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Coach Lee

Coach Lee

Coach Lee

Coach Lee is a world-renown relationship coach who helps people get an ex back after a breakup, save a marriage, and become more attractive. Lee has coached people in relationships since 2000. His website is https://MyExBackCoach.com and includes hundreds of articles and videos. Lee has lectured at Pepperdine University and others, is a TED educator on the science of breakups, and has been interviewed by major media including The New York Times, USA Today, The Today Show, New York Post, Men’s Health, L.A. Business Journal, Cosmopolitan, Daily Mail, Metro UK, Bravo TV, Yahoo Lifestyle, Glamor, and MSN among others. Lee uses real-life experience with breakups along with his work for 20 years providing relationship-recovery coaching. He has multiple certifications for relationship coaching & consulting. Get information on his Emergency Breakup Kit & Emergency Marriage Kit at MyExBackCoach.com. SUBSCRIBE to this podcast as well as on YouTube at https://youtube.com/myexbackcoach so you don’t miss videos on saving relationships, keeping love strong, and the science of attraction. INSTAGRAM @RealCoachLee

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Goodpods has curated a list of the 10 best Coach Lee episodes, ranked by the number of listens and likes each episode have garnered from our listeners. If you are listening to Coach Lee for the first time, there's no better place to start than with one of these standout episodes. If you are a fan of the show, vote for your favorite Coach Lee episode by adding your comments to the episode page.

Coach Lee - Help To Stick With No Contact!
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07/14/22 • 18 min

Coach Lee shares how you can stick with no contact and provides help to stay in No Contact for people who want to get their ex back after a breakup.

Coach Lee provides reasons that people often break no contact and shares some pitfalls, temptations, and excuses that lure people to reach out to their ex when they know better. You will learn how to stay strong in no contact and what to expect from yourself and you utilize this strategy to get your ex back and to heal.

Get more information on Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit at https://myexbackcoach.com/ebk and his Emergency Marriage Kit at https://myexbackcoach.com/emk

Accompanying article at: How to stick with no contact

On Medium at: How to stick with the no contact rule

Videos Mentioned In This One:

Stages of No Contact For Ex and Dumper

Should you contact your ex on their birthday, Christmas, or New Years?

SUBSCRIBE To Coach Lee's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/c/myexbackcoach?app=desktop;sub_confirmation=1

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Coach Lee - The Power of Walking Away
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05/20/22 • 10 min

Coach Lee discusses the power of walking away after being dumped if you want an opportunity to reunite at some point. Get more information on Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit at https://myexbackcoach.com/emergency-breakup-kit/

Understanding Emotional Distance
The first aspect to consider is the role of emotional distance. Post-breakup, emotions are often raw and unfiltered, making rational decisions and clear communication challenging. By walking away, both parties get the much-needed space to process their feelings independently. This distance can diminish negative emotions like anger or hurt, which are often at the forefront immediately after a breakup. It can also help in demystifying and de-idealizing the ex-partner, allowing for a more objective view of the relationship and its flaws.

Self-Growth and Reflection
A significant benefit of taking time apart is the opportunity for self-growth and reflection. It provides a chance to focus on oneself, to understand personal goals, and to work on areas of personal development that may have been neglected during the relationship. This growth is not only beneficial for individual well-being but also makes one more attractive to their ex. Demonstrating that you can live independently and thrive outside the relationship can reignite your ex's attraction, as it showcases confidence, resilience, and self-sufficiency.

Creating a Sense of Loss
From a psychological standpoint, walking away can create a sense of loss in your ex. Humans have a tendency to want what they can't have, and this is especially true in relationships. The absence and unavailability can lead your ex to rethink their decision, especially if they start to miss the good times and qualities you brought into their life. This is not about playing games, but rather about letting them feel the natural consequences of their decision to end the relationship.

Changing Dynamics
Stepping away from the relationship changes the existing dynamics. It interrupts the potentially negative patterns that may have led to the breakup and can reset expectations and perceptions. When you walk away, it shows that you are not dependent on the relationship for happiness or validation. This shift can change how your ex sees you, often leading to renewed respect and attraction.

Avoiding Desperation and Clinginess
One of the biggest turn-offs post-breakup is desperation or clinginess. By walking away, you avoid falling into this trap. It shows that you respect yourself and the decision that was made, even if you don't agree with it. This behavior is attractive because it demonstrates emotional maturity and a healthy level of self-esteem.

The Risk of Permanent Separation
While walking away can potentially re-attract an ex, it's important to acknowledge that it also carries the risk of permanent separation. This move should be made with the understanding that the relationship may indeed be over, and that outcome needs to be accepted. This approach is more about personal growth and healing than guaranteeing a reunion.

Accompanying article: The Power of Walking Away From Your Ex

Article on Medium: The Power of Walking Away

On YouTube: The Power of Walking Away From Your Ex

Conclusion
In conclusion, walking away from an ex can be a powerful step, both for personal growth and potentially for re-attracting them. It allows for emotional distance, self-reflection, and personal development, while also changing the dynamics of the former relationship. It's a step that requires courage and self-respect, acknowledging the possibility that the breakup may be final. However, in cases where reconnection is possible, this approach can lay a healthier foundation for a renewed relationship, one built on mutual respect, growth, and a better understanding of each other's needs and boundaries.

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Coach Lee explains the psychology of the no contact rule on a dumper (your ex) after a breakup. You'll learn how the no contact rule affects your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend after he/she broke up with you (or dumped you if you prefer).

This is an important video if you are wanting to know how the no contact rule psychologically affects your ex and if it can help the two of you reunite.

Get Coach Lee’s Emergency Breakup Kit at https://myexbackcoach.com/emergency-breakup-kit/0

Videos mentioned in this one: Stages Your Ex Goes Through During No Contact: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wYEAWNvtaTk

See the Accompanying article at: Psychology of the No Contact Rule On the Dumper

What Is Your Ex Feeling During No Contact? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eM-gi4ESjZs&t=15s

Help For Anxiety After Breakup: Help for Breakup Anxiety

The Law of Attraction To Get Your Ex Back: Law of Attraction to Get Your Ex Back

Teach Your Ex This After Breakup: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xzz-9cONCeU

Get Coach Lee’s Emergency Breakup Kit at https://myexbackcoach.com/emergency-breakup-kit/

See the accompanying post to this video at https://myexbackcoach.com/psychology-of-the-no-contact-rule/

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Coach Lee - Does My Ex Know I Still Love Them?
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02/04/22 • 9 min

Are you wondering if your ex knows that you still love them? Does your ex boyfriend still love you? Does your ex boyfriend still love you?

Coach Lee answers those questions and more in this powerful video that explores how your ex views you and your feelings toward them after a breakup.

Get information on Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit at https://myexbackcoach.com/emergency-breakup-kit/ and how it can help you get your ex back!

View the video version of this podcast at: Does My Ex Still Know I Love Them, Him, or Her?

Accompanying article at: Does my ex know I still love them, her, him?

Videos mentioned in this one: Stages Your Ex Goes Through During No Contact: Stages An Ex Goes Through During No Contact Rule

On Medium at "Does My Ex Know I Still Love Them?"

SUBSCRIBE to Coach Lee's channel with this link: Breakup Coach

Understanding the Dynamics of Post-Breakup Emotions and Strategies

I'm Coach Lee, and today I want to share insights into a question that often plagues those enduring the aftermath of a breakup: does your ex know that you still love them? This concern is prevalent among many who still harbor feelings for their ex and wish to reconcile.

The Misconception of Indifference

A common tactic I've observed is people acting cold or indifferent towards their ex. They ignore texts, calls, and even respond harshly. This behavior stems from a misconception of what is deemed the 'right' thing to do. Ironically, this approach can lead to frustration and confusion. For instance, a woman once confided in me about ignoring her ex-boyfriend's attempts to reach out three times within a week. She was puzzled when he eventually stopped trying to contact her. In such scenarios, it's crucial to understand that complete disregard can be more harmful than arguments or disagreements. Ignoring someone can be interpreted as a lack of interest or rejection, which often leads the other person to move on.

The Balance of Hope and Reservation

It's essential to strike a balance. While it's important to convey some hope of reconciliation, maintaining a level of reservation is equally vital. Some individuals err by overly emphasizing their willingness to reconcile, unwittingly facilitating an easy breakup. They remove the element of consequence from their ex's decision to end the relationship, creating an assumption that reconciliation could happen effortlessly.

The Psychology of an Ex

From my studies on post-breakup psychology, I can affirm that most ex-partners presume you still hold feelings for them. They often believe that winning you back would be straightforward, primarily because they initiated the breakup. This assumption positions them as more desirable, diminishing your perceived value. However, this dynamic can shift. Sometimes, an ex might fear losing you for good, especially when they sense you might move on. This fear can be advantageous, as it prompts them to reassess their decision and acknowledge the value of what they've relinquished.

The Power of No Contact

This brings us to the strategy of no contact, a method I've seen yield positive results in numerous cases. By not reaching out or showing overt concern, you introduce a sense of mystery and uncertainty. Your ex begins to question the breakup and may start to regret taking you for granted. However, it's crucial to note that this strategy doesn't guarantee success in every situation, but it's often effective in making an ex reconsider their actions and potentially reignite their interest in you.

Encouraging Reconsideration

A significant part of this process involves allowing your ex to experience the reality of the breakup. In the immediate aftermath, they might feel relief, but with time, they might start to miss what you both shared. If during this period, they perceive that you might be slipping away, the urgency to reconnect can intensify.

Respecting Yourself in the Process

It's vital to approach this situation with self-respect and dignity. While it's natural to want to alleviate any discomfort your ex might feel, doing so can be counterproductive if you're hoping for reconciliation. You shouldn't teach your ex that they can break up with you without consequence. Instead, it's important to show them that you value yourself enough to move on, even if it's not what you desire.

The Risk of Misunderstanding Concern

There's a misconception that showing your ex you no longer love them might deter them from coming back. However, the opposite is often true. Instilling a sense of loss and concern in your ex is mor...

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Coach Lee - Teach Your Ex This After A Breakup
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07/11/21 • 17 min

Coach Lee tells you what your response to a breakup teaches your ex. Your response can teach your ex important things that can bring them back to you or push them away.

Get Coach Lee’s Emergency Breakup Kit at https://myexbackcoach.com/emergency-breakup-kit/

If you benefited from this lesson, you can leave Coach Lee a tip at https://myexbackcoach.com/tip-jar/

Follow Coach Lee on Instagram at http://instagram.com/realcoachlee

Like or Follow Coach Lee on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/LeeWilsonfanpage

Videos mentioned in this one:

Stages An Ex Goes Through During No Contact: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=wYEAWNvtaTk

Your Ex’s Journey Back To You: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=iooao52p_X8

Clues That Your Ex Wants You Back: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fKEvp6Rz0HQ

SUBSCRIBE to Coach Lee’s channel at http://youtube.com/myexbackcoach

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Coach Lee - Interview With A Dumper Who Came Back
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07/10/21 • 10 min

Note Before You LISTEN! The answers provided are REAL but they are READ. These are NOT live interviews. It was better for these two dumpers to write out their answers and then read them so that they were deliberate about what they shared and felt good about their answers after giving it some thought.

In the future, I'll try to do some where they don't know the questions ahead of time but there's a lot to consider when you are delving into people's personal lives and they were generous to do what they did.

In this podcast, Coach Lee interviews two people who dumped their ex but found their way back after the people who were dumped followed the Emergency Breakup Kit which you can get at https://myexbackcoach.com/emergency-breakup-kit/ and the Emergency Marriage Kit at https://myexbackcoach.com/emergency-marriage-kit/

If you benefited from this video, you can leave Coach Lee a tip at https://myexbackcoach.com/tip-jar/

Why The No Contact Rule Works: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2v_9UTypfCs&t=14s

The Mind of Your Ex During No Contact: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0TCKTPQCuEg&t=767s

What Your Ex Is Feeling During No Contact: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eM-gi4ESjZs

Stages Your Ex Goes Through During No Contact: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wYEAWNvtaTk

SUBSCRIBE to Coach Lee's channel by clicking this link: http://youtube.com/c/myexbackcoach?app=desktop;sub_confirmation=1

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Get Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit at https://myexbackcoach.com/emergency-breakup-kit/

If you have begged, pleaded with, and chased your ex after they broke up with you and you are wondering if it is too late to do no contact, Coach Lee explains if and when it is too late to use the no contact rule to re-attract your ex.

As Coach Lee explains, it is never too late to do the right thing. People often ask, "Will no contact work after begging?"

According to Coach Lee, though begging taxes your chances of getting your ex back, you still have a good chance of winning them back if you stop the begging, pestering and pressuring them and implement no contact. When you stop the bad actions and start the good habit of giving him or her the space, you are interrupting the pattern (pattern interruption) and this is often successful to get your ex into the relief stage and moving toward the all-important curiosity stage. The fear-of-loss stage would be next if you stay in no contact. So if you have begged, pleaded, and otherwise messed up, you can still successfully apply the no contact rule and it can still work. Get

Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit at https://myexbackcoach.com/emergency-breakup-kit/

Watch the video version of this podcast at Is It Too Late To Do The No Contact Rule To Get An Ex Back?

Support Coach Lee's work by leaving a tip equal to the help you received at https://myexbackcoach.com/tip-jar/

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Does the No Contact Rule work for marriages that are separated and headed toward divorce? Can no contact get your husband or wife back if they have left you or want a separation or divorce? Coach Lee explains a modified form of the No Contact Rule that works for marriage and also goes over details of behavior and expectations for interacting with your spouse (or separated spouse).

Watch the video of this podcast at Does No Contact Work for Marriage?

Get more information on Coach Lee's Emergency Marriage Kit at https://myexbackcoach.com/emergency-marriage-kit/

SUBSCRIBE to Coach Lee's channel by clicking this link: http://youtube.com/c/myexbackcoach?app=desktop;sub_confirmation=1

Get Coach Lee's free mini-course on saving a marriage!

The No Contact Rule in Marriage: A Comprehensive Guide

In the realm of marital relationships, particularly those teetering on the brink of separation or divorce, the 'No Contact Rule' often emerges as a topic of significant interest. As someone deeply involved in relationship coaching, I've frequently encountered queries about the effectiveness of this strategy in the context of marriage, as opposed to its typical application in dating scenarios. This discussion aims to shed light on how the No Contact Rule can be adapted and applied effectively in marriages facing potential dissolution.

Understanding the No Contact Rule in Marital Context

The lockdowns of 2020 served as a catalyst, exacerbating existing marital issues. Many couples, previously managing their relationship strains through distractions like work or social outings, found themselves in constant proximity due to lockdowns. This intense togetherness often magnified underlying problems, leading to escalated conflicts and a heightened sense of dissatisfaction.

Intelligent Contact Rule: A Modified Approach

In cases where a spouse is contemplating divorce, it's crucial first to ensure that they are aware of your desire to salvage the marriage. Once this is established, the focus shifts to what I term the 'Intelligent Contact Rule'. This approach, a nuanced version of the No Contact Rule, involves limiting interactions to essential topics like children, finances, or shared responsibilities. It's not about emotional pleas or attempts to reverse their decision but about maintaining necessary, non-confrontational contact.

The Strategy of Intelligent Contact

Necessary Interactions
The essence of Intelligent Contact lies in engaging with your spouse only when it's unavoidable. This restraint allows them to feel in control of their decisions and less pressured, reducing the likelihood of them further distancing themselves.

Observing Changes in Dynamics
Over time, this approach often leads to a softening in the spouse's attitude. They might start initiating conversations about non-essential topics or express curiosity about your life. These are positive signs, indicating a gradual rekindling of interest.

Face-to-Face Interactions
When the opportunity for in-person meetings arises, it's important to keep discussions light and positive. Avoid delving into relationship issues or past conflicts. Instead, focus on shared interests and positive experiences.

Progressing Towards Reconciliation

Avoiding Negativity
Discipline yourself to steer clear of negative topics or confrontational discussions. This period should be about healing and rediscovering the joy in your relationship, reminiscent of the early days of your courtship.

Listening and Understanding
When deeper conversations do occur, listen empathetically. Avoid the urge to argue or defend. Your goal is to understand their perspective and validate their feelings.

Planting Seeds of Improvement
As your spouse becomes more open, subtly introduce ideas for improving the relationship. Avoid pushing for immediate answers; instead, plant seeds that can grow over time.

Legal Considerations

Consulting a Lawyer
If divorce is a possibility, it's prudent to consult a lawyer to understand your rights and protect your interests. Avoid going at it alone or using the same lawyer as your spouse. Legal advice is crucial in navigating the complexities of marital separation.

Conclusion
The Intelligent Contact Rule offers a strategic approach to dealing with marital separation. It's about creating a space where both partners feel heard and respected, without the pressure of immediate reconciliation. By ma...

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Coach Lee - How To Fix A Broken Marriage
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06/04/21 • 15 min

How to fix my broken marriage is a question often asked and powerful direction is provided in this video by Coach Lee, a world-renown relationship expert. Fixing a marriage that is failing or falling apart isn't like a car where you simply get a replacement for a broken part and repair it. A relationship is far more complex and cannot thrive or heal under a set- it-and-forget-it mindset or attitude. Watch the video version of this podcast at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ba1lqoJQ_yM

See the accompanying post for this podcast at https://www.marriageradio.com/how-to-fix-a-marriage/

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Coach Lee - How Does An Ex Come Back and Why?
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07/03/21 • 19 min

In this podcast, Coach Lee walks you through your ex's journey back to you. He discusses why and how an ex comes back to you after they broke up with you. Watch the video version of this podcast at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iooao52p_X8

Get Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit at https://myexbackcoach.com/emergency-breakup-kit/

If you benefited from this video, you can leave Coach Lee a quick tip at https://myexbackcoach.com/tip-jar/

Videos Mentioned In This One:

The No Contact Rule: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GQR5Wefd-Uc

What Is My Ex Thinking During No Contact? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0TCKTPQCuEg&t=767s

Help! My Ex Says There's No Chance Of Us Getting Back Together! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9lsTdeq3pWo&t=415s

SUBSCRIBE to Coach Lee's channel by clicking this link: http://youtube.com/c/myexbackcoach?app=desktop;sub_confirmation=1

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Coach Lee currently has 137 episodes available.

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The podcast is about Society & Culture, Podcasts, Self-Improvement, Education and Relationships.

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The episode title 'Help To Stick With No Contact!' is the most popular.

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The average episode length on Coach Lee is 14 minutes.

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Episodes of Coach Lee are typically released every 5 days, 21 hours.

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The first episode of Coach Lee was released on Jun 1, 2021.

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