Big Hormone Enneagram

Dearly beloved / we’re gathered here today / to love through this thing called instinct

— (2:59) We make our dominant instinct a religion / how we manipulate what love is through our dominant instinct
— (5:47) Integrating the social instinct’s verbal-contextual expressions of love / Alexandra’s ‘love cup’ religion propaganda
— (15:03) Zooming out and talking about the relationship meets non-negotiable needs of love / sp/sx wants a smaller and smaller intimacy cave
— (21:09) Overcoming the fear of the blindspot instinct / the analogy of social as light / ’socially slutty’
— (30:47) Social is seeing yourself as a three dimensional human. Personality and character traits, not just your utility.
— (35:53) Alexandra’s war on the sexual instinct and the soc-blinds
— (42:12) The toxicity of sexual instinct attraction
— (48:32) We could develop something like a instinct composite/synastry chart / let’s flesh out love languages for instincts

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We’re talking about love, relationships, and sex again.

— (4:34) Friendship jealousy and what causes it
— (13:38) The tension between expecting too much from a romantic partner and not expecting much at all
— (17:05) Western isolation puts more pressure on romantic relationships
— (20:25) The need to be seen in a relationship and what it means
— (24:26) All About Love by bell hooks defines love as an action to prioritize the other’s well-being
— (32:06) We can only love or see an other to the degree that we can see and care for our own well-being
— (38:44) Putting yourself aside for an other vs not being a doormat or codependent simp
— (44:38) Self-love and knowing how to set boundaries is an important aspect of loving an other
— (49:30) Learning to date and talk to the potential sex partners

Check out Alexandra’s astrology-enneagram offerings at her new website https://www.saturnruled9.com

Check out John and Josh’s new formal enneagram school. And sign up for their first class — A Developmental View of the Centers at https://www.theenneagramschool.com/first-offering

Get John’s book on the instinctual drives on amazon or barnesandnoble and attend his weekly study group:
https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T

https://www.johnluckovich.com/the-study-group

DAA — Becoming more fluent in the language of the enneagram to see types more clearly. Watch recent classes on 3 vs 6, 3 vs 9, the DJ trifix special. And get typed at https://www.enneagrammer.com/daa

Buy David’s Trifix Booklet here:
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Courtney is with us this week to work her magic on rejection.

— (4:43) Courtney is here to bring the pain and hear rejection types suffer / What’s been opening up for Emeka?
— (8:49) How rejection types set the dynamic up so it doesn’t work — a pre-rejection frame
— (13:10) Courtney gives a recap/overview of object relations and why it matters
— (15:02) Our O.R. is a blueprint for how relationships need to be setup in order for us to feel like a person
— (16:24) What separates rejection from attachment & frustration is the cutting off from awareness of the original wound and preemptively shutting down the possibility of being touched there again
— (22:44) You reject something by over-affirming and leaning into its opposite
— (31:19) 8s seek out vulnerability and heartfulness in others not because it activates their heart, but because the dynamic reinforces what the 8 structure is already reinforcing
— (36:29) Emeka realizing that as long as attraction is framed within the experience he’s activating then rejection can’t happen on the basis of heart to heart connection
— (40:02) The rejection types are aware that their definition of personhood is a fraction of whole and therefore feel separate and unable to meet others fully
— (42:22) Why do rejection types seek out relationships?
— (47:36) Aloneness as a baseline for rejection types

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Julie of Riverbend Coaching is here with us to explore the archetypal feminine.

— (6:48) Why and how Julie connected the archetypal feminine and the enneagram’s 3 centers
— (9:04) The feminine in the body center — sacred form / the fertile matrix
— (14:45) The feminine in nature is an uncontrollable force that gives life
— (15:24) Could the goddesses be connected to the types?
— (19:59) The patriarchy compartmentalizes and the goddesses can both be sexual and nurturing
— (21:21) Developing the feminine: Being more in your senses and open to the experience / welcome the shadow / don’t seek certainty or stasis
— (25:42) The patriarchy perpetuates a lack of being in touch with oneself and the natural cycles of the feminine
— (33:19) The feminine invites you into the beauty of life in all the senses and the creation of new things
— (36:52) How a linear directional point of view is applied to inner work vs the unfolding nature of allowing inner work to envelope your consciousness
— (41:41) A short guided breath practice to experience the masculine and feminine
— (49:41) Abundant heart — to be able to be fully with whatever’s happening and the threshold of what’s next
— (54:30) There’s no growth in an unwounded life / the feminine welcomes the vulnerability of being wounded
— (1:03:24) When we allow ourselves to experience grief it moves and ends up connecting us to what we love

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DAA — Learn how to see with the eyes of the enneagram. Watch recent typing classes on 9 and 6 wings, dark 7s, rejection fixes. And get typed at enneagrammer.com

Buy David’s Trifix Booklet here:
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The fuming and stewing gut types.

— (4:03) Alexandra wants to be led when she’s in the mood
— (9:05) David is very angry at the sun
— (16:49) And the plague of bread people
— (20:35) Alexandra finally admits she has a rage problem
— (30:30) Emeka’s rage is the fuel that keeps the car running people over
— (34:25) 8 vs 1 fix anger and boundaries / the games begin once the 8 lets you in
— (42:41) 4s and 8s are drama queen inversions of each other
— (45:59) The cutting denigrating rage of 1s
— (50:02) 1s think they know the one best way to do everything

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DAA — Become dangerously perceptive and skilled at seeing types clearly. Watch recent classes on Snobby vs Peopley, Reactive types, and 7w6 vs 6w7. Join to watch typing classes: https://www.enneagrammer.com/daa

Check out Alexandra’s astrology-enneagram readings and content at her new website https://www.saturnruled9.com

Rediscover the centers of intelligence and object relations with John and Josh’s 6-part class https://www.theenneagramschool.com/developmental-centers

Get John’s book on the instinctual drives on amazon or barnesandnoble:
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