Sol’s Co-Parenting Journey and the Story of BestInterest

12/26/24 • 13 min

In this heartfelt episode of Co-Parenting Beyond Conflict, Sol takes you behind the scenes to share the personal story that inspired this podcast and the creation of the BestInterest app. From stepping away from a successful tech career to become a full-time dad, to navigating the challenges of divorce and high-conflict co-parenting, Sol opens up about his journey of growth and transformation.
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Learn how Sol’s experiences as a father and co-parent fueled his passion to help others facing similar struggles, and discover the unique features of the BestInterest app that make it a game-changer for co-parents. This episode explores the power of post-traumatic growth, setting boundaries, and finding peace in the midst of co-parenting challenges—all while keeping the focus on what matters most: your kids.

Join Sol as he discusses the purpose of the podcast, the importance of learning and evolving through adversity, and his vision for creating healthier co-parenting relationships. If you’re navigating the ups and downs of co-parenting or simply looking for inspiration and support, this episode is for you.

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Key Takeaways

Sol's journey into co-parenting began with the birth of his daughter.
Divorce can be both a challenge and an opportunity for personal growth.
Co-parenting requires effective communication and emotional resilience.
The Best Interest app was created to help co-parents navigate difficult dynamics.
Personal growth is essential for improving co-parenting relationships.
The app filters out negative communication to focus on child-centered messages.
Setting boundaries in communication is crucial for co-parents.
Expert guidance was sought to develop the Best Interest app.
Self-discovery and empowerment are key themes in co-parenting.
The mission is to bring peace and understanding to co-parenting dynamics.

Sound Bites

"Divorce is one of life’s greatest challenges, but it can also be an opportunity for profound growth."
"The best thing for your kids is your presence, not your defense in a conflict with your co-parent."
"Healing starts when we shift the focus from blame to growth and reclaim our peace."
"The BestInterest app was created to help co-parents communicate better, so they can focus on what truly matters—their kids."
"Co-parenting isn’t about diagnosing your co-parent; it’s about showing up better for yourself and your children."
"Boundaries aren’t walls—they’re acts of love for yourself and your kids."
"When we change ourselves, we naturally transform all the relationships in our lives."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Co-Parenting Beyond Conflict
00:24 Sol's Co-Parenting Journey
00:57 The Challenges of Divorce and Growth
01:50 Navigating Co-Parenting Difficulties
04:07 The Birth of the Best Interest App
05:22 The Mission of the Best Interest App
05:50 Understanding Co-Parenting Dynamics
06:55 Opportunities for Personal Growth

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Subscribe now and take the first step toward making co-parenting more peaceful, present, and child-focused.
Key Takeaways

Sol's journey into co-parenting began with the birth of his daughter.
Divorce can be both a challenge and an opportunity for personal growth.
Co-parenting requires effective communication and emotional resilience.
The Best Interest app was created to help co-parents navigate difficult dynamics.
Personal growth is essential for improving co-parenting relationships.
The app filters out negative communication to focus on child-centered messages.
Setting boundaries in communication is crucial for co-parents.
Expert guidance was sought to develop the Best Interest app.
Self-discovery and empowerment are key themes in co-parenting.
The mission is to bring peace and understanding to co-parenting dynamics.

Sound Bites

Chapters

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Previous Episode

Dr Ramani: Coping with Co-Parenting Challenges

In this conversation, Dr. Ramani discusses the complexities of co-parenting, especially in the context of dealing with narcissistic partners. She emphasizes the importance of understanding the impact of parental relationships on children, the challenges of seeking closure, and the benefits of parallel parenting. The discussion also highlights the emotional challenges faced by co-parents, including grief and disappointment, and the role of technology in facilitating healthier interactions. Dr. Ramani advocates for seeking professional help to navigate these challenges and underscores the need for patience and understanding in the co-parenting journey.
Dr Ramani: https://doctor-ramani.com/
Get her book: It's Not YouAlso referenced: Judith Herman, BestInterest Coparenting App
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https://youtu.be/DskD5RGRKKk
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Keywords
co-parenting, narcissism, parallel parenting, child well-being, closure, boundaries, family dynamics, divorce, parenting strategies, emotional health, co-parenting, self-care, support groups, communication, technology, mental health, family dynamics, divorce, emotional well-being, community support
Takeaways

Co-parenting requires understanding the unique challenges posed by narcissistic partners.
Closure may never be achieved in co-parenting situations, and acceptance is key.
Parallel parenting allows for separate parenting styles without direct conflict.
Children often adapt to different dynamics in each parent's home, which can be challenging.
Consistency in routines helps children feel secure during transitions.
Dysregulation in children can occur during exchanges between parents.
Setting boundaries with antagonistic co-parents is often ineffective; focus on documentation instead.
Inner boundaries are crucial for maintaining personal well-being.
Children's resilience can sometimes lead to trauma bonds that affect their future relationships.
Realistic expectations are essential for navigating co-parenting dynamics. Self-care is essential but often misunderstood.
Support groups can provide valuable connections.
Utilize downtime for personal growth and activities.
Be cautious with social media during co-parenting.
Recognize the patterns in relationships to avoid repeating them.
Family dynamics can complicate co-parenting situations.
Effective communication is crucial in co-parenting.
Technology can help streamline communication with ex-partners.
Therapy can provide validation and support during tough times.
Grief and disappointment are common in co-parenting journeys.

Sound Bites

"Consistency is key for children's stability."
"Focus on the well-being of your children."
"Self-care is such a loaded word."
"Use your downtime well."
"Be careful as all get out on social media."
"You ain't going to change them."

Chapters

00:00
Introduction to Co-Parent

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Next Episode

Legal Strategies for Successful Coparenting with Attorney Ron Gore

In this conversation, family attorney Ron Gore discusses the complexities of co-parenting and mediation, sharing insights from his experience in family law. He emphasizes the importance of understanding the role of a guardian ad litem, addressing misconceptions about co-parenting, and recognizing the power dynamics that can arise in high-conflict situations.
Ron offers practical advice for parents navigating these challenges, including the significance of communication, the potential benefits of technology, and the necessity of proper documentation in legal agreements. He also highlights the impact of co-parenting dynamics on children and provides strategies for parents to cope with stress and improve their relationships with their co-parents.
Ron Gore's Coparent Academy can be found at: https://coparentacademy.com/
BestInterest Coparenting App: https://bestinterest.app/
Watch This Episode
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Keywords
co-parenting, mediation, family law, guardian ad litem, high conflict, parallel parenting, technology in co-parenting, parenting plans, communication, legal advice
Key Takeaways

Co-parenting requires ongoing communication and adjustment.
Understanding the role of a guardian ad litem is crucial.
Children are individuals with their own needs and preferences.
High conflict situations often require self-reflection and change.
Parallel parenting can be a last resort in high conflict cases.
Children's responses to co-parenting stress vary by age and gender.
Professional support is essential for emotional well-being.
Documentation of agreements is vital for legal protection.
Parenting plans should be tailored to the child's needs and family dynamics.
Focus on behaviors rather than labels when dealing with co-parents.

Sound Bites
"I think I started off a little mercenarily."
"A GAL is a guardian ad litem."
"Don't handle it on your own."
Chapters
00:00 Ron Gore's Journey into Family Law
02:41 Misconceptions in Co-Parenting
02:46 Top Advice for New Co-Parents
24:05 Understanding Co-Parenting Dynamics
26:08 Creating Effective Parenting Plans
28:55 Common Conflicts in Parenting Plans
31:09 The Importance of Communication in Co-Parenting
34:15 Outro

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Coparenting Beyond Conflict - Sol’s Co-Parenting Journey and the Story of BestInterest

Transcript

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Hello and welcome to Co-parenting Beyond Conflict. Today, I'd like to talk about the podcast, the reason why it exists, and what you can get out of it by tuning in. Additionally, I'd like to talk about the best interest app, why I created it, and what it's good for. I'll cover how I got here, what fuels me, and my goals for the podcast and the app. My own co-parenting journey started eight years ago with the birth of my daughter. At