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180: Wheel of Consent – Dr. Betty Martin
Better Sex
06/07/21 • 31 min
Why is it important to be selfish sometimes?
While giving to your partner and thinking about their needs is an important part of the sexual relationship, being stuck in that position and being deprived of your own needs is not sustainable. It’s an opportunity taken away from your partner to give, and an opportunity that you are missing to receive. The relationship becomes strained when your partner has to figure out what to give, and things only become worse when they do it wrong. There has to be a balance of giving and receiving.
Dr. Betty’s Wheel of Consent takes apart the acts of giving and receiving and allows each aspect to be examined individually. In real life, it is not necessary to do these things one at a time, but this practice allows you and your partner to understand each other’s needs.
Why are we so poorly equipped to receive?
The reason that we’re programmed to not receive touch as we are supposed to, is because we assume receiving to be ‘done to’ us. Since touch is given to us, we assume that we’re supposed to like it, and from that, confusion arises about what’s wrong with us for not liking it. According to Dr Betty, this confusion began during our childhood when things happened that we didn’t like. Things such as changing diapers, noses being wiped, being picked up, going to bed early; our bodies were taught that there was nothing that we could do about it.
Since then, this dislike has been reinforced by things ‘being done to us against our will in ways that we didn’t like or didn’t want’. On the other hand, we keep giving ‘touch’ in a way that we think other people like without ever asking how they’d like to be touched, either because it’s an awkward conversation to have, or because the thought to ask has never occurred to us.
How can people get better at giving and receiving?
For one to get better at giving and receiving, Betty suggests going through her book and following the processes stated in the book, beginning with the 3-Minute Game. In this game, one must give to their partner for three minutes, and then their partner must give to them for three minutes. She suggests starting with areas that don’t feel too sexy so that you can give yourself space to notice those areas and ask for what you want. Over time the game becomes more natural, and every time you play, you can discover something new about what you like or what you don’t like. More than touching itself, observing what you want and asking for it is key.
Negotiating Boundaries and Limits
Dr. Betty urges people to say no without adding any polite justification if they don’t feel comfortable doing something. If you’re not entirely against the idea, she suggests negotiating the parts you want to do and the parts you don’t want to with your partner, such as telling your partner to touch an area, but not tickle it. She emphasizes the importance of setting limits. By setting those limits, you can be playful within those limits without the worry that your partner is going to do something you don’t like.
She encourages people to listen for the ‘pull and not the push’ while considering their partner’s request. If they suggest something edgy, you can decide to try it if it feels like it could be fun, even though it’s edgy. However, if you’re telling yourself to do it simply because you don’t want to let your partner down, then it’s better to simply say no.
Biography
Dr. Betty Martin has had her hands on people professionally for over 40 years as a chiropractor, and upon retiring from that practice, became a certified Surrogate Partner, Sacred Intimate and Somatic Sex Educator. Her explorations in somatic-based therapy and practices informed her and allowed for her creation of the framework, The Wheel of Consent®.
As part of her work with the School of Consent, Betty travels around the world, teaching practitioners how to create empowered agreements in their client sessions in her highly sought-after training, “Like A Pro: The Wheel of Consent for Practitioners.” Originally developed as an offering to teach much-needed consent skills to sex workers and touch providers, this training is now attended by somatic therapists, massage therapists, sexuality educators, medical and health care workers, activists, human resources folks, and the spectrum of touch-based professional providers – all of whom complete the training with a clear understanding of how consent starts with our own bodies, and then expands outwards into all forms of human relating, with or without touch.
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07/27/20 • 51 min
1. Being totally absorbed in the moment
2. Sharing a connection with your partner
3. Deep sexual and erotic intimacy
4. High levels of empathic communication
5. Fun, laughter, exploration and good risk-taking
6. Authenticity
7. Vulnerability
8. Transcendence
Her findings show that people begin to seek these experiences around their mid 50’s. Part of the process of discovery is unlearning much of what we know about sex growing up. Spontaneity arises as one of the behaviors to “unlearn “ as Peggy candidly shares her views on this.
Anyone can get there!
Peggy has found that people with chronic illnesses are enjoying magnificent sex! In an unexpected twist of events, Peggy’s co-workers proved that presumed stereotypes are false. She shares that consent is a major piece of the puzzle and contributes to empathic communication.
Peggy educates us about moving from good to magnificent sex explaining that getting to know each other on an ongoing basis builds trust to explore deeper levels of your relationship.
We learn about differentiation and how it impacts reaching optimal sexual experiences while identifying that therapy has to be customized to each individual.
To reach for the optimal sexual experience goal, Peggy highlights that respect for each other is crucial.
Resources and Links
Website: http://www.optimalsexualexperiences.com
Book: Magnificent Sex: Lessons from Extraordinary Lovers (http://routledge.com/9780367181376)
Background
Peggy J. Kleinplatz, Ph.D., is a Professor in the Faculty of Medicine and Director of Sex and Couples Therapy Training at the University of Ottawa, Canada. She was awarded the Prix d?Excellence in 2000 for her teaching of Human Sexuality. She is a Certified Sex Therapist and Educator.
She is the Director of the Optimal Sexual Experiences Research Team of the University of Ottawa and has a particular interest in sexual health in the elderly, disabled, and marginalized populations.
Kleinplatz has edited four books, notably New Directions in Sex Therapy:
Innovations and Alternatives (2012), winner of the AASECT 2013 Book Award,
Sadomasochism: Powerful Pleasures with Charles Moser, Ph.D., M.D. (2006)
Sexuality and Ageing with Walter Bouman, M.D. (2015).
She is the author with A. Dana Menard, Ph.D. of Magnificent Sex: Lessons from Extraordinary Lovers
In 2015, Kleinplatz received the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists Professional Standard of Excellence Award.
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#34: Katie Zvolerin - Adam & Eve
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08/21/18 • 22 min
Listen in as Katy discusses how Adam & Eve started out. She mentions it was just a thesis requirement to complete the founder Phil Harvey’s Master’s Degree.
Being part of the hippie generation, he believed in sexual liberation. She tells us about how Phil challenged the government by publishing ads in newspapers offering condoms - intentionally contravening the law. This catalyst created financial momentum for the business.
Aside from contraceptives, Adam & Eve started adding sexually-oriented items like DVDs, sex toys, and lingerie.
Sex Education for Yourself and Others
When Katy started working for Adam & Eve, it was a liberating experience for her. Coming from a little town in Tennessee, where talking about anything sex-related is taboo. At her work, she learned that women also enjoy sex and sex it isn’t just for men.
Sex toys have a significant purpose not just for fun and titillation, it should be very therapeutic for everyone.
As a personal accomplishment, Katy is currently working on her Sex Education Certificate from AASECT to educate herself and others about sex, pleasure, and everything in between.
Having two teenage daughters, Katy ensures that she cultivates a healthy understanding of sex in their home. Tune in to learn how she manages this.
Not as Easy as You Think!
Katy shares her experience as a copywriter for a retailer of sex toys, erotica, etc. After writing for a catalog and the web, Katy looks back as the experience as challenging in terms of balancing the content along with an edgy and light-hearted vein.
Katy shares her unique take on sex toys, highlighting what made every item different.
Join in to hear Katy recollect how her mornings started in the office. While most of us indulge in a good coffee, she used to indulge in an erotica DVD, then start writing! Not the usual life of a copywriter, indeed.
Statistics
Adam & Eve does their research to make sure their customers are satisfied. Join in as Katy shares the changing statistics over the years, with the number of women and couples shopping at Adam & Eve up by 30% from 10%.
We hear that g-spot toys are still best sellers ( no surprises there!!) but a keen interest is growing around the new generation toys available around the act of cunnilingus today.
What Makes Adam & Eve Different From Their Competitors?
Katy emphasizes that Adam & Eve is the most reputable adult retailer in America since 1971. You will be pleased to know that they offer a 100% money back guarantee on their sex toys- all of which undergo a rigorous review process.
Listen in to take advantage of Katy’s special offer to Better Sex Podcast listeners! Head on to Adam & Eve site and enter the code Katy shares to get a 50% discount on almost any item!
About Katy Zvolerin
Katy Zvolerin is currently the Director of Public Relations at Adam & Eve, America’s largest and most known distributor of adult toys and other sex needs.
Katy’s a graduate of the University of Tennessee, Knoxville with a B.S. in Journalism and Public Relations. After working for Maytag and in publishing in New York, she started working at Adam & Eve in November of 1993 as a catalog copywriter. She, then, got promoted to Adam & Eve Director of Public Relations in 1997.
She has received certification in Clinical Sexology and holds an Associate in Sex Education from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. She is also currently working towards her Sex Education Certification from AASECT (the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists).
Links and How to Contact Katy Zvolerin
Follow Katy on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/katy-zvolerin-18b23818/
Shop at Adam & Eve and use the code "Better50" for 50% discount: https://www.adameve.com/
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01/13/20 • 43 min
What is Sexological Bodywork?
When asked to define the term, Charlie says that sexological bodywork is “somatic education in erotic embodiment.” To further break this down, he sums it up as follows: the central focus is on the somatic aspects – the body.
Education, in the context of sexological bodywork, is achieved when his clients leave a session with more knowledge and experience than they had coming in. This is a huge goal of the practice.
Erotic embodiment encompasses erotic activity, but also, it adds staying present and truly “embodying” the eroticism in the moment, in all moments, that it happens.
The Power of Flirting
Charlie shares interesting insights on a couple who struggled to discern each other’s sexual signals. When speaking to the wife, Charlie asked her to practice flirting with him, in a professional capacity, during one of their one-on-one sessions. After doing so, Charlie said that it was hard to tell she was even doing so because her body signals were not doing the communicating for her. Instead of feeling rejected by her husband, she realized her husband probably had no idea when she was flirting. This also turned out to be the case on the opposite end of the spectrum: the husband was wary about flirting because he didn’t feel like his wife was all that into him.
Consent Considerations
Charlie says that his practice factors in consent as one of the most important facets of bodywork. To that extent, Charlie will not do any bodywork unless the client lays out exactly what they are ready to do that day. There should be no guesswork when it comes to consent, and he says it’s always a good thing when boundaries are established and there’s enough trust and accountability so that the client can immediately say “no” and be respected in that wish.
The Many Areas of Sexological Bodywork
Charlie gives an overview of all of the areas he focuses on as a sexological bodyworker. These focal points range from asking for consent, telling your partner what you want, maintaining boundaries, managing shame and rejection triggers if your partner says no to sex, and pleasure mapping.
Charlie also works with clients who have experienced or are experiencing trauma, with the goal of getting back to a healthy state of equilibrium despite those traumas. Additionally, he works with those who have gone through considerable transitions in their lives: hysterectomies, gender transitions, postpartum mothers, and a wide range of circumstances that contribute to a diverse sampling of sexological bodywork needs.
How do Prospective Patients Know When They’re Ready for Bodywork?
Charlie says that if the idea of bodywork sounds a little too intimidating or scary, sexological bodywork might not be right for you. He says it could be that you just need to talk to a sex therapist or a practitioner and ask some questions to test the waters out. And because there are so many specialists in the profession, it really does help to do a little bit of research on various practitioners to see if what they offer and the testimonials they provide speak to your personal experience
Charlie says it’s completely normal to feel nervous about going to a sexological bodyworker. If you aren’t a little bit nervous, you probably don’t need what he or she has to offer, as he says in the episode. But overall, it can be an immensely powerful practice that you should definitely look into!
Resources for Charlie:
Charlie’s Website: http://www.makesexeasy.com/
https://sexologicalbodyworkers.org/
Betty Martin’s Wheel of consent video: https://bettymartin.org/videos/
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90: Susan Bratton – Sexual Vitality
Better Sex
09/16/19 • 37 min
In this episode, in particular, she shares her experience with sexual vitality and the summit she is spearheading in September (September 23-29, 2019). Within this talk, she also shares some insights into intimacy issues and basic remedies for those disconnects between couples of all dynamics.
Really useful, informative stuff. And I’d recommend that you check out the many resources that Susan has put out there!
How She Got So Passionate About Her Career
Susan got her start as a publisher for sex techniques. She was inspired to continue pursuing this avenue because she started to see much more pornography than actual positive tips for more satisfying, engaging sex.
In addition, she and her husband were taking workshops and tantric classes trying to ensure that their sex life was healthy and fully engaging. In that process, she reinforced her passion for sex and helping others find great sex. She and her husband actually started their company once they had learned enough to reinvigorate their sex life.
Roadblocks for Intimacy and Their Solutions
Susan says that after asking and having people fill out surveys, there were hundreds of different answers towards intimacy problems. About 15% of them were related to trauma; others were the products of physical hurdles: from diabetes and heart disease to painful sex for women and erectile dysfunction for men.
When approaching how she would address this wide array of intimacy issues, she came to the logical conclusion that a Sexual Vitality Summit with a diverse panel of experts was the way to cover all bases.
And then she also came up with the Magic Pill Method to spark a dialogue between people and get them to open up about their intimacy troubles.
The Life Stages of Sexuality
During the talk, the subject of age-specific intimacy issues came up. And usually the younger couples struggle with a lack of information and experience, and they aren’t communicating as openly as they should be on the subject.
Middle age is usually more varied when it comes to intimacy problems: with children, careers, neglect, complacency, and physical issues being responsible.
And as Susan reminds us, sex can just keep getting better and better. In fact, most 60-year olds are probably having the best sex they’ve ever had because of the experience levels and the acceptance of old age. There comes a point where sexual self-consciousness and intimacy issues are replaced with more grounded sex.
Couples Heal Each Other
Susan states that most healing work is done together with your partner. It’s a very involved process that incorporates not just yourself but your partner(s) as well.
She also says that it can be challenging to connect with a partner who has been programmed (so to speak) through cultural means that sex has a linear function. Susan states that younger couples are less prone to these fixed behaviors and mindsets derived from environmental and familial factors.
This is very common and applicable to LGTBTQ dynamics as well.
How Your Gut Microbiome Affects Your Intimacy
Susan states that the foods we ingest, the water we drink, the cleaning products we use, lotions we rub on our skin, and much more, all affect our gut microbiome.
And after all, our gut is closely correlated with our libido. Physical vitality is inextricably linked with gut health, which really is an overall precursor to a healthy body. So probiotics and an emphasis on better nutrition really is essential for better sex.
If you feel bad, you definitely won’t want to have sex. Sometimes it’s as simple as that. She goes into much more depth within the episode itself; be sure to check it out!
Key Links for Susan:
Website for the Sexual Vitality Summit: https://moresexualvitality.com/
Her books: https://susanbratton.com/books/
Personal Website (for all resources): https://susanbratton.com/
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06/18/19 • 55 min
This episode largely deals with men (with female birthing partners) and the influences that childbirth and post-childbirth time periods can have, not just physically but psychologically as well.
Sexual attraction and desire might actually diminish after watching their female partner give birth, relationship dynamics can change, and there are a myriad more things to consider from the male perspective as well.
This talk spans a wide array of very important facets of the subject–all of which is driven by Dr. Amy’s expert insight.
Inspirations and Influences for Amy’s Involvement in the Work
Amy says that she grew up in an environment that was largely women, so she never had a very concrete understanding of men.
Due to her line of work, she was witness to this abrupt shift from men being absent from the delivery room to them all of a sudden becoming staples of labor support. This means that men were all of a sudden relied on to give steady labor support with no questions asked and no real training.
So, as most males are wired to do, they are left with the difficult prospect of wanting to fix the pain of their spouse but are powerless to do so. That can weigh heavy on the hearts of most men. And not a lot of medical professionals have the time to ask crucial questions about how men are feeling during the delivery.
Hormonal Differences in Sexes Pertaining to Childbirth Response
As Dr. Amy states, there are some markedly different aspects between the sexes regarding hormonal response to childbirth. So, not only are there anatomical differences, but also hormonal differences. A woman will experience a rush of oxytocin to combat stress or labor, whereas a male partner will not.
Dr. Amy talks more about this during the episode. Listen in!
The Support System Needs Support Too!
When looking at the research, a lot of fathers respond very well to support from a doula. And support, in general, is good for lessening the chance and effects of PTSD that can accompany afterward.
In addition, Dr. Amy says that the more men are involved in the decision-making process surrounding birth, the more likely they are going to feel like they have some sort of control. This lack of control, as well as lack of answers during the chaos of childbirth, can adversely affect the physiology (stress response) but also the psychology of the male (PTSD).
The Challenges of Asking for Help
As Amy says, the medical world is largely patriarchal. But this is not so in the birth realm, which is largely matriarchal. Some men are comfortable within more female spaces and others are not. And on top of this, having to ask for help within a female-dominant place can make some men feel uncomfortable, so within the delivery room, men can feel very powerless.
And of course, this powerlessness can manifest itself with PTSD and similar experiences.
The Brain’s Response to the Invasive Aspects of Childbirth
As Dr. Amy says, we are supposed to act like cervical checks are normal proceedings for our brains to comprehend. But for a male, it can be a strange experience to see multiple cervical checks by multiple doctors, not to mention the other invasive medical procedures on top of this. The aftereffects, no matter how common the practice, can still be traumatic for men, even if not felt in the most concrete ways.
The Importance of a Doula
Because men often feel like they need to be a protective role during labor, a doula can be essential for calming down and explaining to the male everything that’s going on. So often, it boils down to the man not knowing enough during birth. This lack of knowledge leads to anxiety and stress. A doula or knowledgeable friend is indispensable in this way.
And because men typically go into these births with only a few hours of labor support education, they are vastly unprepared for what they are told is their responsibility as a support system. Amy thinks that men are often expected to perform the same way as an experienced doula; she says that is a huge burden to bear for a guy.
Advice for Dads Who Are Experiencing Sexual Difficulties
She says that admitting a sexual difficulty, first and foremost, is key. For the male, you need to communicate your difficulty. This is not to blame the baby, but just unpack the birth and how you felt about the whole experience.
After acknowledging your feelings, then talk about it with someone is knowledgeable about childbirth. Talking to another man who has been through childbirth is also helpful as well for fully relating to the experience before any lasting trauma may set in.
But this is just the tip of the iceberg of all that was discussed in thi...
06/22/20 • 47 min
Dr. Shy describes Jewish law as a corpus of Jewish religious requirements. He explains that every aspect of life has regulations to help Jews proceed through life. He discloses that there are disputes within the Jewish community about who can interpret Jewish law, leading to different sects of Judaism being formed, each with their own practices. Dr. Krug reminds us that he can only share his own interpretation and some alternate views he’s encountered personally and professionally.
The Spirituality of Sex in Judaism
The doctor describes Judaism as a sex-positive religion that appreciates the human body and human experiences. He emphasizes that Judaism encourages its adherents to elevate the mundane and the physical to the holy through thoughtfulness, intentionality, and restriction. He says Judaism contains many laws and restrictions on sex that are meant to transform a potentially carnal act into a holy union that increases both people’s connection to each other and to God. He tells us that in the Jewish view, conceiving a child is an act involving three people: the man, the woman, and God.
He counters this interpretation of Jewish law by describing smaller, rarer sects that see sex as a necessary evil that should be experienced infrequently. He states that many people with this belief see sex as a necessary transaction that occurs within marriage.
The Sexual Power of Jewish Women
Dr. Krug mentions there is a Jewish law that requires men to satisfy their wives sexually. He explains that a man cannot demand sex from his wife, but a wife can demand sex from her husband. He clarifies that a man can tell his wife that he’d like to have sex, but compelling her to have sex isn’t licit. This imbalance of power can create tension when the man wants to have more sex than his wife, but he tells us Orthodox couples often mitigate this disparity by refocusing on sex as a holy and intentional act, rather than a purely physical drive. He implies that the absence of desired sex allows men to reinforce the intimacy and holiness of sex through the delayed gratification abstinence ensures.
Family Purity Laws
Dr. Krug describes family purity laws that require men and women to separate when the woman is menstruating. During menstruation and for seven days following her period, he says that Jewish men and women cannot interact sexually. Dr. Shy describes several protective barriers many employ to fulfill this law, like sleeping in separate beds, not sharing food from the same plate, not passing things to each other, and not feeling each other’s weight. When two people sit on the same couch cushion, he explains that they feel each other’s weight when they move; he informs us that Orthodox Jews avoid doing this during this part of a woman’s cycle to avoid the desire to touch each other that such closeness might incite. While the Bible does not give the reason behind these restrictions, he informs us that Talmudic sources extrapolate that physical distance encourages couples to focus on the verbal and emotional elements of their marriage and maintain the excitement of sex.
Premarital Sex
Dr. Shy asserts that premarital sex is prohibited in Judaism. He informs us that some Jews will avoid all physical contact with potential mates and many Jews avoid being alone with each other altogether. He informs us that in the most right-wing forms of Judaism, girls and boys are kept apart and schooled separately, allowing them to reserve all sexual education until their children are old enough to marry. Some Jews, he tells us, do have premarital sex and cohabitate with partners before marriage, but those practices are not widely accepted in Orthodox communities.
About Masturbation
While he admits that some Jews do masturbate or utilize pornography, he points out the clear Biblical prohibition of masturbation, which he defines as the spilling of seed to avoid pregnancy. By contrast, he explains that because women do not spill their seed, they are permitted to masturbate, but they are advised to restrict the frequency of their masturbation and focus on maintaining their marriage’s intimacy first and foremost.
Sex Ed in Jewish Orthodoxy
Sects vary in their approaches, but he describes the modern Orthodox sect teaches about sexual health, puberty, relationships, and communication in middle school. By high school, he informs us that students are educated about masturbation, pornography, and healthy sex practices. He says that modern Judaism acknowledges that people are sexual beings and that it’s important to acknowledge and understand human sexuality. He explains that marriage classes also inform the youths of the laws surrounding marital relations, family purity, and the ritual baths women must take monthly. He says that developing intimacy, foreplay, and discussing the origins of sex outside of the bedroom are also covered in these classes, though he tells ...
#32: Beth Liebling - Darling Way
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08/06/18 • 28 min
In this episode, Beth talks about how she started and founded the Darling Way after her 22-year marriage ended with a divorce. She shares how her shop started after an awful experience buying a lingerie for herself. Her store’s concept is about embracing the fact that it’s okay to be silly, fun, and excited or just a light-hearted approach to the serious topic of sexy fun.
What’s in the Shop?
The Darling Way, as Beth describes it, carries everything fun, flirty, frisky, and fetish. From high-end lingeries, to more affordable lingerie, lotions, potions, lubricants, massage oils, candles, scents, pheromone sprays, stimulating creams, gels, vibrations, whips, chains, anything that people can use to have sexy fun. They also offer different kinds of workshops like Flogging Fun for Nice People, and another about oral sex. Tune in to find out more!
The Shop Experience
This part is all about what customers can expect from going to their store. Beth and her staff — her son and daughter-in-law, go all out to help clients get comfortable in their body by finding something they like. The emphasis is really in creating a fun and memorable experience for each person that comes in. Their promise? If you feel unloved, they will love you until you learn to love yourself!
Making the Customers Comfortable Talking About Sex
“We are just open.” — Beth’s remark when asked how they make customers feel comfortable talking about sex. Listen as Beth walks us through the importance of allowing people time to adjust and become comfortable talking about things that are uncomfortable. She also tells us a story about a just-married couple who visited their shop on their wedding day.
Beth’s Message
There are a lot of people hesitant to talk about sexy fun — that’s for sure! But for Beth, it is paramount that they take care of their clients no matter how far. She always makes sure that she’s available to attend to her customers’ needs and even offers personal shopping on the phone. One thing she encourages everyone to do is to feel free to laugh, because “it’s okay!” They’re available to help you embrace pleasure without the guilt!
Beth’s Book
Beth’s new book, Love and Laughter: Sexy (Meaningful) Fun for Everyone is written for women — to help them learn to get comfortable and pay attention to their bodies, show them how they can become good lovers- not for anyone’s sake, but for their own, and the different opportunities to have pure sexy fun.
About Beth Liebling
Beth Liebling is many things—a former board-certified family lawyer, host of the radio show/podcast Love and Laughter with Beth (ESPN Houston 97.5Fm and Itunes), author of the new book Love and Laughter: Sexy (Meaningful) Fun for Everyone.
A mother of five, and a grandmother of one, Beth is the family-forward founder of Darling Way, a sexy luxury boutique in the historic Houston Heights.
She has extensive experience speaking publicly, most obviously on her own radio show and on her additional weekly appearance on "The Blitz," both on ESPN Houston Radio 97.5fm. She also leads workshops and discussions regularly in Houston at Darling Way and other venues, has been a speaker at B2B conferences.
She broke down unspoken barriers in Dallas when she was invited by BC/BS to speak at their Active Living Expo for Senior Citizens about Passion at any Age.
Links and How to contact Beth
Beth’s shop, Darling Way - https://darlingway.com/
Twitter - https://twitter.com/darling_way
Instagram - http://instagram.com/darlingwayboutique
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/darlingwayboutique
Beth’s radio show, Love and Laughter with Beth - https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/love-and-laughter-with-beth/id1234787448?mt=2
Beth’s latest book, Love and Laughter: Sexy (Meaningful) Fun for Everyone - https://www.amazon.com/Love-Laughter-Sexy-Meaningful-Everyone-ebook/dp/B078VN3Z8W
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07/16/18 • 35 min
Some people don't realize that sex should never hurt and other people, even though they realize sex should hurt, just have nowhere to go. The doctors aren't helpful, they're not finding providers that know anything about this, it seems mysterious, there's not any visible obvious problem, and so they're struggling.
And they're struggling in their relationship too because it causes a lot of strain. If sex is not enjoyable people often start avoiding it or they're arguing about it or they're confused and hurt, but it just it goes downhill fast.
Maegan Megginson joins me today and she really specializes her practice on working with clients with sexual pain. She works with both individuals and couples. She's a marriage and family therapist and a certified sex therapist.
What are the types of sexual pain?
We go into detail about the two main categories of sexual pain, external and internal. We cover how you can differentiate these kinds of pain, how to talk to your healthcare provider about the pain, and we offer resources for you to learn more about your individual sexual pain experience.
There are what are the kinds of issues people face?
Sex should never be painful. And many people don't understand this, because they have either experienced pain from the start or they have gone to their healthcare professional who has not provided an accurate diagnosis or effective treatment protocol.
Maegan states, "I can't think of one client I've had who has not had at least one shameful experience when seeing a doctor."
We give tips and tools for going to your appointments prepared and informed, to help you get the help you need and deserve.
What are the conditions that caused the pain?
Sexual pain is a symptom of a condition or experience which is completely treatable. And many women can experience healing and progress from Day 1.
What are the treatment options and how broad are the effects?
We talk about treatment options and how you can find a good, sexual-informed provider to help you if you are experiencing sexual pain.
Pain as a "Player"
It's important to find someone or a team of supporters because sexual pain can have a dramatic impact on your relationship. The sexual struggles will eventually lead to emotional challenges. Maegan and I both agree the pain can become "a player" in the relationship, an "elephant in the room" which nobody understands.
You are not broken
It's important for people to understand what's going on and to start to get relief and help immediately. You are not broken or defective and relief is available.
Background and Links
Maegan Megginson is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist. She is the owner and clinical director of The Center for Couples & Sex Therapy in Portland, Oregon.
Maegan specializes in working with women and their partners who are suffering from sexual pain. She understands the complexities of these conditions and is passionate about helping clients heal from the traumatic impact of sexual pain.
Website - http://ccstpdx.com/
Facebook - https://facebook.com/Couplesandsextherapy/
The Vulvar Clinic at OHSU -
https://ohsu.edu/xd/health/services/women/services/gynecology-and-obstetrics/services/vulvar-health-program/vulvar-services.cfm
Resources
• https://www.amazon.com/When-Sex-Hurts-Womans-Banishing-ebook/dp/B004JN0FCW
• https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform-ebook/dp/B00LD1ORBI/
• https://www.amazon.com/Emotionally-Focused-Couple-Therapy-Dummies-ebook/dp/B00ET1ULIM/
More info:
Web - https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/
Sex Health Quiz - http://sexhealthquiz.com/
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08/10/20 • 38 min
3 years ago Ode discovered Flow – The Psychology of Optimal Performance and picked up dancing again after so many years of not dancing regularly. This reversed her stressed-induced high blood pressure diagnosis within eleven months. Now, she uses dance as a mechanism to help her clients alleviate stress-related anxiety that hinders performance, and to spark creative insight to problem-solving in various work, learning and life environments.
Flow State
Ode joins me on this episode and discusses using dance to access a flow-state. Her first experience with flow state was through dance. According to Ode, research shows that flow improves anything you apply it to.
While flow may seem a spiritual experience, Ode explains that flow is exhibited by highly successful people. For many of us, we would have heard it referred to as “peak performance.”
DOSE
As a testament to the success of flow state, Ode shares that it transformed her sex life with her partner. She explains that this is caused when neurochemicals are triggered when we move our bodies. The common chemicals released in the flow state are commonly called DOSE: Dopamine, Oxytocin, Serotonin and Endorphins.
Ode explains that the process involves the body going into a calmer state and then releasing “happy chemicals” so the activity you are doing is enjoyable. She reveals that the flow state can happen during specific activities. These are usually activities that require actively using your brain and using your senses to focus on the present. Dance is one such example.
“ Flow is intrinsically motivating” We learn that when we perform a certain action, it should be enjoyable and come naturally without being calculated.
Background
Specialist in deep embodiment, Afrojuju Dancer, peak performance researcher, and former bedside nurse, Ode has been using the tight link between beliefs and mind/body connection since she toured as a praise dancer with a prolific evangelical group partaking in missions across rural regions of West Africa for 10+ years.
She has been dancing since the age of 5, showcasing performances along the streets of her village with her dance groups. She’s vastly knowledgeable in various African dance styles, rhythms, movements and beats. She understands the neuroscience that underpins body movements and enhanced performance.
Ode holds 2 bachelor’s degrees – Management and Registered Nursing, an Associate degree in Social Works and a long-term mentorship under some of the world’s top Flow Scientists and researchers.
She lives in Naples Florida with her husband and 3 boys, avid anglers and boaters who love discovering the 1,000 islands that surround the SouthWest Florida Keys one island at a time.
Resources and Links
https://www.instagram.com/Odedixon1
https://www.facebook.com/odedixon
More info:
Book and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.com
Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com/
Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/
Better Sex with Jessa Zimmerman
https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/
Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/137-dance-flow-state-and-sex-ode-dixon
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