099-Self-sabotage - Buddhism in daily lifew

07/10/22 • 6 min

Buddhism in daily life - Mindfulness in every day tasks

Self-sabotage

Who doesn't know it, the stupid feeling when you stand in your own way. Sometimes this even happens intentionally, self-sabotage happens more often than we think, just when thoughts make your life harder.

For example, when we say YES but think NO, we do everything possible to sabotage the YES, even at the risk of harming ourselves.

Such behavior is harmful, and not really appropriate for the Buddha's followers, since the great teacher taught us to look behind the scenes.

But whoever thinks about such behavior comes to the conclusion that he should better say NO right away, that is, he should not tell a lie, because the result is already clear, the thinking individual must be aware of it as a consequence.

To stand in our own way is normal, not all our decisions can be right, but the conscious self-sabotage, that is a completely different kind of quality in our emotional actions. Emotions pull us in different directions, it is not always easy to recognize the right way.

And the truth also requires a good portion of courage, which is why we often say YES, but mean NO. When was the last time you dared to tell an annoying person what you think, not to let them get away with their nonsense? We don't want to say unpleasant things!

But if you have the courage to talk about annoying problems, you will probably belong to the group of more successful people, because in order to assert yourself, you have to get to the point.

What do I want, what do I need? These are the kind of questions that awakened people no longer ask themselves, but on the way to "enlightenment" you will find the normal stumbling blocks of interpersonal relationships.

Especially the "feel-good Buddhists" don't want to hurt their environment, just make things worse (in the long run) with technology. For my part, I always address the things that bother me right away, I don't leave anything in the room simply out of convenience, not because I want to assert myself, but because I want to be such a role model for my environment, honest but uncomfortable, not ducking away, but also professing the philosophy of the great teacher.

Many people suffer unnecessarily because they do not have the strength to do the right thing at the right moment. Here I would like to refer to the noble eightfold path of the Buddha, which begins with: Right cognition, right mind, then right speech and right action.

The way is also here the goal!

Wise men know: Desire does not satisfy even golden rain

Buddha - "The Enlightened One" - honorary name of Siddharta Gautama - 560 to 480

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Self-sabotage

For example, when we say YES but think NO, we do everything possible to sabotage the YES, even at the risk of harming ourselves.

Such behavior is harmful, and not really appropriate for the Buddha's followers, since the great teacher taught us to look behind the scenes.

But if you have the courage to talk about annoying problems, you will probably belong to the group of more successful people, because in order to assert yourself, you have to get to the point.

The way is also here the goal!

Wise men know: Desire does not satisfy even golden rain

Buddha - "The Enlightened One" - honorary name of Siddharta Gautama - 560 to 480

(Please also download my app "Buddha-Blog English" from the Apple and Android stores)

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Gifts to my self part 4

Have you already read the first parts of my series "Gifts to my ego" click. Read on here:

14. friendships

If you really want to give yourself a gift, you should cherish your friendships, take care of your friends, their concerns, their lives. But you should also build up a friendship with your own self, look at yourself in the mirror with goodwill, consciously pay attention to your voice, take yourself "in your arms", do everything possible to reduce all possible aversions against yourself in any case, if possible build up friendship and even self-love. Only those who are at peace with themselves can set out on the path to enlightenment, emulate the Buddha, follow. Treat yourself at least as well as you treat your best friend, give yourself the gift.

15. happiness

Probably the most important gift that you can give yourself, that is happiness, because you are on a good path, on the pathless path, towards the goalless gate, where a landless land awaits all those who have awakened in time, who have not allowed themselves to be blinded, who have renounced suffering because they have made the decision to do so. Happiness is a spiritual emotion that cannot be bought, cannot be given away, cannot be inherited, cannot be earned. Those who have learned to truly let go are already very close to awakening, they will experience all-encompassing happiness. Because happiness is due to us humans, it is a prerogative of those who do not want or desire more, who have come to terms with fate, because they can't change anything about it anyway. Take from the everyday things of life your happiest moments, enjoy the flowers by the wayside, the little hugs, the warmth of the air, the coolness of the breeze, the taste of the food, trivial things that you often just take for granted.

16. a pure mind

Your mind should be like a beautiful garden, pure and pleasing, always tended, full of flowers, trees and shrubs, in the center a small temple with an enchanting statue of the Teacher of all Teachers, mindful people meeting in the temple complex imaginatively built in your mind palace.

Thoughts here are the seeds that plan, nurture and cherish the complex, bad thoughts make the complex decay, good ones improve the ensemble, depending on the mindset, a work of art or a cellar hole is created.

Take care of the purity of your mind, of the garden, of the buildings, build a temple in your thought palace, give yourself peace.

The path is the goal!

Those who live on right food, who are not bound to any property, who find their noble home in the incomprehensible emptiness, whose way is hard to fathom like a bird's path in the air.

Buddha - "The Enlightened One" - honorary name of Siddharta Gautama - 560 to 480

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100-The universe and us - Buddhism in daily life

The universe and us

Our spiritual expectations are great, we like to talk about the universe, we occasionally see ourselves as part of it, but we are immensely afraid of the infinite vastness, of the areas that no human being has ever entered, at least that's what we think.

The pure being is already a mystery, we, our ego, the personality that represents us, the ego, nothing of it we understand even in the beginning, the universe not even in fragments.

But with the Buddhist teaching we can leave behind the human dimension, become one with the great emptiness, whoever recognizes his true Buddha nature can have a deep experience with being, live through all the dimensions of life in all its diversity, leave behind the relative life, turn towards the light that seems dark.

If we want to be unified beings, then we should find our way to the Buddha's path, explore the depth of existences, experience true meaning. But those who prefer to run after material things will probably miss the fork in the road, will not give the necessary meaning to the little things.

Because nothing really makes sense, who adheres to the philosophy of Buddha knows about the singularity, who has escaped the chaos, has left suffering behind. We humans do not have to suffer, if we want to, we simply stop doing so.

But the one who shies away from deep experience will not come to the right place, will not make the appropriate perception, because he/she only wants to satisfy the senses, goes after the transient cravings, is too busy to even begin to comprehend the truth of his/her own existence.

Too much the underlying clarity then makes fear, the fears are omnipresent, then nevertheless still fast with alcohol or drugs "the distance" look for, anesthetize themselves, only not think about everything.

But when life feels right, then the dominoes fall as if by themselves, the incarnation and the cosmos become one, the enlightened state can hardly be described now. In harmony with the environment, with being, with the personality, a tremendous feeling of happiness, which leaves everything material far behind, cannot be compared with the short intoxication.

The meaning of life, which everyone talks about, was clearly named by the teacher of all teachers many centuries ago in his philosophy, over the times many people listened to his explanations, followed him on the way to personal "enlightenment", no longer wanted to suffer, to leave human destiny behind.

Life receives meaning through knowledge, the way there is the goal!

Rarely only a great one appears and does not appear all the time

Buddha - "The Enlightened One" - honorary name of Siddharta Gautama - 560 to 480

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