Bumps Along the Way

Miscarriage. You know how common it is, you know the risks, and yet you still don’t really think it will happen to you. At least I didn’t. And although we go through a similar experience, miscarriage can mean something immensely different to everyone. That is why I felt it was important to do this episode.

6 months on since our miscarriage, I definitely didn't think we would still be here, with no positive pregnancy test half a year later. But I now feel like enough time has passed for me to revisit it and talk about it openly.

To help me navigate this conversation, I invited back two of the most supportive women I had the luck of speaking with during my own miscarriage.

• Dr Sarah Farrell - a GP with a special interest in women’s health, fertility, pregnancy and contraception and mother of 3.
• Robine Padberg-Hill - a psychotherapist specialising with women in perinatal and mother.

During this special episode, we discuss:

• My personal experience with miscarriage, and how it played out.
• Pregnant is pregnant! No matter how early on your miscarriage was, you have the right to grieve that loss.
• The mismatch between the experience we are going through and the response we may get from our healthcare provider.
• The different types of miscarriage - primarily spontaneous complete, threatened (incomplete) miscarriage, missed miscarriage.
• The various emotional reactions people may go through depending on how their miscarriage plays out.
• Reasons for miscarriage (spoiler alert: there probably was no reason!)
• Why we are saying no to the “12 week rule" !!
• Ways to manage miscarriage - expectant management (watch and wait), medical management, surgical intervention (D&C).
• What happens post miscarriage?
• The stages of grief - shock, denial, bargaining, anger, depression, acceptance, and hope.
• The importance of community, sharing and talking about our experiences.
• Ways we can learn to talk about miscarriage.
• How you can support a friend or family member who suffering a miscarriage.
• How couples can help each other through miscarriage.
• Normalising that the grieving process can be different between partners.
• Resources to find support.

As always, I hope this episode falls into the ears of anyone who needs it.

xx

Anna

RESOURCES FROM EPISODE TEN:

• Pink Elephant - miscarriage and early pregnancy loss support - https://www.pinkelephants.org.au/
• Sands Australia - miscarriage, stillbirth, and newborn death support - https://www.sands.org.au/
• PSI - https://www.postpartum.net/
• How do you help grieving friend - YouTube video
• Darling Shine Podcast
• Hilary Metcalfe's Guide to Navigating Miscarriage - https://thesabi.co/blogs/conscious-collective/guide-to-navigating-miscarriage

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Ever since we started struggling to conceive, I have had the feeling something is not right. Maybe it's the yoga keeping me in touch with my body, maybe it's all the journalling and self-reflection. Maybe it's just gut instinct. But no matter that it was, we finally got the answers we have been looking for after a visit to a fertility clinic in Belgium.

With any diagnosis, it can be a lot to process. So I chatted with my long-time friend and fertility midwife Tor Chivers about our recent tests, procedures and results. Together we unpack the blood tests, MRI and hysteroscopy procedures that brought us to the diagnosis that helps to explain the reason I have struggled to fall (and stay) pregnant. Also, my husband learns his sperm quality has been low, another important reminder that in fertility, it really is 50/50!

The bumps in the road are not over for us. The treatment begins and that will bring its own set of challenges. But, we feel eternally grateful to have answers knowing so many people out there are still searching for theirs. If this is you, I'm sending so much love, and urge you to keep pushing your healthcare providers to look deeper.

xx

Anna

If you would like to learn more about any of the discussed topics, I have found the following links particularly helpful:

AMH

https://www.littleangelivf.com/blog/fertility/amh-test-normal-range-and-amh-levels/

Dysmorphic (T-shaped) uterus and my up-coming metroplasty

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/34319061/

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/31146029/

Decapeptyl injections

https://www.medicines.org.uk/emc/files/pil.963.pdf

https://www.news-medical.net/drugs/Decapeptyl.aspx

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It's difficult to truly capture Jen's story.

Coming off birth control, post-pill amenorrhea from the iud, being pressured to conceive because of her age, multiple rounds of failed IVF, thyroid dysfunction, blocked fallopian tubes, chronic insomnia, hormones, medication, sleeping pills, covid, lockdown, secondary infertility, miscarriage, pregnancy loss, D&C.

There's not much Jen didn't experience on her extremely bumpy road to motherhood. Twice.

Jen's story is a reminder that no matter how tough things get, no matter how many months drag by, no matter how many negative pregnancy tests or failed rounds or lack of answers, there is always hope.

Better have some tissues handy!

xx

Anna

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Connect with Jen:

• Website - Elements Pilates Yoga
• Youtube @elementpilatesyoga
• Instagram @jen.elementspilatesyoga

More about Elements Pilates Yoga:

Element Pilates & Yoga supports your journey to motherhood through tailored, online Pilates + Yoga programs. Jen's aim is to work with your cycle & assist with natural conception or where needed, we also guide you through assisted fertility cycles and IVF.

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"Eat a balanced diet."

"Eat the rainbow."

"Eat healthy."

When it comes to eating for fertility and pregnancy, there is so much vague, conflicting and outdated advice out there. Plant based vs meat based. Yes or no to intermittent fasting? Do I really have to give up my beloved coffee!?

When I did fall pregnant back in January, I set out to uncover what specifically a healthy and balanced diet means via research that is science-based and modern. And that's how I came across Brooke Boskovich.

Brooke became passionate about women's health and fertility after her own struggles with irregular cycles, autoimmune diseases, gut troubles and fertility. Brooke is a Registered Dietitian and functional & integrative practitioner. Founder of the Fertility Blueprint Program, she specialises in helping couples optimise their fertility and take home healthy babies.

During this conversation, Brooke explains the pillars that form the foundation of fertility: nutrition, movement, stress, sleep and environment.

We also discuss:

• Common household products that can be harmful for fertility (hot tip: it might be time to toss your plastic containers and scented candles!)
• What specifically to avoid when eating for pregnancy
• And real, specific examples of what an optimal diet looks like whilst trying to conceive

Make sure you have a pen and paper handy for this episode!!

xx

Anna

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RESOURCES FROM EP 6:

Real Food for Pregnancy - a book I read when I fell pregnant that changed a lot of my views on how to eat before and during pregnancy.

D-Minder - app that tells you the ideal time for vitamin D exposure based on your location.

Contact Brooke:

• Website - thefertilitydietician.health
• Blog - https://www.thefertilitydietitian.health/blog
• Instagram @the.fertility.dietician
• Enrol in the Fertility Blueprint Program

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Sometimes the "bump" in the road to pregnancy and parenthood is not what we assume it is.

Sometimes, it has nothing to do with fertility at all.

What would you do, if during your late 20's your long-term relationship ended and your dream of becoming a Mother suddenly feels very far away?

What happens when, while you're building an incredible life for yourself, the dream of being a Mother doesn't leave you?

How long do you give yourself before taking a leap of faith and making the brave decision to become a single Mum?

And, once that decision is made, how do you become a single Mom? What are the steps involved?

This is exactly what my inspirational former colleague Astrid Beekhuis went through when she reached the age of 35 and said out loud for the first time, "I want to become a single Mom."

In this episode of Bumps Along the Way, Astrid, an HR professional from the Netherlands, shares her inspiring story to become a single Mom by choice. We discuss how she weighed up and eventually made the decision, who she went to for support and community, the process itself, and how life as a single Mom has been for her.

I am blown away by Astrid's bravery, honesty, and vulnerability and am so grateful she trusted me to share her story.

xx

Anna

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RESOURCES FROM EP 5:

• Cryos International Sperm Bank - https://www.cryosinternational.com/
• 'Geen partner, wel een kinderwens' by Barbara Lammerts Van Bueren - the book on becoming a single mom (in Dutch) that Astrid read while she was making her decision

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