
S.2 Ep.1: Helen's Story: From Widow to Masc Lesbian in 2022!
01/02/23 • 20 min
In this episode, Robin again breaks the mold in the world of LGBTQ+ podcasting by introducing us to yet another one of her listeners, via a letter she received from Helen. Like the previous letter read in last season’s Episode #55 by Michelle in Australia, Robin received a letter from Helen, outlining her very painful and difficult 2022, complete with Helen’s coming out story. Robin was so struck by Helen’s vulnerability, the pain she is working through, the self-discovery she is experiencing, and of course, her beautiful coming out story, that she knew she had to share Helen’s story with us. In fact, Helen shared her story with Robin as an offering for it to be read on the podcast. But Robin knew that the impact of Helen’s words and all the sentiment behind them would be better spoken by Helen herself. So, Robin asked and Helen agreed to read her own letter, aloud, for the Coming Out Late audience.
Helen’s real, raw and relatable story shares with us the following . . .
- How grief, gender dysphoria, autism, intersex, bisexuality, and ultimately, butch lesbian ALL came to light in Helen’s world in 2022!
- How Helen has to deal with the guilt that SHE has survived and is now free to turn away from her deceased husband, after 34 years of marriage, and move on with her life. And, with him now being gone, and her alone, she must now choose a different path to her future than the one in which they had originally planned for themselves together. After all, “Life” is for the Living, is it not?
- What is gender dysphoria? “Gender Dysphoria” is defined as: a term that describes a sense of unease that a person may have because of a mismatch, or incongruence, between their biological sex and their gender identity. This sense of unease or dissatisfaction may be so intense it can lead to depression and anxiety and have a harmful impact on daily life.
- What it means to be Intersex: Intersex describes naturally occurring variations in biological sex characteristics. These differences may be apparent at birth or may not be recognized until later in life. Oftentimes, a person will go through life fully unaware that they have an intersex variation. Intersex is both a biological state and, in recent years, a group identity for people who have been historically stigmatized for being born with bodies that do not align with the binary definition of "boy/girl," "man/woman," or "male/female."
- The realization of masculine secondary sexual characteristics such as: the need to shave her facial hair, a deeper voice than ‘typical’ of females, and a more muscular physicality.
- Helen’s initial declaration of being bisexual, only later to publicly announce and acknowledge her lifelong butch lesbian inclinations.
- Her realization that, at the moment, ‘living her dream’ has nothing to do with attracting others, but it’s about at last learning how to love and accept herself for who she truly is, AND enjoying being that person.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
THANK YOU TO OUR SPECIAL GUEST, HELEN FLACK:
Thank you Helen for sharing your story full of your experience, strength and hope with us, and for taking the time to write and record this episode for us.
To learn more and/or to make a donation in Simon Flack’s name, please visit: https://sitran.org/support-us/how-donate/. The Sheffield Institute for Translational Neuroscience (SITraN) is known for their groundbreaking research into ALS or MND. Within their website, there is another link, which when visited, provides details on how American taxpayers can claim a tax deduction for gifts made to the "University of Sheffield in America". Sincere thanks
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation for bringing you this awesome podcast week after week. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
FOLLOW ROBIN ON INSTAGRAM AT:
To follow Robin on Instagram, and to learn her ‘word’ for 2023, go to:
@late.blooming.lesbian
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP :
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:
In this episode, Robin again breaks the mold in the world of LGBTQ+ podcasting by introducing us to yet another one of her listeners, via a letter she received from Helen. Like the previous letter read in last season’s Episode #55 by Michelle in Australia, Robin received a letter from Helen, outlining her very painful and difficult 2022, complete with Helen’s coming out story. Robin was so struck by Helen’s vulnerability, the pain she is working through, the self-discovery she is experiencing, and of course, her beautiful coming out story, that she knew she had to share Helen’s story with us. In fact, Helen shared her story with Robin as an offering for it to be read on the podcast. But Robin knew that the impact of Helen’s words and all the sentiment behind them would be better spoken by Helen herself. So, Robin asked and Helen agreed to read her own letter, aloud, for the Coming Out Late audience.
Helen’s real, raw and relatable story shares with us the following . . .
- How grief, gender dysphoria, autism, intersex, bisexuality, and ultimately, butch lesbian ALL came to light in Helen’s world in 2022!
- How Helen has to deal with the guilt that SHE has survived and is now free to turn away from her deceased husband, after 34 years of marriage, and move on with her life. And, with him now being gone, and her alone, she must now choose a different path to her future than the one in which they had originally planned for themselves together. After all, “Life” is for the Living, is it not?
- What is gender dysphoria? “Gender Dysphoria” is defined as: a term that describes a sense of unease that a person may have because of a mismatch, or incongruence, between their biological sex and their gender identity. This sense of unease or dissatisfaction may be so intense it can lead to depression and anxiety and have a harmful impact on daily life.
- What it means to be Intersex: Intersex describes naturally occurring variations in biological sex characteristics. These differences may be apparent at birth or may not be recognized until later in life. Oftentimes, a person will go through life fully unaware that they have an intersex variation. Intersex is both a biological state and, in recent years, a group identity for people who have been historically stigmatized for being born with bodies that do not align with the binary definition of "boy/girl," "man/woman," or "male/female."
- The realization of masculine secondary sexual characteristics such as: the need to shave her facial hair, a deeper voice than ‘typical’ of females, and a more muscular physicality.
- Helen’s initial declaration of being bisexual, only later to publicly announce and acknowledge her lifelong butch lesbian inclinations.
- Her realization that, at the moment, ‘living her dream’ has nothing to do with attracting others, but it’s about at last learning how to love and accept herself for who she truly is, AND enjoying being that person.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
THANK YOU TO OUR SPECIAL GUEST, HELEN FLACK:
Thank you Helen for sharing your story full of your experience, strength and hope with us, and for taking the time to write and record this episode for us.
To learn more and/or to make a donation in Simon Flack’s name, please visit: https://sitran.org/support-us/how-donate/. The Sheffield Institute for Translational Neuroscience (SITraN) is known for their groundbreaking research into ALS or MND. Within their website, there is another link, which when visited, provides details on how American taxpayers can claim a tax deduction for gifts made to the "University of Sheffield in America". Sincere thanks
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation for bringing you this awesome podcast week after week. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
FOLLOW ROBIN ON INSTAGRAM AT:
To follow Robin on Instagram, and to learn her ‘word’ for 2023, go to:
@late.blooming.lesbian
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP :
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:
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Ep. #65 Catching Up w/Late Bloomer, Kari DeWitt, Part 2
In this Part Two episode, Robin continues her conversation with late bloomer and LGBTQ+ Mindset & Empowerment Coach AND Spiritual Mentor, Kari DeWitt. Robin picks back up with the challenging question for Kari, “...how do we help our LGBTQ+ coming out late community overcome debilitating feelings of selfishness while they’re navigating their new trajectory in life as a gay person...?” Kari’s answer may surprise you. Likewise, Robin and Kari also look back at how much about themselves and about their lives have changed, in just one short year.
In this episode you will also hear Robin and Kari talk about . . .
- How Kari’s look has changed over the past year; how she identifies today, as opposed to a year ago, and what she ‘labels’ herself as today.
- There are no rules when it comes to who you are ‘supposed’ to be.
- Give yourself permission to play with the way you look, the way you wear your hair, the way you sound and how you talk. Experiment and play around and when something feels right or you say, “Ooh, I like the way that looks. I like the way I feel when I wear my hair this way...”
- Stand in your power and simply ‘be’. It’s OK to just ‘be’.
- When we act, and live-in authenticity, we give everyone else who hears and sees us living authentically, permission to do the same.
- In accepting ourselves, our queerness, we are taking one step closer in accepting that ‘things’ change in life; things change all the time in life.
- ‘Things’ don’t happen TO-us in life; ‘things’ happen FOR us in our lives.
- We all need to learn to ‘let go’ and trust that we’re always taken care of and everything that’s happening in our lives is happening for us.
- Kari reveals HER secret to living an authentic and soulful life - it’s all in the STARs: Surrendering, Trusting, Allowing, and finally, Releasing.
- Learn to love yourself first; we simply cannot fully love another human being until we learn how to love ourselves first.
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
THANK YOU TO OUR SPECIAL GUEST, KARI DEWITT:
To learn more about Kari DeWitt and her LGBTQ+ Mindset & Empowerment Coach, AND Spiritual Mentor offerings, go to: https://www.karidewitt.com
TO LISTEN TO EPISODE #5, MY NOVEMBER 2021 CONVERSATION w/KARI DEWITT, GO TO:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/coming-out-late/id1589128068?i=1000540356354
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:
Three out of the four Coming Out Late Support Groups are suspended until further notice while Robin recovers from the influenza virus. The one support group that is open to anyone in need of weekly support is “Bisexually Speaking”. You must use the link below each and every week, in order to register and receive the sign-in information. There is a $5 per person, per meeting WEEKLY “Cover Charge” to participate.
Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:
www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/
THE 2023 COMING OUT LATE RETREAT.There have been some revisions to the 2023 Retreat Schedule. We are “retreating” to the western coast of Florida in March, and setting up our Retreat in the Phoenix, or Scottsdale, Arizona area in April. To be put on the waiting list for either the Florida March Retreat OR the April Arizona Retreat, email Robin at: [email protected].
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S.2 E.2: Queer, Gay & Lesbian Intentions for 2023
In this episode, Robin sets the tone for 2023 - not only for herself - but she challenges us all to think about setting some conscious intentions for our lives in 2023. Robin asks us to ponder and select one word that will be our battle-cry for all of 2023.
In this episode of the “Coming Out Late” podcast, you will learn . . .
- What is conscious awareness?
- Why is it important to be consciously-aware?
- What does it mean to ‘set-intentions’?
- What are the benefits of setting intentions?
- How can setting-intentions help you on your coming out journey?
- Why you should listen to your body & heart, instead of your mind.
- How focusing on one word can help with personal growth and progress
- To receive one-on-one private Coaching with Robin, email her at: [email protected].
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation for bringing you this awesome podcast week after week. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
FOLLOW ROBIN ON INSTAGRAM AT:
To follow Robin on Instagram, and to learn her ‘word’ for 2023, go to:
@late.blooming.lesbian
COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:
Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:
www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/
COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:
Support Groups are coming back for 2023!! The schedule, registration process and cost to attend will be announced very soon. They WILL be held on Wednesday evenings, from 8pm EST to 9:15pm sharp. If group members wish to stay longer than the allotted 75 minutes, Robin will leave the Zoom Room open for as long as you all wish to stay, but Robin will be leaving the group at 9:15pm EST. For more details and to be added to the Support Group Wait List, email Robin at: [email protected]. PLEASE NOTE: One Wednesday will be the “Women Loving Women” support group, alternating Wednesdays with “Fifty Plus & Fabulous”, for women close-to 50 years old and over. ANYONE can join the “Women Loving Women” Group.
BISEXUALLY SPEAKING: SMALL GROUP DISCUSSION MEETS WEEKLY:The weekly group, “Bisexually Speaking” continues to be available for anyone who identifies as gay, AND of course, for anyone who identifies or *thinks* they are bisexual. We do not turn anyone away who wishes to try attending a small group discussion, questions where on the gay spectrum you fall, or simply needs a support group.
Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
THE 2023 COMING OUT LATE RETREAT.There have been some revisions to the 2023 Retreat Schedule. We are “retreating” to:(a) Florida in March,
(b) Arizona in mid-April, and
c) “Women’s Fest” in Rehoboth Beach, DE.
To be put on the waiting list for either the Florida March Retreat OR the April Arizona Retreat, email Robin at: [email protected].
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