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Ep. 166: Kelly Resendez – Big Voices Rise
Chasing Dreams with Aimee J.
11/07/18 • 43 min
How often does self-sabotage, fear, or doubt get in your way? Do your priorities align to give you balance and fulfillment in the life you want to live? We are covering these topics and more with practical tips from someone who is using her journey to help others in personal growth.
Kelly Resendez is a mom, business executive, bestselling author, and influencer. She loves helping others with strategies to overcome self-sabotage and find more joy. She’s the author of the new and already popular book, Big Voices, and is the founder of the women-empowered network of the same name. Kelly is passionate about helping people increase joy, reduce suffering, and learn to think differently. It’s her own journey that has helped her create the strategies and tools she shares in her books. Kelly is currently the Executive Vice President of Paramount Partners Group, which is a division of Loan Pal. She uses the same concepts of mindfulness, self discovery, and goal setting to help those in the mortgage and real estate industries create successful businesses.
Why Kelly wrote the book
Doesn’t everyone struggle with self-sabotage at some point? Kelly believes, as we all should, that everyone deserves to overcome fear, overthinking, and anxiety. Part of the responsibility we have in going through our journey is to grow and gain wisdom so we can share our story with others. Kelly’s book is an outgrowth of her journey and what she has been through. It’s a personal growth journey that began15 years ago. Now, her desire is to help others get to places of authenticity and self-actualization faster than she did.
TWEET: Don’t sabotage yourself - you can overcome fear, overthinking, and anxiety! @BigVoicesKelly #chasingdreams
How we can help our kids
As a parent, isn’t it a major concern to have our kids prepared for life and its struggles? We have to teach them to be wide awake and mindfully prepared for life, when their peers are not. Kelly found that the process of this growth can’t be forced or even affected, but it has to unfold naturally. As individuals, we have to endure enough pain that we “wake up” and make the necessary changes. The problem is that we send mixed messages to our children and make it more difficult for them to avoid the pitfalls. We have to be mindful as parents and be intentional about raising children in direct opposition to how the rest of the world raises them, or it will be a difficult process.
TWEET: We have to teach our kids to be wide awake and mindfully prepared for life, even when their peers are not. @BigVoicesKelly #chasingdreams
Getting the life you want
Wouldn’t it be wonderful to have the life you want---right now? It’s a process, and Kelly shares some practical tips for getting there. You have to get clear about your priorities and create the vision of the life you want to live and how you want to feel. It’s not enough to set goals, because you’ll fall into the trap and get stuck with just setting new goals and never feeling filled with joy and gratitude. Kelly says to open your eyes each morning and be bathed in gratitude. YOU have the power to change your outlook and the outcome. Get clear about the help that you need and don’t be afraid to ask. Commit to discipline and take action.
TWEET: Get clear about the help that you need and don’t be afraid to ask. Commit to discipline and take action. @BigVoicesKelly #chasingdreams
Guest Recommendation: ONE action for a dream chaser to take--”Write down your vision for how you want to feel in your life, and then start taking action on it.”
OUTLINE OF THE EPISODE:
- [:10] Why Kelly wrote her book about this important topic
- [1:40] What teenage Kelly struggled with most
- [5:30] How to get over self-sabotage and fears
- [8:20] What parents can do to help their kids
- [9:51] The value in being lonely
- [12:17] Can you have more than one tribe?
- [15:30] When you have to weed people out
- [18:25] The REAL Superwoman Syndrome
- [19:42] Creating the life you want
- [21:25] It’s NEVER too late
- [26:20] Acknowledge your power
- [30:11] You are NOT your thoughts
- [36:35] Identifying your priorities
- [38:03] ONE action for a dream chaser
RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE:
Kelly on Facebook
Kelly on Instagram
Kelly on Twitter
Kelly on LinkedIn
Ep. 129: Marcus Garrett – Debt Free or Die Trying
Chasing Dreams with Aimee J.
02/21/18 • 45 min
Marcus Garrett was born and raised in the great state of Texas. He obtained a Bachelor of Arts in Business Administration after surviving the mean streets of the inner suburbs. A decade of professional experience as a Certified Internal Auditor, combined with freelance writing on topics ranging from current events to love and relationships, helped Marcus develop a unique qualitative and quantitative writing style. His book and website, Debt Free or Die Trying, keep readers entertained with cautionary tales and helpful tips for living debt free. Marcus’ mission statement is: To make a difference in the lives of others by helping people develop sustainable plans for staying out of or getting out of debt.
No plan, no budget, and no ideas:
Can you imagine accruing $26,000 of debt in ONE weekend? Marcus can, because that’s really where his debt story really takes a turn for the worse. That few hours of free spending took him 7 years to pay off. He knows exactly how and why it happened: “I had a detached recognition of money because money just ‘happened’ around me.” He was a young man with no budget and no plan, so a consolidation loan check sent him on a drinking, partying, and shopping rampage. Marcus uses this part of his story to tell us all “what NOT to do.”
TWEET: If there is a hustle for a get-rich quick scheme out there, I probably did it, tried it, or tried to get a friend to do it to see if it works. #ChasingDreams
How Marcus ended up doing a podcast:
Are you holding yourself back, afraid to take that next step? Marcus and his podcast partner, Rich Jones, started their podcast, but were afraid to tackle personal finance and debt, so they started out talking about “everything else.” Marcus explains how they finally overcame “analysis paralysis” and jumped into the podcast. Marcus says, that with any new endeavor, you need to fail as quickly as possible so you can move on the “next great thing.”
TWEET: I thought I was OK since I was covering the minimum payments on my debt. #ChasingDreams
The Plan:
Do you find yourself too focused on the end—the championship? Marcus explains why so many people don’t realize that significant changes and decisions are made along the way of your journey. His advice is to acknowledge the problem, put a plan together, and then follow the plan. Marcus says, “Just do it and demonstrate the outcome!”
TWEET: I had no budget and no plan. Money was something that came in and went out. #ChasingDreams
Guest Recommendation: ONE action for a dream chaser to take—“It comes down to having a plan or creating a plan. Most people don’t know what the debt-free dream looks like. Put action items in place for your dream to happen. The plan will tell you how to get there.”
OUTLINE OF THIS EPISODE:
- [2:03] Marcus’ interesting story of his background in debt
- [2:46] “How I spent $26K in ONE weekend!”
- [8:39] Marcus’ “Aha” moment, several years later
- [13:22] Helping people through books and the podcast
- [18:30] What Marcus and Rich talked about on the podcast, tiptoeing around personal finance
- [24:02] The painful experience of debt reality
- [30:35] Applying “The Five Why’s”
- [31:47] Marcus’ recommendations for others
- [36:35] In our consumerist society, debt is “the new normal”
- [38:21] Marcus’ ONE action for a dream chaser
RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE:
Marcus on LinkedIn
Marcus on Twitter @PayBalances
Marcus on Instagram Pay Balances
Marcus on Facebook Paychecks and Balances
Marcus’ Podcast
Marcus’ Website
Debt Free or Die Trying by Marcus Garrett
TWEETS YOU CAN USE:
TWEET: If you are the thing holding yourself back, just STOP. #ChasingDreams
TWEET: A lot of smart people are just bad at managing money. #ChasingDreams
TWEET: If you make $30K or $300K, it doesn’t matter if you don’t know how to manage money. #ChasingDreams
TWEET: If you want to do “normal,” then you WILL ...
Ep. 128: Fanshen Cox DiGiovanni - Living Your Truth
Chasing Dreams with Aimee J.
02/14/18 • 39 min
Fanshen Cox DiGiovanni is an award-winning playwright, actor, producer, and educator. She is currently touring and performing her one-woman show, One Drop of Love. One Drop travels near and far, in the past and present to explore the intersections of race, class, and gender, in pursuit of truth, justice, and love. Ben Affleck and Matt Damon assist Fanshen in producing the show. She has been featured in the NY Times and on NPR as a spokesperson on using the arts to explore racial identity.
Declare your Dreams:
Did you “declare” your dreams at a young age? Fanshen did! She knew at the age of 9 that she wanted to be an actress. Even though she’s able to realize that dream today, she has taken a circuitous route, including majoring in theater, and being drawn to Spanish and education. She has worked in Africa with the Peace Corps and studied in graduate school in NYC. Fanshen says that she is glad her journey was not a direct route, because of all the wonderful things she has experienced along the way.
TWEET: Sometimes it’s more beneficial to take an indirect route to your dreams so you can enjoy the experience! #ChasingDreams
Be Free, Let Go, and Tell the Truth:
How do you respond when you see the failure of your dream? Fanshen says the failing at one dream means being “freed” to try something else. The beauty is in trying something new and letting go of the fear and pressure of “what might happen.” Her advice is to tell the truth and accept the history of what you’ve done in the past as you move forward in the future!
TWEET: #Failing at one #dream sets yourself free to try something else. #chasingdreams
Confront the issues and Change:
How do you handle friction? Fanshen shares a personal experience in which she learned valuable lessons because the had to “speak out,” even though she risked losing support over social justice issues. She says that we must confront the issue if we want to change it. The time for turning a blind eye to what’s happening around us is over!
TWEET: In order to change an outcome, we have to confront the issues. #chasingdreams
Guest Recommendation: ONE action for a dream chaser to take—“Change your language and take the ‘NOT’ out. I am somebody who cares about social change and I have the power to do that.”
OUTLINE OF THIS EPISODE:
- [1:43] The younger Fanshen and her big plans
- [3:06] Maintaining your “grip” on your dreams
- [6:54] Giving up one thing for another
- [11:31] Being open-minded and embracing something new in moving on
- [12:10] Writing the play and letting go of expectations
- [15:22] The topic for the show: “the one drop rule”
- [19:02] Telling “my truth” in the show
- [20:56] Hearing audience feedback
- [23:40] Getting help from Ben Affleck and Matt Damon
- [28:40] Risks and chances in confronting issues
- [32:50] Working with the production company run by Affleck and Damon, Pearl Street Films
- [35:06] ONE action for a dream chaser
RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE:
Fanshen’s Website
Fanshen on Facebook
TWEETS YOU CAN USE:
TWEET: “Telling my truth” was my pure goal in writing the show.
TWEET: Failing was the only time in this career when I thought about just quitting.
TWEET: I always believed in my heart that I was meant to be an actor.
TWEET: I created content that says something and has the goal of making change.
https://youtu.be/KVC4VO9ObtA
Ep. 112: Staci Greenberg – Designing Your Own Dream on Your Own Terms
Chasing Dreams with Aimee J.
10/18/17 • 38 min
Staci Greenberg is host of The Inside Outlook podcast. As an interior designer, Staci has spent many years speaking with the various trades and people associated with building renovations and new construction. She has talked to everyone from architects and contractors to fabric manufacturers and furniture makers. The Inside Outlook is the show where she talks about all things interior and design with those very same people.
Wine, a blindfold, and interior design:
What do YOU do when your dreams aren’t working out? Staci was struggling when she realized her dreams of being an actress were not going to happen. She shares how she and her sister played their childhood “Dr. Doolittle” game, and included an adult beverage and a blindfold. Staci slapped her hand down on a college catalog straight to her first interior design class. Was it a crazy move? Staci has loved her career path and her work in the visual arts. She says she wouldn’t have it any other way!
TWEET: I didn’t want to do “another stint” at a place that wasn’t for me. @ianddllc
The coolest thing I ever did:
How do you handle a transition in your methods or learning new technology? Staci encountered this problem when she had to learn to do drafting with computer programs after being “old school” in drawing by hand for many years. She joined with architects and engineers in her field and took after-hours “lessons” from a recent college graduate. “I locked myself in my office and forced myself to do the next project 100% on the computer. It was the only way I could learn it.”
TWEET: Good #designers are always #doodling. @ianddllc
Holding onto the dream:
What happens when times are tough and friends tell you it’s time to “let the dream go”? Staci went through this, but she remained determined to make her dream into a business and not just a hobby. Rough times may come, but you learn from them. Staci says she wouldn’t be happy doing anything else!
TWEET: I tried to do other things, but #designing is in my blood, what I love, and what I’m good at. @ianddllc
Guest Recommendation: ONE action for a dream chaser to take—“If you’re gonna chase your dream, then you have to be COMMITTED to it. Many things are going to get in your way.”
OUTLINE OF THIS EPISODE:
- [1:26] Why interior designers are kind of like unicorns
- [2:45] Trying to walk away from this profession
- [3:45] Childhood dreams of being an actress
- [8:29] The transition from old school drafting to computer technology
- [13:14] How HGTV is killing the interior design industry
- [18:00] Reality vs. TV design
- [20:40] Designing for the individual client
- [22:11] Not letting your dreams go
- [22:56] Knowing where you don’t belong
- [27:34] The struggle many people have with knowing where they belong
- [31:50] Staci’s “bucket-list” project
- [35:12] Staci’s ONE recommendation for a dream chaser
RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Staci’s Podcast
Staci on Facebook
Staci on Twitter
TWEETS YOU CAN USE:
TWEET: I design things knowing how they will be built; it’s a design/build approach. @ianddllc
TWEET: I’m pretty #confident, because I’m not 21 anymore. @ianddllc
https://youtu.be/pjaYIUWdyoI
Ep. 97: Elaine Williams – Chasing Dreams After Surviving the Tough Times
Chasing Dreams with Aimee J.
06/28/17 • 39 min
As a nationally touring college circuit speaker, award-winning standup comedian, and certified life coach, Elaine Williams provides public speaking coaching advice to both beginning and experienced speakers, helping them deliver engaging videos and presentations with ease. Her focus on real skills enables speakers to overcome their nerves to deliver content that connects and entertains audiences so they stop and click or stand and clap.
TWEET: “#Comedy made my life make sense for the first time.” @elainetweets
The One Consistent Thing:
What do I do with my pain? It’s a question we all have to answer when hard times come, and we know they do come to all of us. Elaine explains the relief she felt in using her personal pain to help others. After growing up in a very dysfunctional family, facing many problems, Elaine found musical theater to be the one consistent thing in her life. Musical theater has something for everyone, and it became a great outlet for her and is the passion she credits for saving her life.
TWEET: “All of this #pain was so I could help others.”@elainetweets
Finding Gold:
Do you find it hard to talk about the tough times in your life? It’s talking about them that can help change the attitudes of others. Dealing with hard issues takes bravery, but sharing your experiences can help others realize they aren’t alone in their difficulties. Elaine says that “the gold is found in the things that were most horrific for you.”
TWEET:
When you don’t feel “good enough”:
How much attention do you pay to the advertising around you? For most of us, the answer is probably that we notice it WAY more than we should. Most advertising tells men and women that we aren’t good enough. The scary part is that these messages that imply our failure come at us from every direction and at lightning speed. Elaine shares how she endeavors to change the attitudes of the college students she addresses. Just remember, we are all flawed and imperfect—even the people we see in advertisements.
TWEET: “Be careful who you’re emulating.” @elainetweets
Guest Recommendation: ONE action for a dream chaser to take---“One of my mentors talks about baby steps. Every dream starts with small steps. If you want to be an actor or a comedian, then go take a class. Give yourself permission to start the journey.”
OUTLINE OF THIS EPISODE:
- [1:25] Elaine’s story of searching
- [7:10] The lightbulb moment: how comedy led to the college circuit
- [12:35] Being a testament to tough times
- [15:50] Never say never!
- [18:45] The picture of ideal life that isn’t always reality
- [21:07] How each generation struggles
- [23:55] Why you shouldn’t strive for perfection
- [25:45] Accepting that you don’t need to be hard on yourself
- [29:05] Women supporting women
- [32:20] How we get caught up in reactions
- [34:35] Elaine’s ONE action for a dream chaser to take
RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE:
Elaine’s website - Claim your free gift, Elaine’s Story Connect Tool, at www.captivatethecrowd.com/gift
Elaine on Twitter
Elaine on Facebook
Elaine on LinkedIn
TWEETS YOU CAN USE:
TWEET: “Because we see #perfection all around us, we forget that we are all flawed and #imperfect.” @elainetweets
TWEET: “ #Women don’t have to compete with each other for the caveman anymore.” @elainetweets
TWEET: “Hurt people hurt people.” @elainetweets
https://youtu.be/gLqCKahEKtU
Ep. 150: Jamie Joshua, Gina Wright & Josh Wright - A Chat w/Aimee J.’s Family
Chasing Dreams with Aimee J.
07/18/18 • 38 min
How have your dreams played into what you have accomplished in life? For some people, their dreams remain unchanged over the years, and others see their dreams take detours and U-turns as life progresses. In celebration of our 150th episode, I’ve invited some of my beloved family members to join us for a chat about their lives and how they’ve chased their dreams.
I want you to meet my sister Jamie Joshua, my sister Gina Wright, and my brother-in-law Josh Wright. I’ve assembled them from across the globe for this virtual chat in which there is no script and there are no prepared questions. Let’s have fun getting to know them and putting them on the spot as only a sister can do.
We start by getting their take on the world of podcasting and some of their favorites that they listen to regularly. I’m even sharing some of my newfound faves, so listen closely for one or two that you might want to catch also.
How their dreams have played out in life
A common thread among my siblings is the desire to help people and make an impact. You hear that passion as they share their occupations and if that career has truly been the one of their dreams. Jamie is Director of Diversity Inclusion at the Samuel Curtis Johnson Graduate School of Management at Cornell University. It’s not something she imagined herself doing in her former life as an attorney, but it allows her to help people and make a deeper impact. She says it’s fun to work with a variety of people who have the passion to be change agents in the world. Josh is a dentist at Cornerstone Dental, as is his wife, Gina. Josh started the practice with his brother, and their goal has always been to elevate dental care into a less fearful experience. He has wanted to be a dentist since 8th grade, and even though there have been detours along the way, he has kept his constant vision. He loves establishing relationships with his patients and not just running them in and out of the chair. Gina always wanted to be a doctor, but ended up a dentist. She likes the hands-on approach of dentistry and finds great pleasure in helping people with their smiles.
TWEET: “Write it down and tell someone. It’s the first step toward getting there.” #chasingdreams
How they see others following their dreams
Jamie works with people who are interested in using education to help them figure out their dreams. She loves being the person to remind them of those dreams. Josh sees patients ages 1-98, but he says part of his fun in dentistry is seeing kids grow, develop, and chase their dreams. Gina sees younger staff in their office who want to learn and make their dreams come true. Most of them are in the work because it’s a career they love, and not just a way to make a living.
TWEET: “Do research on what interests you and keep a log of what you find.” #chasingdreams
How they stay sane and their advice for those who think they CAN’T
With busy and demanding careers, it’s vitally important to have other interests that bring joy and peace. Jamie likes to see movies, collect comic books, and spend quality time with friends. Gina has a lifelong passion for calligraphy and is always seeking to do new things with lettering styles. She says it’s a great stress release and gives her a way to make things for people, who are always appreciative of her efforts. Josh gravitates toward woodworking projects like spice racks, wooden pens, and cutting boards. Sometimes he and Gina collaborate on a special project that includes his woodworking and her calligraphy. To the people who think they can’t take on a hobby or don’t have time for self-care interests, they give the following advice: Josh says it comes down to making time for dreams with small, manageable steps; Jamie says you should learn to multitask in small batches of time and always make time for self-care; Gina’s advice is to be a little selfish in taking care of yourself and don’t compare yourself to others. It’s about the progress and the journey you can take joy in that matters most.
Guest Recommendation: ONE action for a dream chaser to take--
From Jamie: “Write it down and tell someone. It’s the first step toward getting there.”
From Josh: “Take the first step and start small.”
From Gina: “Do research on what interests you and keep a log of what you find.”
OUTLINE OF THIS EPISODE:
- [2:31] The podcasts that interest them most
- [9:12] What they do today as compared with what they THOUGHT they would do
- [16:59] Their interactions with people of all genders and ethnicities
- [21:28] What they do to stay sane
- [27:54] Their advice to those who think they CAN’T
- [34:46] ONE action for a dream chaser to take
RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE:
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Ep 256: Drew & Sylvia Nixon – Know You and Walk in it!
Chasing Dreams with Aimee J.
03/30/22 • 43 min
Tap into yourself, figure out who you really are, and embrace that.
In this episode, Sylvia and Drew Nixon, share the value of knowing who you really are and walking in your purpose. Life can get too noisy that we often miss the very thing that we would like to do, but we are given the opportunity to recognize our strength and learn the process of chasing our dreams.
WHAT YOUNG DREW AND SYLVIA WANTED TO BE
It’s always an interesting question when someone asks us what our dreams are when we were younger. Some of us may have varying dreams like Drew or one specific dream that will stay all throughout like Sylvia.
Young Sylvia always knew she wanted to be an actress or a talk show host. She was even considered to be most likely to have a talk show like Oprah in her senior yearbook. Life eventually took a different turn for Sylvia but deep in her heart, she still has that dream.
While for Drew, he was (on his own terms) “all over the place but not indecisive” when it comes to his dreams. He’s done a lot of different things thus his background is so colorful.
Although he’s always believed that he can do anything, Sylvia has taught him how to hone a specific skill and know who he really is. It helped build his knowledge and his character.
Now, Drew tells their daughter Chloe that he appreciates every single thing he ventured out when he was younger because it gave him the back-end knowledge and strategies in situations that demanded it.
DREW & SYLVIA’S JOURNEY TO WHERE THEY ARE NOW
When Sylvia was 19 years old she moved to New Jersey in the hopes that her dream of becoming an actress or a talk show host will come to pass. She’s always had the confidence that when she shows up, everything will change.
There wasn’t a single negative thought in Sylvia’s mind during that time. She didn’t think that it was a very competitive world where it was difficult to get in. Sylvia knew that her dream was very natural for her and she just showed up. All she was thinking was that somebody was going to sign her up for projects.
But as Sylvia mentioned, “it didn’t happen that way.” She came from a small town went to a big city with big dreams and big goals. It sure was a chasing dream moment, but Sylvia added, “it was a chasing dream moment without structure and planning.”
This grandiose event in her life served as an eye-opener. Sylvia realized that she didn’t have to give up on her dreams, she just needed to go in a different direction.
She started learning the ropes of the corporate sector and came back to Florida. Although not everything happened according to how she wanted it to be, it brought her acceptance that “without that dream coming to pass, it doesn’t mean that it’s not going to happen.”
While Drew looks at life from a faith-based standpoint. For him, every encounter he had with life happened for a reason. He uses the turbulence analogy whenever we go through a crisis.
Drew states that “turbulence is a constant reminder that there’s a movement happening and that there’s a destination you’re going to get to.” He embraces all the turbulence that he experiences and believes in the power of pivoting.
Sylvia equates turbulence to new beginnings in our lives. The best example is when someone starts with a new job, she advises, “give yourself the grace to learn and to go through the process.”
A pivot is a learning curve and we don’t always learn instantly, there has to be a process. We go through different seasons in our lives and when we know that a big change is imminent, we have to give ourselves time to comprehend the whole process.
The process may feel uncomfortable but it’s necessary. Don’t be scared of the change because it allows you to go to a destination where you can cruise and roll with everything that comes your way.
We’ve become so acquainted with movies or societal expectations that we’re led to believe that change is easy but in reality, it’s not. We have to learn how to process change and grow where we are placed.
TWEETS
“What you see is what you get.” #chasingdreams
"Turbulence is not always a bad thing, it's movement, growth, and a destination." #chasingdreams
"When you pivot, you have to brace yourself." #chasingdreams
"You may feel uncomfortable, but it's necessary for your changing season. #chasingdreams
QUOTES
"This may not be what I thought it was going to be, but I'm not going to give up on it, I'll just have to go in another direction."
"Without that dream coming to pass, that does not mean it's not going to happen."
"Turbulence is a constant reminder that there's a movement happening. There's a destination that you're going to get to."
"Give yourself the grace to learn and to go through the process."
"Any pivot is a learning curve" <...
Ep 261: Aimee J – It’s Okay to Not Be Okay
Chasing Dreams with Aimee J.
06/15/22 • 16 min
We’re halfway through the year, it seems that days went by so fast. Some of us feel like not having enough time to process everything we’re going through. Some days we feel okay, others not so much. But you have to remember, it’s okay to not be okay.
In this episode, we have another inspiring discussion about it’s okay to not be okay. Aimee shares that for the past couple of months, she’s not feeling good. A lot of things happened, she lost some loved ones and this puts her in a space where she felt not okay.
During these days, Aimee didn’t feel like herself. She didn’t feel motivated, excited, or happy to do the things that normally give her joy. These may be the result of creative burnout and unfortunate life events.
Aimee shares her story and journey towards acceptance that there will be days that we don’t feel okay, and we’re allowed to experience and learn from this.
WE DON’T TALK ABOUT NOT BEING OKAY
Have you noticed that we don’t talk about not being okay? It seems like a prohibited topic in our society. According to an article published by Psychology Today, there are various reasons why people are not encouraged to talk about what they need to express.
No one wants to talk about the hardships in life. We fear that this may only cause stress to the listener and additional anxiety to ourselves. But we have to accept that some days are not roses and butterflies.
We also have days when it’s enough to survive and make it until the end of the day. The good thing is that millennials and Generation Xs are setting a good example that it’s okay to talk about our bad days.
This act inspires the younger generation to acknowledge and accept not feeling okay. They see this as the norm and might continue doing it for future generations.
TWEET
"Some days, it's not roses. Some days it's just molasses." #chasingdreams
IT’S OKAY NOT TO BE OKAY
It’s normal to not feel okay, to realize that not everything goes according to our plans. We all go through this phase and some may experience not being okay for the most part of the year.
Some people may think that they are not allowed to not feel okay because other humans depend on them. The classic example of this is being a parent. Parents think that it’s against the law to feel worried, out of place, confused, and so much more. because their kids look up to them.
This brings up too much pressure to feel okay despite having a raging fire inside that signals they don’t feel good. When parents do this, they build a notion that it’s undesirable to not have everything handled. And children may carry this belief until adulthood. They may think that not being okay means there is something wrong with me.
What we stand for today impacts the future. Our goal is to bring more awareness to mental suffering so that the kids of tomorrow feel encouraged and supported with their struggles.
The suicide rates for young people (teens and young adults) are the highest according to the article from UCLA Health. This may involve various factors, but it’s also related to not feeling okay and not having the courage or the willingness to talk about it.
We need to take the initiative to show people that it’s completely fine to not feel good all the time. This way we normalize the conversation with our kids, friends, and family about mental health.
This also causes a ripple effect so when a certain member of our family is having mental health struggles, he/she knows that you can help.
TWEET
"It's okay to not be okay." #chasing dreams
QUOTE
"We all go through a period where we're not okay.
"Even the protectors need to be taken care of."
THE NEED FOR MENTAL HEALTH DAYS
Wouldn’t it be better if we have additional days when we can just take care of ourselves? This should be on top of our vacation leaves and sick days, not in replacement.
For the longest time, our sick leaves are only used for being physically sick. Our mental health is not considered as important as our physical health.
In a post by Verywell mind, they’ve outlined the states in the US where students are allowed to miss class for the benefit of their mental health.
This policy will also be beneficial for workers across various industries. There are days when going to work brings too much stress that we just need a day ...
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Ep. 167: Nick Goblirsch – Making Friends is Hard Until You Do
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11/14/18 • 56 min
What are the valuable parts of YOUR story? What is the legacy you need to leave for the world? My guest today has a unique perspective on his role as a podcaster, believing he is entrusted with preserving today’s stories for future generations.
Nick Goblirsch has been a podcaster and producer for nearly four years, while having a successful HR leadership career AND running a family household with his wife, Megan, host of the You Be You with Meg and Liv podcast. Despite having graduated with a degree in Fine Arts, design, radio, and video, Nick had long since turned off the passionate part of his life to focus on the NOW of raising children. A close friend of his started his own business, but needed someone with multimedia expertise. In came Nick, who for a small window of time every other week, started drawing on those dormant skills and escaped a bit from the day-to-day grind of his career to do something new and refreshing for a friend. As he started building his friend’s brand, that creative itch started surfacing again, and the passion for creating, sharing, and connecting was alive again. He set a goal of doing 200 full episodes with a few mini-sodes in between, and has set a mission to honestly connect with people around him, discussing timely topics that he can relate to and start a conversational experience that he can learn and grow from.
Fighting imposter syndrome
Have you heard the little voice in your head that says you don’t belong? We’ve all heard it at one time or another, and Nick remembers well the voice that said he would never be good enough in the podcasting world. He finally tired of not celebrating his successes, and when he was asked to speak at a podcast conference, he felt like it was the culmination of everything he had done up until that point. The challenge was to learn something new, get good at it, and expand his network---but he DID IT. Nick shares how he learned to love himself, believe in himself, and take care of himself---and stopped fishing for compliments from others.
TWEET: Challenge yourself to learn something new, get good at it and use it to expand your network. It’s not as hard as you imagine. @dependent_nick #chasingdreams
Finding the spark again
Which of society’s “stupid rules” do you follow? For Nick, he thought making the decision with his wife to start having children meant that everything else in life had to be put on hold. In his mind, parenthood meant forgetting who you are and forsaking the dreams you might have. Fortunately, he found the spark again and the love for all things tech, especially in the world of video production. Being raised by his grandmother and an alcoholic father after his mother’s death put him in the position to embrace his independence, and this skill has served him well as he became The Dependent Independent.
TWEET: Which of society’s “stupid rules” do you follow? @dependent_nick #chasingdreams
Finding his voice
Have you found YOUR voice? What is the legacy you should leave behind, not just for your own children, but for other generations? Nick is thankful that he has found his love for art and media again, and is using his talents to do something meaningful in the world. He shares a personal story about using his podcast to document thoughts and experiences that he hopes his children will appreciate one day in the future. He looks at his podcast as a time capsule in preserving memories that are the gift that keeps on giving for future generations. He says, “Everything you record is a legacy and an imprint on the world.”
TWEET: “Everything you record is a legacy and an imprint on the world.” @dependent_nick #chasingdreams
Guest Recommendation: ONE action for a dream chaser to take--”Don’t be afraid. Fear is crippling. Life is too short. It’s OK to be scared, but don’t let fear dominate your decision-making.”
OUTLINE OF THE EPISODE:
- [:26] How intimidating conferences can be for a newbie podcaster
- [5:43] Tracking down Dave Jackson and other veteran podcasters
- [8:00] Fighting imposter syndrome
- [12:23] Why we doubt ourselves
- [16:29] Finding his spark again
- [21:08] The rules society makes for us
- [25:53] Breaking out of the mold
- [31:45] A pivotal point that led to Nick’s first podcast
- [38:04] Finding a level of fulfillment
- [46:04] ONE action for a dream chaser
RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Nick on Facebook
Nick on Twitter
Nick on Instagram
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Chasing Dreams with Aimee J. currently has 490 episodes available.
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The podcast is about Society & Culture, Personal Journals, Podcasts and Business.
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