Coming Out Late

In this episode, Robin announces her latest collaboration with Women OUT West Tours whereby Robin will lead and facilitate in-person “Firefly” Retreats in Escalante, UT. The inaugural Firefly retreat is October 9-13, 2022. But that won’t be the last, so if you cannot make it on October 9, there will be plenty more to sign-up for. What an opportunity to be out in nature and have deep, meaning facilitated, and non-facilitated conversations with other women who ‘get you’! In this episode, Robin also touches upon a little bit of Gay History when she discusses the Stonewall Riots, the book, “Game Changers: Lesbians You Should Know About”, and her new favorite podcast, “Making Gay History”, by Eric Marcus. “Making Gay History’s” unique format, historic context and non-celebrity interviews make for an entertaining AND sobering way to learn about the mind-blowing prejudices and harassment our gay brothers and sisters endured, and oftentimes didn’t endure, before us.

In this episode, you will also learn...

• The importance of knowing our Gay History. As a Late Bloomer herself, Robin describes how little she knew about the Stonewall Riots that took place on June 27, 1969, and decided she wanted to learn more about her gay brothers and sisters who came before her.
• The importance of PRIDE month and little ways you can feel and show your Pride during the month of June.
• The the Women Loving Women (Virtual) Speaker Summit is on Saturday, June 25th at 3pm EST. Sign up using this Calendly link: https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/women-loving-women-speaker-summit-2
• The only way to get your hands on a copy of the book, “Game Changers: Lesbian You Should Know About” is to go to: www.lesbiangamechangers.com
• How one lesbian, Donna Hitchens, a recent law school graduate changed the lives of hundreds, maybe even thousands, of lesbians first, by forming, (with some help from Equal Rights Advocates in San Francisco), The Lesbian Rights Project, which later became the NCLR, (the National Center for Lesbian Rights).
• How the birth of “Curve” magazine came about, thanks to the former bookstore clerk and magazine Founder, Frances “Franco” Stevens. First and foremost, “Curve” was a celebration of the women shaping our community.

Links to resources:

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a nighttime WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Or, a daytime WOMEN HELPING WOMEN support group? Email me a request for the Zoom ID & PW’s to: [email protected]

Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Robin is launching a new, safe ‘n secure Community for all women who love women in Circle.so. This new paid membership community will be officially launching during PRIDE Month - June 2022. Stay tuned for more details.

Resources mentioned in this podcast include:

Bloomers Society

Julia Ruiz Hoffman and her Bloomer’s Society can be found at: www.bloomerssociety.com

The “Lesbian Chronicles” podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lesbian-chronicles-coming-out-later-in-life/id1468550568?i=1000563115527

“Making Gay History” podcast by Eric Marcus: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/making-gay-history-lgbtq-oral-histories-from-the-archive/id1162447122

Book: “Game Changers: Lesbians You Should Know”, by Robin Lowey, Go to: www.lesbiangamechangers.com

For more Gay History, check out Youtuber: Kathy Baldock Visit: www.CanyonWalkerConnections.com for insights into the intersection between faith and sexual orientation and gender!

In this Part 2 episode Robin picks up where last week's cliffhanger left off, finding out what Daine decided to do with their hair. You’ll also hear how the other folx relate to their own head of hair, recalling past experiences as well as current day reflections.

You’ll hear the group members discuss topics such as:

• “...Cutting my hair shorter and shorter was a reclaiming of myself; a claiming of myself.”
• Hair is an essential aspect of our personal identity, self expression, and confidence, and that the right haircut can allow people to showcase their individuality.
• Going to a salon versus a barber: what’s the difference?
• “I wanna go by she/they, but a lot of people in my life don’t understand, because I look feminine. My hair has always been long; I love my hair long, and I don’t want to cut it, BUT, I wish my hair looked more like I feel on the inside.”
• So many of us received negative feedback from the males in our lives when we wanted to cut our hair shorter; so we grew to love our hair long.
• Feeling dysphoria about our hair from a gender aspect, AND an aging aspect. “I don’t want to dye my hair anymore - I want it to go grey!”
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Links to Resources:

SUPPORT GROUPS:

MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736

THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374

NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135

COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. IF you are even remotely interested in attending, please send Robin an email to: [email protected]. Spaces are limited, so act now! The Coming Out Late retreat dates are: Portland, OR: (Aug. 15-18); Philadelphia, PA: (Aug. 22-25); Traverse City, MI: (Sept. 25-29); and Provincetown, MA: (Oct. 16-20).

PRIVATE 1:1 COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at [email protected] for my Coaching Info Sheet.

SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

JOIN the COMING OUT LATE FACEBOOK GROUP: Here’s the link: www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ .

Some of us went a lifetime having ‘no clue’ we were attracted to women until much later in life. Others, on the other hand, always knew they ‘liked girls’, but stuffed it down, way down. Internal homophobia, deep-seeded homophobic denial, and compulsory-heteronormativity all played a huge role in delaying, and denying, our journey to discovering and embracing our true selves. One thing we late-bloomers know for sure is, if we were straight, we sure as heck wouldn’t be asking ourselves if we weren’t! But don’t take our word for it, keep listening to the Coming Out Late Podcast and hear the similarities in our stories.

In this episode, you will learn about...

How Robin figured out she’s gay, (using her unique ‘research technique’)

How many of us get to the point of: “Ok. Enough is enough already. I have to figure this out! Why am I feeling this way toward women? ”

“So this IS a ‘thing’. It isn’t just me.”

Robin’s theory on her own deep homophobic denial

A few podcasts and books specifically for women questioning their sexuality

Links to resources:
SUPPORT GROUPS:

MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736

THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374

NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135

COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. Spaces are limited, so act now! The dates for the last Coming Out Late retreat are: Traverse City, MI: (Sept. 25-29); and Provincetown, MA: CANCELED . Email Robin to Register NOW: [email protected]

PRIVATE 1:1 COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at [email protected] for my Coaching Info Sheet.

SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

In this episode, Robin shares with us some examples of the types of comments we could possibly and most likely WILL receive as we slowly OR quickly come out to people all around us. Knowing what questions *may* be asked during your coming out process is half the battle - at least that way you can prepare for them, right?
Robin also shares with us some possible retorts to these questions, and maybe a few retorts that she really wouldn’t advise you saying, but ones SHE would love to have you say in these oftentimes rude, intrusive scenarios. Sometimes ‘knowing’ what to expect when we’re navigating the coming out process IS half the battle!! Hopefully you won’t need ANY of these responses - but be prepared and decide how YOU want to respond should you be asked a personal, intrusive question.

In this episode, you will learn...

• What are some of the common questions we ARE asked when we’re coming out to others - or even if we’re NOT coming out and we’re simply in a social setting among other not-straight women.
• How to handle rude and inappropriate personal questions when faced with “curious” people questioning YOUR sexuality, for you.
• Should you respond? Should you respond snidely? Should you confront their blunt rudeness? It all depends....
• Being prepared and expecting the unexpected is usually a good tactic to take!
• Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
• SUPPORT GROUPS:
• MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
  
• THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
  
• NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
  
• 2025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: NEWLY ADDED!
  To be put on the email list for any/all of these retreats, email Robin at:, ([email protected]), (more locations will continue to be added).
  -NASHVILLE, TN - April 4, 5, 6 & 7, 2025
  -KENNEBUNK, ME - June 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 2025
  
• SMALL GROUP COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS Struggling to make sense-of and manage this new aspect of your Coming Out Late life? I really do ‘get you’ and have been through it too. Be one of 6 late bloomers where we’ll tackle some of your biggest struggles in 60-minutes, for 6 weeks in a newly launched Small Group Coaching Program starting in January 2025. Email me at [email protected] and request my 1:1 OR Small Group Coaching Info Sheet.
  
• SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
  

In this episode, Robin celebrates PRIDE month by showcasing a very special group of young people from a Los Angeles-based non-profit organization called RAINBOW LABS. Rainbow Labs creates a series of after-school programming (both in-person and online), seeking to mentor and support underserved Queer and Gender Non-Conforming (QGNC) youth ages 12-18. The idea of Rainbow Labs, launched in 2020, was to address the unique challenges faced by queer and gender nonconforming youth. The content of the labs are designed by QGNC youth for QGNC youth, led by a team of mentors who are trained in trauma-informed care, cultural competency, and youth development. Rainbows Labs is essentially a safe space to explore identity, life skills and empower QGNC to participate in real-world applications. The Mission of Rainbow Labs is to embolden Queer and Gender Nonconforming youth to discover, curate and experiment with the elements of a fulfilled life through community building and the lived experiences of mentors. Their Vision is a world in which all Queer and Gender Nonconforming Youth see themselves as co-creators of an equitable, and progressive society.

In this episode, you will learn...

• The importance of youth having queer representation to meet, know and work with; as well as the importance of LGBTQIA+ just being kids, and not always having to be “on” as advocates protesting or picketing.
• Why we, as newly queer youth and queer adults, want and need to be recognized and accepted as queer in all of our respective communities.
• Why acceptance from our loved ones and close friends is critical to us.
• How damaging and harmful it can be when we’re told by family members, parents, siblings, that, “it’s ok to be queer, but just don’t tell anyone, keep it to yourself.
• The similarities and the differences that BOTH of our generations face in the challenges of coming out and living our authentic selves.
• Queer youth coming-out to their parents; and queer moms coming-out to their (queer) children.
• What does QGNC stand for? Queer & Gender Nonconforming.
• The Women Loving Women (Virtual) Speaker Summit is on Saturday, June 25th at 3pm EST. Sign up using this Calendly link: https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/women-loving-women-speaker-summit-2

Links to resources:

COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

WOMEN LOVING WOMEN SUPPORT GROUPS:

Want to come to a nighttime WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Or, a daytime WOMEN HELPING WOMEN support group? Email me a request for the Zoom ID & PW’s to: [email protected]

WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM

Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

STAY TUNED: A NEW PAID MEMBERSHIP WLW COMMUNITY:

Robin is launching a new, safe ‘n secure Community for all women who love women in Circle.so. This new paid membership community will be officially launching during PRIDE Month - June 2022. Stay tuned for more details.

RAINBOW LABS:

www.rainbowlabs.org