Been There Got Out Podcast

Embark on an enlightening journey through the often-turbulent realm of family law as Legally Nik, a UK-based child protection lawyer, offers a deep dive into the delicate balance of child welfare and parental conflict. Our discussion reveals the profound impact of family dynamics on children, especially during separations fraught with domestic disputes. Nik shares her wealth of experience in safeguarding children, advocating for peace over strife, and training social workers to navigate these sensitive issues. This episode is a masterclass in understanding the nuanced responsibilities of those involved in child protection, providing insights that reach beyond the legal framework to touch on the core of human relationships.
For those entangled in the webs of custody battles, our conversation sheds light on the emotional consequences that parental disagreements can have on the youngest members of the family. We explore alternatives to the adversarial court system, such as mediation and parenting apps, and consider how these options might spare children from becoming collateral damage in their parents' disputes. This episode doesn't just highlight the problems; it offers a beacon of hope for resolving conflicts constructively. By focusing on communication and understanding, we underscore the idea that the most effective solutions often emerge from outside the courtroom.
In a poignant finale, we grapple with the complexities of parental alienation and its influence on child custody. We recount the struggles of non-resident parents to maintain meaningful relationships with their children, and we delve into the role of CAFCAS in family court decisions. Nik imparts essential information on keeping a level head and heart in the face of parenting challenges, ensuring that the child's emotional safety remains paramount. As we wrap up, there's a collective sense of gratitude for the shared wisdom and an enthusiastic look ahead to future episodes that will tackle the intricate topic of working with evaluators. Join us for this compelling episode that is as informative as it is moving, providing a much-needed perspective on the intersection of law and family life.

In this episode of the Been There Got Out Podcast, which gets pretty intense, we welcome our friend Katie (Instagram @kwg19). 20 years after escaping with her children to a women's shelter, she reflects back on getting help where she least expected it, the horror of family court, and the long-term effects of her experience on herself and her children.
Remember, if you are struggling in a high-conflict relationship, divorce, custody battle, or co-parenting hell which requires PERSONALIZED attention, let us HOLD YOUR HAND along the way, while providing EXPERT, STRATEGIC guidance based on one's years of success (representing myself in court!), coupled with the other's High Conflict Divorce Coach certification.
Recorded October 12th, 2021

Parenting expert Clarissa joins us to unravel the myth of the perfect parent and provide a deeper understanding of how to navigate the complexities of raising children. She introduces her innovative Foundations of Connection framework, designed to aid parents in fostering better communication and building deeper connections with their children by creating a safe and non-judgmental environment. Together, we uncover the pervasive guilt and societal pressures that burden many parents, especially during difficult transitions like divorce and co-parenting, emphasizing the importance of focusing on genuine relationships rather than unattainable ideals.
We shed light on the emotional rollercoaster faced by parents going through divorce, particularly in high-conflict situations. Clarissa offers invaluable insights on embracing self-compassion and letting go of guilt, encouraging parents to focus on the quality of their time with children instead of quantity. By using techniques such as visualization to manage ruminating thoughts and creating new family traditions, parents can shift their focus forward, ensuring healthier family dynamics despite the challenges they face.
Effective communication and self-regulation take center stage as we discuss strategies for maintaining a calm and stable home environment, crucial for children transitioning between households. Clarissa provides practical advice on interacting with teenagers, emphasizing the importance of patience and understanding as they navigate their complex development. We explore the significance of active listening and empowering children with agency in conflict resolution, promoting collaboration and eliminating judgment to challenge the unrealistic myth of perfection in parenting.

Unlock the secrets of cybersecurity and personal safety with Greg Glassock, the seasoned CEO of Olympic Tactical, as he joins us for an enthralling conversation that dives deep into the shadowy corners of digital vulnerabilities. Whether you're intrigued by the risks associated with wired smoke alarms, or you're battling the unease of a hacked phone, Greg's compelling blend of professional expertise and personal experience from his law enforcement background provides a rich tapestry of insights and empathy. He generously shares his top strategies for crafting unbreakable passwords and advocates for secure password management apps, arming you with the know-how to safeguard your digital domain.
As we journey further, Greg illuminates the complexities of tracking devices like Apple tags, revealing how they straddle the line between protection and privacy invasion. With clear, step-by-step guidance, he charts a course for bolstering personal safety against the threats posed by stalkers and abusers, some with chilling access to law enforcement tools. Greg's captivating narrative doesn't shy away from the stark realities, instead offering a treasure trove of practical advice—from altering routines to conducting bug sweeps—ensuring you're well-equipped to shield your privacy in both the digital space and the physical world.
Rounding out this critical dialogue, Greg underscores the importance of diligent online security and the art of evidence preservation. With an eye toward the future, he highlights the virtues of encrypted communication and confronts the challenges posed by omnipresent smart devices. Concluding with the essential practice of digital hygiene, this session is a testament to Greg's deep knowledge and our shared commitment to empowering you to maintain a robust defense against the ever-evolving landscape of technological threats. Tune in for an episode that's not just informative but a true lifeline in our interconnected society.

Witnessing a client's tragedy can irreversibly change a professional's career path, a reality Lianne Houssami from Upshift Legal Solutions knows all too well. Her experience with a client's suicide led her away from family law, only to return with a mission to revolutionize the field. Our heartfelt discussion with Lianne peels back the layers of her journey, emphasizing the power of direct, honest communication between lawyers and clients. She stresses that glossing over the harsh truths does a disservice to those seeking guidance through the labyrinth of family law, and how her approach is shaping client outcomes.
The legal world can often seem like an exclusive club where only those with deep pockets gain entry. Leanne challenges this notion, introducing us to the concept of unbundled legal services, which is redefining affordability and access in the legal system. This approach to legal counsel provides clients with the autonomy to manage their case with selective professional support, a model that's gaining traction despite some lingering professional skepticism. We also confront the emotional and psychological toll of contentious litigation, questioning the effectiveness of the adversarial court system for family matters and exploring more compassionate alternatives that consider the well-being of families beyond the courtroom.
Finally, we step into the realm of enforcing family law judgments, with Lianne illuminating Alberta's robust Maintenance Enforcement and Recalculation Programs. These initiatives alleviate the strain between parties by streamlining support payments and adapting to income fluctuations. Lianne's insights underscore the significance of such programs and the broader impact advocacy can have on legal reform. As our conversation concludes, it's evident that Lianne's work with Upshift Legal Solutions is not only about legal representation but also about equipping the community with the knowledge to navigate the complexities of family law. Join us for an episode that transcends legal jargon, offering a beacon of hope and change for families entangled in legal disputes.