Season 4, #79 "Your Erotic Blueprint"; Guest: Beth Ostrander; Wine: Antonutti Pinot Nero

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05/23/20 • 80 min

Michelle and Emily welcome Beth Ostrander, Authentic Pleasure Coach and Speaker based in Toronto, to the podcast. Michelle shared her tasting notes and panty recommendations for a Pinot Nero from Antonutti (an Italian wine). Emily was drinking a Gigondas from Bois de Menge. And, Beth shared a Pinot Grigio from Jackson Triggs Winery in Niagara Falls, Ontario. While discussing the different wines they are drinking, they laugh at some of the funny "Morning After" situations.Beth explains what a pleasure coach does and bringing authentic pleasure to every aspect of one's life. She works with individuals and couples. They discuss the effects the quarantine lockdown has had on individuals and couples. They have an insightful discussion on the changes they've been experiencing internally during the "great pause".Beth shares how her own awakening to life has helped her shed the oppressive nature of growing up as a Christian evangelical. Today, she works with to help those affected by religion to keep all the beautiful things associated with religion and shed the personal oppression.They talk about vulnerability, fear, judgment, shame, prevents pleasure in people's lives. Michelle asks Beth how do her clients find her or recognize they need a pleasure coach. Beth shares many of the questions her clients are asking from communication, to how to have sex, and more. They discuss at length about what society thinks pleasure should be versus what a person's true pleasure is and how to recognize and to embrace it.Beth says in the search for pleasure it's beneficial to know your Pleasure Type. She talks about the Erotic Blueprint which describes five pleasure types, sexual stages, and pathways to pleasure.They talk about how society is starved for authentic pleasure. The conversation winds through the tendency to apply guilt after pleasure and how it can morph into shame which becomes very dangerous. People need to identify what truly matters and aligns with their core values. Michelle shares her philosophy about happiness and its constant presence in life.Beth talks about how she uses Improv principles in learning authentic pleasure and developing a more robust sex life. They have a hilarious discussion about short-form and long-form improv elements for sex.Link to the Dutch Health Ministry's sex recommendations during COVID-19 https://www.loketgezondleven.nl/englishErotic BlueprintsTM Quiz: bit.ly/BethOstranderBlueprintQuizSocial Media links: Website: bethostrander.comFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/beth.ostrander.393 Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/bethostrander/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bethostrander1/Thank you for listening and subscribing to Cliterally Speaking the Podcast. Visit our website: www.cliterallyspeakingpodcast.comFacebook: @cspeakpodcastInstagram: @cliterallyspeakingthepodcastTwitter: @cliterallyspea1Please call our comment line: 812-727-0794Watch our youtube channel (Cliterally Speaking the Podcast) for all the behind the scenes discussions during our recording sessions.Be on the lookout for the launch of our live-streaming channel on Twitch, CliterallySpeakingPodTV. Our patreon site is up - visit it here - http://bit.ly/32uOnVT

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Season 4, #78 "Miss, Mrs., Ms. America " Guest: Ellen Kunkelmann; Wine: Clos de Napa

Michelle and Emily welcome friend Ellen Kunkelman to the podcast. Ellen shares her experiences during her time as a member of the College Conservatives in the early 1990s. They have a lively discussion about tactics they employed, about Ellen's interactions with Phyllis Schlafly, the television show Mrs. America, and the Equal Rights Amendment. They talk about the impact Rush Limbaugh's negative term, "femi-nazis," had on the feminist movement and how it shaped their own perceptions in the early 1990s. They explore their reactions to the show Mrs. America and why they either love it or hate it. They explore why some women actively work to prevent other women succeeding, such as the STOP ERA effort. They discuss the long-term effect of the repeal of the FCC Fairness Doctrine, September 11th, and the rise of nationalism within the Republican Party.They discuss growing up as an intelligent girl in the middle of the United States with the only "liberal" outlets being Sassy magazine and MTV. Ellen recommends "The Mommy Myth" as a good, accessible book to read on feminism.Thank you for listening and subscribing to Cliterally Speaking the Podcast. Visit our website: www.cliterallyspeakingpodcast.comFacebook: @cspeakpodcastInstagram: @cliterallyspeakingthepodcastTwitter: @cliterallyspea1Please call our comment line: 812-727-0794Watch our youtube channel (Cliterally Speaking the Podcast) for all the behind the scenes discussions during our recording sessions.Be on the lookout for the launch of our live-streaming channel on Twitch, CliterallySpeakingPodTV. Our patreon site is up - visit it here - http://bit.ly/32uOnVT

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Season 4, #80 "Intimacy of Some Sort"; Guest: Angela Skrutu; Wine: Giocato Cava

Emily and Michelle welcome Marriage and Sex therapist and fellow podcaster Angela Skurtu to Cliterally Speaking.Michelle enjoys a bright Cava from Giocatto while Emily breaks out a 2002 commemorative bottle from Madonna, Confessions on the Dance Floor. Angela rounds out the wine selection with a tasty Pinot Grigio from Cavit. According to Angela, it's a bottle that will guarantee a buzz!Angela shares how makeup is designed to look as if you just had sex.They do a deep dive into all aspects of intimacy. They talk about affection, communication, the blame lane, the honeymoon phase (usually between 6 months and 2 years), how to flirt, how to bullshit, how people use humor in relationships and what it indicates about the status of the relationship, the impact children have on the sex life of couples.They have a fun, insightful, and deeply intimate discussion on their different experiences regarding having children or not. They talk about the role women often get thrown into whether they like it or not as the HOUSE CEO. They talk about the frustration associated with that when you just wish someone would initiate without having to be asked to help and the challenge to ask for help within a relationship. Angela poses the question: does a partner add to your life or subtract? They talk about pendulum swings between traditional roles and egalitarian, owning your sexuality, nuanced conversations between couples, and giving each other a vocabulary to navigate expectations.Angela stresses the need for comprehensive sex education and communication skills. They wrap it up with a fun conversation on orgasms.To connect with Angela, visit http://www.therapistinstlouis.comYou can find her podcast "About Sex" wherever you listen to podcasts.http://www.aboutsexpodcast.comThank you for listening and subscribing to Cliterally Speaking the Podcast. Visit our website: www.cliterallyspeakingpodcast.comFacebook: @cspeakpodcastInstagram: @cliterallyspeakingthepodcastTwitter: @cliterallyspea1Please call our comment line: 812-727-0794Watch our youtube channel (Cliterally Speaking the Podcast) for all the behind the scenes discussions during our recording sessions.Be on the lookout for the launch of our live-streaming channel on Twitch, CliterallySpeakingPodTV. Our patreon site is up - visit it here - http://bit.ly/32uOnVT

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