup with more than just rest.

[13:06] Our rules for kids and phones... but first, a caveat.

[14:23] Out guidelines for when we give our kids a phone.

[17:00] Why have a phone is a privilege, not a right.

[21:55] A discussion on how we talk to our kids about the dangers of the internet and technology.

[26:29] How we strive to teach personal responsibility and wise decision making.

[31:49] You will make mistakes, keep pushing forward and walk in faith.

Links and Resources:

• Pumpkin Chocolate Chip Muffins
• Eat at Home
• Goodreads
• Rhythms For Life Planner and Journal by Rebekah Lyons
• MoneySavingMom.com
• YourBloggingMentor.com
• My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!)
• Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: [email protected]

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We’re back! Jesse and I have really missed recording podcasts, but it was also nice to take a break and figure out a good rhythm of having three older kids and two babies.

In this episode, we not only share Kierstyn's birth store but we also answer the questions many of you have asked over and over (such as why we chose to go with an OBGYN versus a midwife, what was different about this birth compared to the other births, if COVID-19 impacted the birth/hospital experience in any way, etc.)

This episode is a little more relaxed and less edited than usual... we wanted it to be more like sitting down and just having conversation with us at our kitchen table -- complete with rabbit trails. :)

If you enjoy birth stories or are curious about more of the behind-the-scenes of our life, I think you'll enjoy it.

Welcome to the world, Kierstyn! (By the way, since she was on my lap while we recorded, if you listen in really well, you’ll hear her talking to you!)

In This Episode:

[03:19] Why we chose to have a hospital birth rather than a midwife birth.

[06:36] Some of the highlights from our first three births.

[09:54] When I first discovered I had postpartum depression

[12:15] Our experience with midwives versus having an OBGyn.

[14:09] How COVID-19 impacted the birth.

[19:02] We were so surprised when my body started showing signs of labor two weeks before my due date!

[22:20] Most of my labor was very uneventful and fast -- up until it was time to push!

[26:38] Why the pushing part of labor was so much harder this time around.

[30:57] All about those first few moments after the birth!

[33:24] It’s been so fun to see the differences in her personality and how the kids have stepped up.

Links and Resources:

• MoneySavingMom.com
• YourBloggingMentor.com
• My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!)
• Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: [email protected]

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Note: I said in the episode that next week we'd be talking about foster care next week. Well, I completely forgot that next week was Christmas! Whoops! We'll be taking next week off for Christmas but then we'll be back the week of New Year's with an episode on our Word of the Year for 2020. And then the following week, we promise to do the foster care episode! Thank you for your grace!

We’re nearing the end of the year and it’s time to reflect on this year to prepare for next. This is the time of year that Jesse and I sit down and review the past year. How did we do on our goals? What worked? What didn’t? What did we learn?

In this episode, we talk really candidly about our goals we set for 2019 and what worked, what didn't work, what we learned, and how we're changing up our goal-setting for 2019.

If you'd enjoy a personal peek into what goal-setting has looked like for us, what we've learned about goal-setting, and how I'm completely changing the way I set goals in 2020, you don't want to miss this episode.

Psst! You'll also get some first word news on a little of what you can expect on MoneySavingMom.com in 2020 (I think you're going to like it -- especially if you love my personal posts and enjoy my book posts and goal-setting posts!)

We also give you a framework to reflect on your past year and how to use this as a reference point for setting goals. And by the way, even if you really despise the idea of setting goals, I think you'll still enjoy this episode!

In This Episode:

[00:49] Jesse and I are skipping our usual segments to dive straight into goal setting for the new year.

[01:34] We share what our goal setting process looks like now versus in previous years.

[03:27] Learn the three questions I ask myself as I reflect on the prior year.

[03:50] Why should you set goals each year?

[05:36] Make sure your goals are serving you.

[06:42] Jesse and I share the goals that worked in 2019.

[13:44] Next we ask ourselves, what didn’t work for the year?

[17:34] The third question I like to ask is, what did I learn?

[26:57] The last focus of goal setting for me is to think about what I hope for in the new year.

[29:11] My two big goals for 2020? Have a baby! ... and write a book. Plus, why I'm not setting yearly goals in 2020 and what I'm doing instead.

Links and Resources:

• Michael Hyatt - The Full Focus Planner
• Choose Faith: Men’s Gratitude Journal
• Crystal’s Favorite Things on Amazon
• CrystalPaine.com
• MoneySavingMom.com
• Crystal’s Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!)
• Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: [email protected]

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Today’s guest Toni Collier is the founder of Broken Crayons and is also the author of the new book Brave Enough to Be Broken: How to Embrace Your Pain and Discover Hope and Healing. Toni shares her journey, discussing how her life took a turn for the worse when she was a child. She defines what brokenness means to her and how that led to her getting counseling and seeking change.

Toni discusses her belief in the importance of hope, arguing that it’s not pain that causes the most damage to us but rather hopelessness. She emphasizes that, even though she found redemption and love, her journey toward a happier, healthier life did not happen overnight and was a real struggle that involved a great deal of roadmapping and anxiety.

Her book also has some practical things at the back, including gratitude practices, and she emphasizes the importance of practicing gratitude, how to get out of a toxic and difficult situation when we feel trapped in it, why building a healthy community is crucial, and so much more! This was such an amazing and emotional interview, and I encourage you, especially if you enjoyed this interview and are struggling to find hope and healing in your life, to purchase Toni’s book!

In This Episode

[00:35] - This was today’s guest’s second attempt to be on the show!

[02:16] - Toni tells us a little bit about herself.

[03:24] - What does brokenness mean and look like to Toni?

[05:49] - Toni had to become more self-aware to realize why she was being abused.

[07:37] - From where did Toni find hope?

[09:01] - How does one go about embracing pain?

[10:28] - I point to a specific quote from Toni’s book about trauma leakage.

[12:49] - Toni reveals how she had the courage to step into a second marriage.

[15:29] - Healing is not linear and is very painful, Toni asserts.

[18:14] - Fear can either lead us to wisdom or cause us to hide, Toni argues.

[20:02] - Toni emphasizes counseling, reading

[21:30] - Learn why Toni included gratitude practices in her book.

[23:40] - It’s very difficult to heal in the place and with the people that broke you in the first place.

[26:53] - Toni points out that pain and hope can coexist.

Links & Resources

Crystal Paine

Toni Collier

Books

Brave Enough to Be Broken: How to Embrace Your Pain and Discover Hope and Healing by Toni Collier

Social Media

Crystal Paine on Instagram

Crystal Paine on Twitter

Crystal Paine on Goodreads

Money Saving Mom

Money Saving Mom on Facebook

Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group

[email protected]

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