EP06: What I Wish I Had Known Then

11/08/21 • 25 min

Robin shares details about her online support group “Women Loving Women”. She also dives into the powerful responses she received after posing the question “What do you wish you knew then that you’ve known now on your journey” to the women of the group.

In this episode, you will learn...

People don’t own each other—no one could or should tell you how to live your life.
Women are selfless but are often made to feel selfish.
You can take care of yourself—you can do hard things.
Fear of the unknown is the common thread that holds so many back in life.
Finding the inner strength to say “Yes, I’m gay” and learning to trust yourself.
There’s nothing better than living your truth.
Coming out is not horrible and difficult for everyone.
Feel the freedom of coming out to yourself—You don't really need to know 100% with certainty that you for sure are gay and you're coming out as gay. Just give yourself permission to explore those thoughts.
Live your life and find your truth.

Links to resources:

By taking bloomers society off facebook and moving to a private platform, we've created a robust and interactive community filled with stories, interviews, and resources, all at your fingertips right when you join. https://bloomerssociety.com

You can follow Robin on Instagram at www.instagram.com/Late.Blooming.Lesbian And for an invitation to her private Women Loving Women support groups on Zoom, email Robin at: [email protected]

Looking for your coming-out-late community? Request to be a member of the Coming Out Late Community Facebook Group, a private and secure group of late blooming lesbians, at: www.facebook.com/ComingOutLateCommunity (Please fill out all the registration questions.)

Coming out later in life has its fair share of stress and challenges. Be sure to take good care of your mental health during this trying time. Contact Pride Counseling and book an appointment at: www.pridecounseling.com/comingoutlater.

In this episode, you will learn...

People don’t own each other—no one could or should tell you how to live your life.
Women are selfless but are often made to feel selfish.
You can take care of yourself—you can do hard things.
Fear of the unknown is the common thread that holds so many back in life.
Finding the inner strength to say “Yes, I’m gay” and learning to trust yourself.
There’s nothing better than living your truth.
Coming out is not horrible and difficult for everyone.
Feel the freedom of coming out to yourself—You don't really need to know 100% with certainty that you for sure are gay and you're coming out as gay. Just give yourself permission to explore those thoughts.
Live your life and find your truth.

Links to resources:

You can follow Robin on Instagram at www.instagram.com/Late.Blooming.Lesbian And for an invitation to her private Women Loving Women support groups on Zoom, email Robin at: [email protected]

Previous Episode

Ep. #5: Late Bloomer Lesbians, Robin Douglass & Kari DeWitt Talk About All-Things Coming Out Late

Robin and Kari take a stroll down memory lane, sharing and retelling their stories of coming out later in life, as well as exploring the ‘opportunities’ that come with this journey. They discuss the ‘snow globe’ theory, facing our fears, naming and labeling ourselves, and learning from our break-ups, to name a few.

In this episode, you will learn...

Kari’s coming out story. “Three years ago I came out to me, and me only!”
You are not alone. You are not the only one!
Don’t be afraid of the unknown. Get excited about the new opportunities.
The importance of support. Who am I? I just don’t know who I am!
Should I immediately jump into a relationship? Or should I wait, remain single, and ‘work on me’ first?
Feeling the feels. Feel all your feelings. Sit with them, and acknowledge them.
To label or not to label? It doesn’t matter because it’s up to you. There are no rules to what we call ourselves - if anything at all. Saying ‘those words’ out loud.

Links to resources:

You can follow Robin on Instagram at www.instagram.com/Late.Blooming.Lesbian And for an invitation to her private Women Loving Women support groups on Zoom, email Robin at: [email protected]

You can find Kari DeWitt on nearly all the social media platforms like Instagram and Tik Tok, (@KariDeWitt), as well as on her hugely popular private Facebook Group, Late Bloomer Lesbians: www.facebook.com/latebloomerlesbians. Kari’s website is: www.karingtransformation.com

Next Episode

Ep. #7: Women Loving Women: Not Such A ‘Straight’ Path

Today, Robin is sharing some of the topics that she and her support group - Women Loving Women - chat about weekly. The conversations are incredible, so she’s bringing some of that magic here to you!

In this episode, you will learn...

Some suggested dating sites that have worked well for the women in the support group.
How tough it can be to use dating sites and apps.
Some exciting new social mixers that are in the works!
Thoughts on newly living together with your new girlfriend.
What it’s like to have a skeptical partner who is worried about dating a late bloomer.
The power of staying in the moment.
Dating or living with someone who does not have children when you do.
Advice for when you’re trying to blend two families.
How true it is that once you start coming out to people, you might start feeling like a sixteen-year old boy!

Links to resources:

Looking for your coming-out-late community? Request to be a member of the Coming Out Late Community Facebook Group, a private and secure group of late blooming lesbians, at: www.facebook.com/ComingOutLateCommunity. (Please fill out ALL the registration questions.)

You can follow Robin on Instagram at www.instagram.com/Late.Blooming.Lesbian. And for an invitation to her private Women Loving Women support groups on Zoom, email Robin at: [email protected].

Julia Hoffman, Founder of Bloomers Society, has created a robust and interactive private community of late bloomers, filled with stories, interviews, and resources, all at your fingertips right when you join. https://bloomerssociety.com

Lesbian Chronicles is a podcast for people who’ve realized their true sexual identity later in life. Find Lesbian Chronicles at: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lesbian-chronicles-coming-out-later-in-life/id1468550568?i=1000541058765