CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT

Whitney talks with Eve Rodsky, creator of a system designed to balance the domestic workload in homes.

Eve's system, Fair Play, is based on the idea of treating homes as important organizations, with clearly defined expectations and roles for each member. The system is built on three key principles: boundaries, systems, and communication.

Eve emphasizes the importance of each person owning their tasks, from conception to execution, to ensure efficiency and accountability. She also highlights the need for women to value their time as much as men do, and for men to be active participants in domestic life. She believes that for women to fully step into their power outside the home, men must be invited into their full power within the home.

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Whitney talks about accountability in parent-child relationships:

• children should not be held accountable for their actions in the same way as adults
• there is a power differential between parents and children which continues into adulthood
• parents need to to consider how their actions would have felt to their child at the time

And Whitney's first questions from her voicemail (866-CALL HOME):

• dealing with anxiety over running into estranged family members
• supporting a spouse who is hesitant to reconcile with their parents

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Whitney is talking with Holly Whitaker, author and founder of Tempest, about the impact of alcohol on family dynamics.

Holly believes that society's positive messaging around drinking often overlooks the negative impact it can have on relationships. She believes that the question should not be whether one is an alcoholic, but rather if alcohol negatively impacts one's life and if steps should be taken to address the relationship with it. She also discusses the lack of informed consent around alcohol consumption, as many people are not fully aware of the potential consequences. She suggests that if alcohol feels uncomfortable or difficult, it's an invitation to interrogate one's relationship with it.

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Whitney talks about the impact of emotionally immature parents on their children. She explains that emotionally immature parents often lack empathy, struggle to apologize or admit fault, and are often well-liked in their communities due to their ability to maintain surface-level relationships. They also tend to provide for their children in practical ways, but fail to meet their emotional needs.

We also have Calling Home listener questions about this same topic, including coping with 'the silent treatment' and the fear of becoming like them.

Awareness of one's own trauma can prevent the repetition of harmful patterns.

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Whitney discusses the issue of 'sharenting' or oversharing children's lives on social media with guest Sarah Adams. Sarah is a mother of two, and she argues that this practice can be a form of child exploitation, as it often involves sharing children's experiences with a large and potentially dangerous audience for entertainment purposes. She wants parents to reconsider the impact this could have on their children's future and their right to privacy.

Sarah also discusses the different categories of parents who overshare, including new parents, 'medical mamas' who share their children's medical information, and those who seek online popularity. She advises parents to reflect on their sharing practices and to treat their children as autonomous human beings rather than props for content.

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